How not to be negatively affected by jealousy? You have to ask yourself: since jealousy is double-edged, why does jealousy have a negative impact on you? I guess the possibility is: (1) there is a very special or contradictory relationship between her and excellent. There may be something you hate about her, but if you are jealous of her, there must be something shining on her. Naturally, it is the latter that makes you angry. Jealousy, generally occurs in the familiar relationship of peers and peers. Celebrities and stars in various industries far away from us can not arouse jealousy. Possibility (2) you have low self-esteem, sensitivity and suspicion, low self-identity, or self-worth. You will be particularly sensitive to the excellence of others and to your own bad. It is easy to get angry when there is a will setback. This may be related to the deep negation in the past. Second, understand your own needs and strengths.
I think you need to face up to the fact that the fire of jealousy that affects your life seems to come from her dislike, but the source of the fire should be your own dissatisfaction with your own defects. Therefore, to fill their own lack is the only way out of the prison of jealousy. Even if its slow. You have to finish a job first: clarify what you want, what interests you have, and what strengths you have? If you have them, you can develop them and let them shine on you; if not, you can create and cultivate them, and they are still the shining points that cast you.