The 11 year old girl contended with her brother for 20 days: she wanted to starve herself to death.

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 The 11 year old girl contended with her brother for 20 days: she wanted to starve herself to death.


After giving birth to two treasures, I had to leave the moon for a long time, so I had to take the big problem to seek medical treatment. After more than a months examination, both mother and daughter finally stood in front of Sun Ling, the director of the hospitals adolescent psychology department, who had been diagnosed with a mild compatriot competition barrier. In recent years, there are more and more children who have been born because of their younger siblings. There are more and more children who have come to visit with emotional and psychological problems because of their siblings. Sun Ling said that the childs problem was rooted in family education. She suggested parents: understanding children is more important than preaching. Mom, I like you to take me to the hospital. Once I was the only little princess in my family, the whole family turned around her. Until the beginning of this year, mother gave birth to her little sister, and suddenly failed to defend herself. In order to take care of the two treasures, my mother took the two treasures into the grandmothers house to sit on the moon, and then stayed with her grandparents. Since the two distances are far away, dad drives every weekend to see her mother and sister, for fear of having a rest and just leave every time. However, a week after the birth of her sister, grandma began to complain to YYu every day on the phone: the leisurely temper is becoming more and more strange, often indescribable and crying, may be a moods. However, the situation became more and more intense, and a lot of trouble became more and more serious. At first she shouted headaches, dizziness, and later said that all kinds of illusions of patterns and colors were all the time. Grandpa and grandma were frightened and felt that their child must be ill. Yo yo came out of the moon and took a leisurely visit to the doctor. On the one hand, the child is small and the expression is not clear; on the other hand, the causes of dizziness are often very complicated. In order to eliminate the functional abnormalities of the organs, the family run all over the Tianjin citys eye, ear, nose hospital, light ophthalmology hospital has run 3 times, can check the items are checked, what problems have not been checked out. In the Department of ENT, the doctor initially thought that the vestibule function of the child might be a problem causing vertigo, and the results showed that everything was normal, so it was suggested to check the ophthalmology. After repeated confirmation by ophthalmologists, it is suggested that they check neurology, lets see if there is any problem with the brain. Do everything possible to hang up the childrens Hospital neurology expert number, the doctor suggested that MRI for further examination. I saw the little leisurely lie on the big nuclear magnetic resonance instrument. I never expected that the cowardly, but always very cooperative, every time in the hospital, she always behaves well and is different from home. The process of seeing a doctor is full of difficulties, and the pediatrics in all the major hospitals have always been overcrowded. Every time he sees a disease, it often needs 3 adults to come together. For more than a month, the whole family is trapped in the painful cycle of endless running the hospital, queuing, registration, medical care, and so on. For YYu, the most torturous thing is to wait for the results to be checked. My heart is going to break through my throat. I want to know where the child is going out of trouble, and its particularly afraid to find out whats wrong with it. To her surprise, as she waited in a nervous line to wait for the results, she raised her head to her and said, Mom, I like you to take me to the hospital. In order to pay attention, a 11 year old girl refused to eat for 20 days to starve herself to death. Few people can make it clear that the birth of another child will have a great impact on the first child of the family, but one of the most realistic changes is that the boss has to learn to share the love of the big people with the new opponent. Such memories and feelings, or deep or shallow, will be engraved on their whole life style, and some will even affect their whole life. Sun Ling said that with the increase in the number of second child families in recent years, sibling competition barriers are no longer a minority topic, and should attract more attention. As long as yo yo, many families show a variety of symptoms, and even sound amazing, but these are both intentional and unintentional performance, all of which are to re grab their parents attention and love from the opponent. I know you love me, but every day I want to kill you and my sister. A girl in grade three told her mother straightforwardly. 