uff082uff09 Be careful of indifference. What do you warm yourself? Everyone exists in different ways. But it can be divided into two forms of existence, one in some ways: initiative, creativity, development, and actual presence. The other is to have nothing: it represents emptiness, passivity, dependence on others giving, and some sense of self existence. In the healthy personality and mature ability, it is in the form of have far greater than nothing, and has a sense of self-worth. People with immature personality, such as those who live in anxiety, resentment and self pity, are mostly in dependent environment, dependent on other peoples care, recognition and acceptance to feel their existence. As if your present is living in the past, and with the lack of love, lack of warmth, lack of trust and exist. You and your family, and the world, across a wall, that is the lack of love hate. If you want to feel warm and want to get in and out, try to push the wall away. Why do you want you to push it away? Because, compared with the parents of the original family, you are the main body in the growth. You should be the main body to choose what kind of life and what kind of life you choose. And first of all, do you choose to continue to be indifferent to your family, or to forgive them and let go of your apathy?
In the past or present, many people in the world have experienced the pain from society or family, but how to face their own suffering is a very difficult thing for all living beings. As a social person, the pain event itself is not important, but how to deal with the pain (for example, facing or escaping) is the key to determine whether the people are divided. Dostoevsky said, I am afraid of only one thing: I am not worthy of my suffering.. If you accept this idea, then consider: clear the grudges in your heart first, and then fill in your own content. After doing so, there are good reasons to be motivated and it is worth it. When the ego bears nothingness, it is unavoidable that the empty heart needs to be filled with something valuable. To remove the inner resentment, at least part of it, the warm content can enter. Only when people live a full life can they have the strength to radiate warmth. If youve let go and feel the need to connect with your family, you can also think: how do you build a relationship with yourself? What are you going to fill yourself with today? What kind of existence is to enrich and satisfy oneself? You will believe in yourself.