Jiangxi girl returned 220000 betrothal gifts and was chopped to death by her fiance with 70 Knives: those who advise you not to accept betrothal gifts are harming you!

 Jiangxi girl returned 220000 betrothal gifts and was chopped to death by her fiance with 70 Knives: those who advise you not to accept betrothal gifts are harming you!

How many betrothal gifts to marry a daughter-in-law now?

This problem is no stranger to many people.

Whether its cars, house tickets, or legendary hardware, change fees, are not a small expense.

Marriage is the best way to get married.

But as soon as it is stained with money, it will change its flavor, and even be forced into a money transaction by some people.

The most important thing is that we are not afraid of talking about money will hurt our feelings, but we are afraid that talking about money will hurt our lives.

There is nothing wrong with betrothal gifts, but to ask for them by force is to seek wealth and murder!

Even if I return the betrothal, I will kill her too!

Jiangxi, the legendary disaster area of sky high price betrothal gifts.

Just last year, Yingtan City had a blood case due to betrothal gifts.

The girl had more than 70 knives and was chopped to death by her fiance.

Looking back at the whole tragedy, you can see that this young man and woman did not get to this point.

Like her peers, she left school early and went out to work. In her early twenties, she was promoted to the stage of blind date by her parents.

Xu Jun, a 25-year-old from the same village, was also under pressure to urge her to marry.

In the eyes of big cities, people in their 20s are just the beginning of their life, but in the relatively traditional rural areas, this age is already the time to have to get married.

After 22 days, they went through blind date, seeing each other and getting engaged. They changed from strangers to nominal couples.

The local custom of sky high betrothal gifts buried the initial hidden danger for this tragedy.

Among them, there are 228000 betrothal gifts, 40000 meeting gifts, 35000 jewelry playing money, door-to-door money, etc., which together have exceeded 300000 yuan.

This does not include Xu Juns expenses for renovating his old house, buying a car with a loan, and entertaining guests for the wedding.

The supermarket opened by Xu family downstairs

But in order to let the 25-year-old older youth marry a daughter-in-law, the Xu Jun family still gnawed their teeth out.

The key problem is that in the matchmakers mouth, it is easy for Xu Juns family to take out the money, and even there are hundreds of thousands of savings in the family.

Therefore, when ye ye ye finds out the truth, the marriage, which has no emotional basis, is in imminent danger.

According to local customs, the man and woman after engagement are already husband and wife. They should live together in the mans house.

As for the betrothal money received before, ye ye also plans to refund 320000, which is also the cash received.

Ye Yes chat record, called total feeling wrong

On the one hand, the families of both sides also fantasized that the couple could get back together.

After the tragedy, it was recalled that Xu Jun had threatened before he started his work

Unfortunately, time can not be reversed, at that time the Ye family did not find the idea of the son-in-law to be.

From February to April, the couple, who should have been officially certified, remained silent.

And all of this, ended on April 12, 2019, Xu Jun targeted his daughter-in-law without warning.

The murder occurred in YeYes room on the second floor

We have no way to know, what kind of deep hatred, will make such a cruel act.

But in the straw that crushed Xu Juns psychological defense line, there must be a high price betrothal gift.

Because of a betrothal gift far beyond the scope of tolerance, two families were destroyed and two young girls were destroyed.

In recent years, Xu Jun and ye ye are not the only ones who have been ruined by the price of betrothal gifts.

Before the national day, a video of a man beating his girlfriend on the street spread all over the network.

Just as all the people who saw the title were ready to scold the man, the content of the video was silent.

He and his girlfriend, have two years of good feelings, this came to the stage of marriage, but when the woman mentioned the betrothal gifts, everything suddenly stopped.

At first, the woman asked to buy a house of 1.5 million yuan. The young man bit his teeth, emptied his parents savings and bought it.

As a result, the woman went on to ask for 300000 betrothal gifts.

As a result, she did not want to break up, and did not want to lower the standard of betrothal gifts.

The young man didnt agree, so he was beaten up on the unit for three times and four times.

