2u3001 Do you know what you want? This aspect also includes what you want in your marriage, what you are satisfied with (of course, both of you have been satisfied in the early stage of marriage), what you have invested in and contributed to the construction of the marriage? What kind of effect does your attitude and practice have when marriage goes wrong? If you have the need to save your marriage, you have to start with your behavior change, put down your resentment, and insist on caring about the relationship until he / she feels that there is temperature in your relationship and there is hope for a change of heart... Note, the premise is that you are not sure you have the need to repair the marriage. If we are under the premise of dialogue, we may have to analyze and discuss more issues, and we may have a deeper and more thorough understanding of the issues. In the case of words, we have to ask reflective questions for your consideration. Here, I would like to talk about my views on marriage. (1) The relationship between love and marriage. In a broad sense, love is a persons temperament, a warm feeling, narrow in the intimate relationship, love is to pour special or special warmth into another person. Marriage is first of all a social system and a contract for two people to live together. So in essence, love and marriage are two different things. They are both separated and closely connected. At least life facts tell us: love is free, marriage is restrictive. In life, there are not only marriage with love, but also marriage without love and even without sex. (2) When love is lost in marriage. Before entering into marriage, people are very clear about what they are getting married for, but they cant know where their marriage will go. It is difficult for us to judge whether marriage is the grave of love? Its also hard to predict whether a loving marriage will last longer, or a loveless but responsible marriage will last longer? But we can be sure that the foundation of a stable and warm marriage is to meet the balanced needs of both parties. In other words, the guarantee of marriage is a relatively balanced relationship between giving and obtaining. Therefore, when we dont feel love in marriage, it may not be that love is really lost, but the foundation of marriage has long been problematic.
It is just that most people, when there are small cracks in their marriage, blindly question each others love, and then form a bargain between the two sides... This mode itself immediately becomes a hostile relationship that hurts each other. In a marriage in conflict or entanglement, it is not so much that both parties feel that they have no love, but rather that the imbalance of relationship frustrates love. If you want to repair the relationship, you need to reflect. Where are the points that lead to the rift or imbalance? Do you have the will and confidence to negotiate the restoration of marriage? Of course, if you want to leave the marriage without love and temperature, and have the conditions and courage to leave, you may as well walk out of the marriage rationally.