7 year old boy Tao Tao, since his brother was born after becoming angry, he always started to fight, often pinching the inside of his brothers inner thighs with purple red, even with a quilt on his brothers head. Because more and more naughty, Tao Tao was repeatedly beaten by his parents. Until his performance in school became worse and worse, the teacher asked parents to ask them to stop classes many times before their parents noticed that their children had mental problems. Sun Ling first saw Xiao Qing in a joint consultation at the childrens hospital. She was full of pipes and was dying. The 11 year old girl had been skinny, and 20 Yu Tian was sent to the hospital for repeated nausea, vomiting and anorexia, but no organic disease was found in physical and chemical tests. After understanding, Xiao Qings parents divorced and her mother had a half brother after remarriage. From then on, Xiao Qing not only was full of hostility to his brother, but also asked her mother to stay with himself, refuse to go to school, even degenerate to drink water from a bottle and feed his parents. After being repeatedly criticized by her parents, she began to develop symptoms of vomiting and anorexia. After many times of sun Lings communication, the child said frankly, I wanted to starve myself to death, and I was very happy to see them in such a hurry. Over the past two years, the attendance rate of such children has increased significantly, and many cases are seen every month. There are only a few cases in the past year. Sun Ling said that more serious symptoms often affect their learning and life, and more problem children may be less extreme because they do not pay enough attention to them. She explained that the sibling competition means that with the birth of younger brothers and sisters, children have some degree of emotional disorder. There are great individual differences in degree and form of expression. The main manifestation is three aspects, showing obvious competition or jealousy, such as obvious hostility or aggression to siblings, emotional and behavioral disorders, such as temper tantrums, or degradation of various abilities, which can not control the size and stool, imitating the babys lift. It requires feeding, urine, sleeping and so on. Social functions are impaired, such as poor academic performance, interpersonal tension, and various psychosocial problems. In fact, normal children may also cause emotional problems due to jealousy from their sister-in-law, but it will be mild and will disappear in the short term. Sun Ling said that children with competitive barriers to compatriots, the negative emotions often last for a long time, and the degree of abnormality, can lead to significant harm or adverse consequences. If not adjusted in time, it may lead to extreme behavior, or have a great impact on their future emotional management and interpersonal relationships. Parents understanding and love are the best medicine for childrens heart disease. Family rearing patterns and childrens personality traits are the reasons for their childrens competitive barriers. Family education is more important. Generally speaking, establishing a safe attachment to children within 3 years of age is extremely important for their physical and mental growth in the future. Sun Ling said. She noted that some problems often fail to get enough sense of security from parents. Some parents often travel, or simply give their children to the elderly; also some parents own emotional control is not good, causing children to be particularly sensitive to the surrounding environment, not willing to actively interact with the outside world. The unsafe attachment children tend to show more jealousy and negative emotions when their mothers attention is placed on the two treasure. They are not sure about the availability of their mothers love, lest they will be ignored by their sister-in-law. Sun Ling suggested that the parents of the second child should first put their children into the family, each of them is an indispensable member. From the beginning of pregnancy to the birth of the two treasure, Dabao knows and participates in the whole process, making him appreciate his own value at home. At the same time, let the children understand that no one will take the place of their parents. For children who have already had emotional problems, if parents speak big reason or criticize education, they will lead to childrens rebellion. It is suggested that parents need more care and companionship for these children. They can take a way of neglect or transfer, guide their emotions to fade and improve, or tolerate their degradation into small babies, and discuss and communicate with children more, and guide their attention to their interest. No one knows more about their children than their parents. Sun Ling believes that parents should take the initiative to understand the distress of their children, better understand their children, and let them feel enough love, which is the best cure for children. (the article is minors are aliases) this article source: China Youth Daily Author: Hu Chunyan editor in charge: Fan Jiang Guo Yi _NN9138 At the same time, let the children understand that no one will take the place of their parents. For children who have already had emotional problems, if parents speak big reason or criticize education, they will lead to childrens rebellion. It is suggested that parents need more care and companionship for these children. They can take a way of neglect or transfer, guide their emotions to fade and improve, or tolerate their degradation into small babies, and discuss and communicate with children more, and guide their attention to their interest. (the minors in the text are all pseudonyms)