For four months, the young man couldnt bear it. He broke out in the street and started to work.

As a bystander, I just want to ask a question after sighing:

Why once deeply loved people, but finally to the eyes of only money?

If the young mans life and work have not been completely destroyed by betrothal gifts,

Another young mans life, however, fell into an endless abyss because of the word betrothal gift.

Because of the betrothal gifts, he lost his unborn child, his congenial girlfriend, and finally his own mother.

The man, surnamed Fu, was drunk and remembered that he had planned to marry his pregnant girlfriend, but his mother refused to accept the bride price.

As a result, the woman beat the child out.

The more he thought about it, the more angry he was. He chased his mother with the strength of wine and hit her in the back of the head.

Finally, his mother died, and he was caught on the way.

How many people, who have lost their fortune and borrowed from all the channels they can borrow, owe debts that can only be paid off for decades before they get married.

The amount of betrothal gifts is expanding in peoples abnormal desire for comparison and greed.

In the end, its only the newcomers themselves who suffer.

Why do I still advise you to accept betrothal gifts

Although the high price betrothal gifts have repeatedly become the driving force behind the tragedy,

However, you should be clear: the sky high betrothal gifts and betrothal gifts are absolutely not the same thing.

There is a mistake in the price of betrothal gifts;

Betrothal, no mistake.

Betrothal gifts cant be absent, and may even become the foundation for the later half of life.

The writer Ye Qingcheng explained the existence of betrothal gifts in this way

The betrothal gift is a kind of maternity insurance, disease insurance and low salary insurance in marriage for most normal families.

To put it bluntly, it is for couples, especially women, to resist the various crises of childbirth, disease and emotional discord.

When a woman does not have enough wealth, once she encounters a change in her marriage, it may be that she has no money and no money.

Imagine this scenario:

A pregnant woman who is about to give birth is betrayed by her husband.

He had no family support and no financial resources. When he got married, he didnt save a little betrothal money in his hand.

In this case, where should she go?

Many people who have not entered into marriage may fantasize that the one I love will not treat me like this.

But the reality is often unsatisfactory.

The answer of netizen @ Huangshan Village can be described as a time of stink.

He had a calculating look

In China, a mans lifetime appointment, employment of nannies, surrogacy, all womens service value added up to 4.64 million.

In 40 years, it was only 9700 or so, less than 10000, including the cost of meals.

The implication is that it doesnt take so much money to ask for a gun, a housekeeper or a surrogate child. Why should a bride be given a betrothal gift? Men get married at a loss.

His every account, let people feel that women have been calculated, exploited clearly!

The most terrible fact of marriage is that you think you have found a life to rely on, who knows that the other party is just a wolf in human skin.

Before, the topic of what difficulties do grassroots women easily have in marriage has become a hot topic.

Blogger @ linglingdaren describes the situation of ordinary women vividly and cruelly in the video.

She said that marriage is like starting a company. Many men dont have the ability to start a company when they get married. They have no investment in the operation of the company in the early stage.

After marriage, they regard making money to support the family as a way to make contributions to the company. They think that they have fulfilled all their obligations. Naturally, they have become the representatives of hands off shopkeepers and widowed parenting.

Women, on the other hand, use their own childbirth, housework and child care to maintain the companys operation.

These invisible investments are not recognized by the husband or even the society.

What women bear is the risk of canceling the company. Once the marriage is over, women will pay much more than men.

Then the appropriate betrothal gift is the most practical guarantee and the greatest confidence of the majority of grassroots women in marriage.

What is betrothal?

Comparison, selling daughters, price list?

The real meaning of betrothal gifts is the blessing of two old families to the new family, and the expectation of the previous generation for the next generation.

There are two moments in which human nature can be most exposed. One is the moment of deciding life and death, and the other is the moment of talking about money.

Betrothal gifts and betrothal gifts are exactly the greatest test of human nature.

Because we all know that a good marriage is about the future.

Zhang Ailing once said: spend his money, the heart is happy. Its not because of the greed of women that he spends his money.

