This post it girl is so heartbreaking!

 This post it girl is so heartbreaking!

I feel so humble.

I was very puzzled and immediately asked what was wrong?

She told a story that happened in the company.

Im eating.

Im going to wait. Ive just started eating.

Suddenly, a feeling of remorse and remorse welled up in my heart.

She rushed to the office in a hurry. Only to find the door open.

I felt like a clown.

However, in her reflection on this matter, her words were full of expressions such as my fault, I shouldnt give you any trouble and I should go back to the company sooner.

This is the typical pleasing personality. Commonly known as the pleasing personality.

They rely too much on interpersonal relationships and put their position very low, very low.

The most fundamental reason for this phenomenon is the inner inferiority.

Why does l feel inferior?

Mother often stays in the room because of her physical discomfort, and does not step out of the house.

This family has neither fathers nor mothers love. As cold as an ice cellar.

From the beginning of her memory, her mother has not been involved in her growth.

If l stayed in the room, she would yell.

Mothers temper made her afraid to approach easily.

She came to the door of her mothers room and mumbled, Mom, I seem to have come there...

Her mother directly gave her 20 yuan, saying, go to the store to buy sanitary napkins.

A 13-year-old girl went to the store like this, and almost dyed her trousers red after bleeding.

After high school, her father didnt let her go to college.

The reason is, whats the use of reading so many books for a girl? Sooner or later she will get married.

Mothers indifference, fathers pedantic, let her life full of dark moments.

She became introverted and did not dare to speak out loud in the crowd.

I dont have any special skills. My whole life is almost dull.

After entering the workplace, I was called around like a post it girl. No sense of value.

She is too eager to be recognized and praised by others.

So he kept obedience and accommodation.

As long as the other party presents not happy, dissatisfied.

Because she put a label on herself - Im a nuisance.

But such humbleness can only be achieved by:

She said, no, I think Ill always be wrong.

Screenshot of my conversation with L

The round table group once invited two guests, Jiang Fangzhou and Xu Jinglei.

One is a celebrity in the host world;

One is from the cultural community.

In that show, Xu Jinglei from the performing arts circle was confident when discussing the topic.

On the other hand, Jiang Fang Zhou became more flexible.

In expounding his own views, Jiang Fangzhou appeared weak.

For example, she talks about a man writers wife who has lost her sexual appeal because of her aging.

Jiang Fangzhou stopped talking for a moment.

Jiang Fangzhou weakly replied, I think its almost the same.

The whole state of Jiang Fangzhou is like a mouse meeting a cat.

In the face of other peoples questions or doubts, she dare not refute.

The answer was not firm.

Jiang Fangzhou also echoed most of the discussions that followed.

Round table is originally a chat reality show, and should express their own opinions freely.


Its because of her ingratiating personality.

Watch carefully and please them.

Some people may ask, does Jiang Fangzhou need to please others?

He became famous at the age of nine. Graduated from Tsinghua University.

Source: Network

After graduation, he wrote and published books, and once served as deputy editor in chief of new weekly magazine.

In terms of status, it is no worse than Xu Jinglei.

But it is precisely because Jiang Fangzhous starting point is too high.

When I was young and famous, I received flowers and applause from my childhood.

The labels of gifted writer and beautiful girl writer are also firmly attached.

So, she was afraid of failure. Fear that you are not perfect in the eyes of others.

In the wonderful flower conference, Jiang Fangzhou admitted that he was a flattering personality.

She didnt dare to clash with people.

Even if the other side said what she thought was nonsense, she also said against her heart: its too right.

Source: wonderful flowers Conference

She learned to observe what she says and what she looks like and represses her real emotions and thoughts.

Always pay attention to whether you meet the expectations of others.

Ive been carrying this idea for a long time,

Let Jiang Fangzhou overburdened.

Later she chose to go to Japan alone. Cut off the Internet and read and write.

Gradually, I found myself.

I take Jiang Fangzhou as an example to explain to l:

2u3001 Pleasing personality can be corrected, and the most important thing is to regain self-confidence.

I made the following suggestions to l:

In other words, the sense of value is based on things rather than people.

All along, she has been a company - home, two first line.

Life is monotonous and boring.

It can also be learning a skill.

For example, I got the certificate of junior accountant this year.

In short, enrich yourself.

To achieve success in something will double our self-confidence and increase our own shining point.

2u3001 Learn to say no.

We must learn to refuse.

A B station up summed up 8 words gold sentence: its none of my business, none of your business.

Source: bilibilibili Wu Buyi

I also told l about this method.

Then answer: its none of my business.

Colleague B said, L, you are not doing the right account. You should do this.

Then she said, its none of your business.

As a professional, you should have your own independent thinking.

Instead of being led by the nose.

Everyones time is precious and should be spent on valuable points.

People who are habitually ingratiating have no ego.

Its like the bank executives in the Japanese drama pasted..

He is a lonesome man by nature.

Gradually, I was labeled negatively by my colleagues.

He tried to tear it off, but the labels were like growing his flesh, and they couldnt be torn off.

Source: bilibilibili

He was upset and began to ingratiate himself with his colleagues.

Coffee delivery;

They even stray from work.

He received more and more praise tags.

The attitude of those colleagues who used to be close to him changed 360 degrees.

The first praise, all turned into satire.

He shed tears of regret, and the label on his body miraculously disappeared.

He finally understood that peoples minds are changeable, and he still wants to live for himself.

From a psychological point of view, it is to put your core attention on your feelings when you are communicating with others.

For example, you eat with your friends.

Doesnt she look right?

Did I do something wrong?


Li Xue also called it creating a rich experience..

For example, when we eat, we may just chew and swallow. Hardly think about anything.

Then you can try to ask yourself:

Whats the taste of the dish?

Do you like it?

Would you like to change the restaurant next time?


It is said that Wu Zhihong has a habit of practicing meditation. The goal is to find yourself by focusing on the feelings of the moment.

Of course, it is not recommended to meditate.

Instead, if you want to improve your ingratiating habits, try this: focus on how you feel right now.

Stay more.

Think more.

It is not easy to get rid of the habit of flattery. But self building is the first and most critical step.