When graduation, the monitor hastily set up a new group and pulled you into the group.
After all, a classmate, fate is rare, after all, you must contact, so you did not want to agree.
No one pays attention to you, no one replies, and all the people in the group are silent.
You think, also, graduation season, who is so free to always look at the mobile phone, waiting for a reply message?
When you finally forget this group, one day, the new information in the group has been pushed to the news column. It is an old classmate who never speaks.
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After two or three years, the dead group suddenly came alive, accumulating 99 + messages. You were still hesitating whether to see it or not.
It turned out that the monitor decided to organize a party for the students. Therefore, everyone began to talk
You look scared, afraid that students will mention your name, the brain began to organize a variety of words.
Fortunately, no one mentioned you; unfortunately, no one thought of you.
Yes, how boring, how sad, students for three or four years, even can not give others the impression of a name. It turns out that most of the students just meet by chance, not to mention friendship, and may not be worth cherishing.
In those days, you may not have said hello to each other, but now you have been speculating and testing.
Finally, you quit group chat, you quit once had your past.
In our lives, we have joined countless circles and eventually forced ourselves to escape from them.
There is a hot quote on the Internet:
People are like this. First, they draw a small circle for themselves, which is called life planning. Then they jump in and do nothing in the circle.
With the mobile phone, we cant help but open wechat and QQ, brush a wave of friends and friends space, leave a few likes, prove their existence;
Back in the company, we cant help but gather around the crowd of colleagues, trying to join their topic, even if there is nothing to say, we have to say a few more yes and yes;
I have a weekend break at home. Before I open my eyes, I begin to think about what I want to do today, whether I want to get together with my friends, and who is more suitable.
We tried our best to join various circles, but gradually lost the ability to be alone.
Well known writer Zhou Hongxiang said:
Sometimes, when a group of people are talking about something, you are not interested at all, but you still want to chime in and think that others will notice you. In fact, in the end, they are all acting as monologues.
From small to large, we have been adjusting our role, trying to integrate into various circles.
Its not what we really want to integrate into, but the elders tell us that we should do it, and other children do it. Why dont you do it?
Before we understood the meaning of social intercourse, we had reached out to each other and said, Hello, my name is XXX, can I make friends with you?
The result of forcing oneself is that either you neglect others or others neglect you.
I finally quit the group of students, not that this group is useless, but found that the students have become so unreasonable.
At the bottom of the picture, many students are brushing blessing messages, but there is a strange comment: wedding photos dont need to be exposed to the group, who wont get married?
If its me, Ill only get to the circle of friends. Qiqi, you get married so early, dont you want to struggle for a few more years? Envy Qi Qi, after marriage can rely on her husband to raise, this day is happy.
Qiqi, as the party concerned, did not speak. After a few minutes, Qiqi withdrew from the class group.
I think those students are too sharp. Qiqi was the organizing committee member of the class. He had a good relationship with everyone at that time, so he wanted to share the happiness of marriage with everyone when he got married.
I didnt expect that I would like to share happiness with my classmates happily, but I was struck by the ridicule of my classmates.
Those who do not agree with each other will never be able to merge together.
The so-called students, but once sat together in class, after school, even if they get along day and night, they may not have a profound communication.
Like Liu Feng and he Xiaoping in the film Fanghua, they were abandoned by the collective at first, and finally, they chose to stay away from the collective.
Liu Feng volunteered to be a living Lei Feng in the army. He helped his comrades in every detail. He took the initiative to undertake the dirty work that others were not willing to do. Because of his impulse, he was criticized by the whole collective;
This may be the value Yan Geling wants to convey to us from the film: live in the collective, you have to always keep yourself.
We are all inseparable from the circle, living in the circle, we can be in accordance with the provisions of the world, not out of bounds, mistakes, and even be abandoned by others;
But life is always our own, there is no need to live to others, there is no need to pay attention to other peoples life.
As long as we can live a wonderful life, as long as we are not surrounded by the circle culture, our life at least retains the right to choose freely.