I hope that every couple who are about to get married can break away from the strange circle of sky high betrothal gifts. They are not afraid to talk about money or talk about money,

With the sincerity, the true feeling and the true pay, walks the good long life road.

I also hope that parents with daughters in each family will learn to use the touchstone of betrothal gifts,

Appropriately strive for the protection and status of the daughter.

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Her brother was going to marry a daughter-in-law and wanted to buy a house and a car, and then he borrowed money from me. My child was just born, and he was in hospital. I had to spend a lot of money, so I didnt lend it. As a result, she packed up her things and went back to her mothers house to divorce me. I was so angry.

Xiao Yuan told us that he is 37 years old and is an ordinary worker. He has been married to his wife Xiaojun for three years and has a child. After marriage, the relationship between husband and wife has been very good. The only deficiency is the problem of his mothers family. Because his mothers family is lazy and poor, he takes care of everything, so that there is some estrangement between the couple.

Some time ago, the brother-in-law planned to get married and marry his daughter-in-law. Although he wanted a down payment of 200000 yuan for the house and 40000 yuan for the car, he refused because the child was hospitalized in the hospital and spent thousands of yuan every day. He only gave 7000 yuan. As a result, the wife became agitated and wanted to divorce. After that, she packed up her things and went back to her mothers home. How could he persuade him to return.

Theres nothing wrong with my brother-in-laws helping with wedding ceremonies. But since Im in a bad situation, I still give such a large sum of money and divorce if I dont give it. The wife and her family are unreasonable. They are just messing around and threatening divorce. How can we deal with this matter now? Can we get through the marriage, With doubt, we came to the womans house.

I have a reason to ask for this money, because when he married my daughter, I didnt take any betrothal gift from him, so I said a word. In the future, the younger brother of his mothers family would get married. He said more to help, and he also agreed. But now when he had to spend money, he was timid and sent people with 7000 yuan, so we were angry. Now I am in charge of this matter. He didnt give money, I wont let my daughter continue to live with him. We dont care about the child. Let him go alone. Ill say its here, said Sister Chen angrily.

His mother-in-laws words were unacceptable to Xiao Yuan. Xiao Yuan confessed that his mother-in-law did not ask him for a cent of betrothal gifts when he got married. He also promised to help his brother-in-law. However, it is not that he is unwilling to help, but that his children have such a big problem that he really has no extra money to help. Now he still has a peace seeking attitude and hopes that his mother-in-law and his brother-in-law will not do so.

In the end, the two sides broke up in a bad mood. Their mother-in-law, elder sister Chen, and his brother-in-law, Xiao Gao, both said they did not want to want a divorce. Xiao Yuan said that they would go through legal procedures.

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Xiao Xu is from Changfeng and is recently divorcing her husband. Xu said that since 2015, she has been determined to divorce her husband, but she has not been divorced. The husband hid the child in order not to divorce. Speaking of children, little Xu Lima red eyes, she said: I am also very sorry, he was cheating for the first time, I did not divorce him, but no regret medicine.

Xiaoxus family lives in Shuangdun Town, Changfeng County, and is 30 years old. Xu said she and her husband Xiao Wu met in 2011, when both worked in Beijing and got along well after meeting. They got married in 2012, and their son Lele (not his real name) was born the next year. When I first got married, he cheated, and I forgave him. The baby was just born

However, Xiao Xus forgiveness did not return to the marriage life she wanted. Xiao Xu said: I have to go to work and take care of my children. Every time I come home from work, he plays with his mobile phone in the middle of the night. He doesnt care about his home. He can change several jobs a year. Do a job as long as you are not happy, the boss said that he did not do, work too tired also do not do!

