Indeed, these words do look and sound like bullshit..
If couples or couples eliminate all the nonsense, I am afraid that the content of the chat can only be some big things.
We are all ordinary people. Maybe we can only afford one house in our life. Maybe the car cant be replaced until it is scrapped.
No wonder Wang Zhiwen, who was still single at the age of 40, said: the girl he is looking for is a person who can chat with him anytime, anywhere.
In real life, there are many men who feel the same way with Wang Zhiwen, but different from Wang Zhiwen, most of them have girlfriends or wives.
Most men, however, feel that their partner doesnt meet the chat anywhere standard.
At the end of the day, I feel that chatting with my partner is too boring and boring.
Why do men find their partner boring?
When a man tells a woman something new or a love letter.
He is looking forward to the womans reply, feeling the same emotion as him, excited, happy, happy and excited.
At this time, the man just lit the fire, immediately by a basin of ice water.
If there are more such things between two people, men naturally have no idea and impulse to chat with their women.
And when women are eager to communicate with men, they often encounter mens refusal.
2. They are not on the same channel
Women always have no resistance to cute expression bags. If you send one or two to your partner occasionally, men may find women cute and childish.
However, if two peoples chat records, the woman uses the expression bag, then the man said seriously, will think that the woman did not respect him.
A few expression bags are icing on the cake, so that men can feel the little girl living in a womans heart through the cute expression bag.
With more facial expressions, a man will feel that he is perfunctory when he is chatting with him. She doesnt care what he says, and then he thinks a lot.
3. He is wife stone, but she is gone
It has been said on the Internet that:
When chatting on wechat, people who love you go to dinner, and they will tell you before eating and contact you after dinner.
If someone who doesnt love you goes to dinner, you will doubt that the other party is not going to eat at all, but planting rice.
When the two chatted, the man was full of enthusiasm. In the future, he was only half chatting. The first half was not over. Suddenly, he became a one-man monologue.
At this time, the man like a wife stone in general with a mobile phone, but also failed to receive the other partys reply.
Even have to suspect that women must have learned the instant transfer method, the last second is still here, the next second has been the end of the world.
4. He is Im here, but shes auto blocking
Whether it is perfunctory or facial expression package, chat no shadow or, at least also received the other partys reply.
This chat mode, I believe no man can accept.
Here the man gives the woman the feeling is: I have been here all the time, but the woman gives the man the feeling is, she has set up the automatic shielding function to him.
Its not that she didnt see his message, she just pretended not to see his name.
What do men really want?
If you want to have a pleasant chat with a man, some women cant get the gist all the time. Their original intention is good, but it turns out to be the opposite.
The more you want to close the relationship with men, the more alienated, indifferent and indifferent.
Women cant help but doubt that men always say its boring to chat with themselves. What does he want?
What men want is very simple. In a word, they want to get emotional value in chatting.
What is emotional value?
Emotional value is: through the expression of their own emotions, we can make ourselves and the other party produce the same frequency resonance at the same time, enhance the two peoples feelings, and make them more intimate, stronger and more seamless.
For example: its also fried by my boyfriend
A: Honey, youre too hard. You look good to eat!
B: Youre all fried up.
Its the same time when your boyfriend is depressed
A: I can understand your mood. It doesnt matter. Im always by your side.
B: A big man, what cant you think of?
Its the same guy whos wearing a new dress
A: Good taste. The clothes match your temperament
B: How much was the dress? 50% discount for XX shopping mall
A makes people feel more comfortable. She can grasp the mood of the other party at the moment, and what she says is in line with his mood at the moment.
In the process of chatting, how can women enhance their emotional value?
There is no such thing as empathy.
No matter how close the relationship is, the pain and suffering that happens to one person cant be realized by another person.
All we can do is identify emotionally.
As an adult, what he wants to hear is not truth, because he knows all the truth, which may be more comprehensive than that of a girl.
What men want is the affirmation, identification and company of their partners.
If you really feel that your language ability is average, you can sit beside him and hold his hand tightly, so that he can feel the love and power from our body to him.
If company is a luxury, wechat voice call is OK.
At least in the process of speaking, he can feel your tone, tone of voice and sigh for his anxiety.
The last choice is words.
The Chinese characters are extensive and profound. Different pronunciations may have different meanings for the same sentence.
This is the main reason why many foreigners cant learn Chinese well.
Just like we will have some friends around us, who are willing to talk at night by candlelight, and who are not willing to talk half a word.
2. Find the right way to chat
There must be at least two people to chat, so one cant talk all the time and one cant listen all the time.
Chatting needs interaction, communication, time and opportunity for each other to talk and listen.
Even if its a special cross talk show, how many guests will be invited.
Secondly, men hate to be complained, accused, questioned and disappointed when chatting. All words can be expressed in a different way.
If you want to go into a mans heart and be recognized, loved and recognized by him, women should learn the technology and art of chatting.
Finally, belittling others and improving yourself is also a big taboo in chatting.
Women do not need to deliberately improve themselves in front of men, what kind of person she is, the mans heart is more clear.
Deliberate behavior, but make their own image plummet.
3. constantly improve yourself
Womens self-improvement includes several parts:
For women, this is a lifetime can not give up.
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If women only have external image, then they will become vases after a long time.
For men, vases can only be a feast for the eyes. When better vases appear, the old ones will be put on the shelf.
Reading more, going to different places and cities, meeting more people and seeing more scenery will make womens temperament and charm completely different.
When a woman knows how to improve these two aspects, no matter who the man around her is, she will not have conflicts and disputes because of chatting.
The satisfaction provided by chatting for men is an apparent effect, and in fact, it is the women themselves who ultimately benefit from it.
When a man and you chat become interesting and interesting, the relationship gets better and closer.
Do you have any tips on how to chat with the opposite sex??
Looking forward to your message
The author Shi Qian, a marriage and family consultant, has completed Gottmans marriage and family counseling course (Level 1), long-term study of emotional focus therapy (EFT), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and has focused on the field of marriage and family counseling and treatment for five years. Firmly believe that love is a kind of ability that can be learned, and willing to accompany every one of you with love and kindness.