Xiao Xu said that since then, as soon as the divorce was mentioned, her husband, Xiao Wu, began to care about the situation. He not only did not want to divorce, but also put forward the hope that he and Xiao Xu could get back together. Xiao Xu said that in August this year, she filed a lawsuit for divorce in the court. Perhaps she saw that Xiao Xus mind had been decided, and Xiao Wu made out the conditions for divorce on wechat. The current situation of the house should be maintained. You should pay 100 yuan and me 80 yuan. We should pay half of the rent money from the developer. The child custody right belongs to you. I can see the child at any time, or pick up the child for a period of time. I will inform you in advance. Ill take the car and Ill take 30000, and youll have the rest.

On September 1, when the first instance was decided, Xu said the court did not support his divorce request. Xu said that after 2017, he took his children with him in Hefei, and his life has been relatively stable. Her husband, Xiao Wu, had an idea for a while. He didnt work long. He was delivering takeout and express delivery. He was still in the supermarket and so on. No one had worked long. Now, the two peoples feelings are also exhausted, in addition to quarrel or quarrel. Xiao Xu said that no matter for marriage or for her husbands conduct, she has no attachment at all, and now she just wants to end this painful marriage.

This time, she was determined to get a divorce, so she withdrew the rental house and moved her children and her things out of the two peoples rented house. Unexpectedly, this made her husband Xiao Wu angry. On Xiao Xus mobile phone, the reporter saw the chat record of the two people on the evening of September 1. The husband was very angry about Xiao Xus cancellation of the house. The next morning, he took the child away from the kindergarten and returned to his hometown. He also said to Xiao Xu: you will never want to see a child in your life. He will not be short of anything. I will give it to him when he goes to school, and he will not lack his mother. Then I will be looking for someone to replace you.

In wechat, the husband said that the child had been sent back to his hometown. Todays Xiao Xu is helpless: prosecution, the court does not see my evidence, I call the police, the police station said you did not divorce, he also has custody. Xiao Xu said that her husband did this, which made her feel unreasonable. Children need to go to school. You cant mess with children. Children are innocent.

So how does Xiao Wu explain his wifes accusations? The reporter and Xiao Xu then found the place where Xiao Wu worked. Xiao Wus explanation is that he wants to send the child back to his hometown to go to school, because Xiao Xu has been taking care of him before. As a father, he also has the right to take the child away. I took it away to cultivate affection.

Xiao Wu also has his own views on the marriage of the two. He said that his wife insisted on divorce, and all the things, including children and house, should belong to her. After all our years of living, I also paid her all my wages. Xiao Xu disdained this statement: he always said that he gave it to me, but he never said the specific amount. He knew that it was not enough for the living expenses.

In addition to blaming each other, we can see that trivial matters in the family make it really difficult for the couple to get back together. Xiao Xu says that at present, she only hopes to end her marriage with Xiao Wu as soon as possible through the courts judgment and give her children a proper placement.

The couple is about to get married. After the exposure of the chat record, the girls best friend cant see it anymore

The womans best friend complained about her friends grievances and showed the chatting records of the two lovers.

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The girls best friend said:

We Xiaoshan people all know about this matter. Everything is normal before choosing the date. After choosing the date, the friend and boyfriend actually said different things before and after pasting.

Chatting records of two lovers

A kind of

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According to the meaning of the girls best friend, the couple got along well before the paste, but the mans attitude changed greatly after the paste.

Just buy diamond ring this matter, the woman hopes to buy 1 carat, the man wants to make do with mothers first. If you want to buy another one, the budget of diamond ring and pair ring is about 40000 yuan.

Its a big thing for a girl to get married.

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Netizen @ KK mom_ Rest Salon: Ill buy a pair of rings and get married. Ill talk about diamond rings later.

Netizen @ 123 wooden man: whats the use? My wife bought one for 50000 yuan when she got married. She took it with her and put it away later. Its a waste of money. Its better to save it, and it can be used for other purposes in the future.

Netizen @ Lilith: look at the family situation, come on! I think its enough for my partner to buy me 50 points. I can accept 30 points. I dont wear diamond rings at ordinary times.

Netizen @ tomorrow night: I told you that I used it to get married. I took it with me for a week and put it in the safe. Ordinary people buy something cheaper, and they still have to live on.

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