But it takes years of self-awareness and practice to acquire this ability.
This is especially important. Dont imagine that you should be able to manage your time when you are young.
Most people know but cant do it
Some people clearly want to learn, but they cant help playing games; others, on the contrary, want to play games but cant help but feel remorse and anxiety; worse still, they will be accused of fighting every day
Teenagers cant do it, and 20-year-old college students are unlikely to. Its an amazing achievement to achieve 80% at the age of 30.
Until then, it was normal that every holiday would be tangled.
Obviously, I have a lot of time to arrange freely, but how to arrange it is not pleasant. Almost everyone has such troubles, and you dont have to expect to get rid of them immediately.
In terms of mentality, you dont have to ask for any achievements in a holiday
How about 24 hours a day? What do you like when you do it? What is uncomfortable to do? What to do when you feel uncomfortable?
Since its an experiment, we allow all kinds of attempts and mistakes.
In any case, the damage caused by the experiment is limited, and all the losses are within the controllable range. -- the big deal is just a few days vacation, not the whole life. What if we mess it up?
Moreover, to be precise, there is no screw up theory.
Because doing experiments is to improve our understanding of things, it does not presuppose the direction of the results.
As long as it helps us understand who we are, whatever results are good.
For example, you always think you want to read and study, but after a holiday, the book has never been opened. This is the result of your experiment.
Youll learn that you dont want to read and study as you think. To put it bluntly, you have something more interesting.
Its important to recognize that.
Maybe you just prefer to run outside, or enjoy chatting with friends, or you will get more fun from games or TV series Its your nature.
You have to accept the discovery that you are you.
You have to learn to find the right balance and allocate time to the things you have to do.
Its also part of time management.
You should also allocate time to do what you like. You should learn to do it and enjoy it, instead of blaming yourself while doing it. Allowing yourself to take a vacation during the holiday (which doesnt seem like a big sin).
Learn to ask for help and supervision when necessary
Again, dont expect to have enough time management skills now, you are still exploring.
Once you start to worry or blame yourself, dont forget to remind yourself: did you touch a button that made me self demanding?
Thats part of you.
Even if we realize this, this holiday will not be wasted.
In this mentality, you will not fail. What you do is to have a deeper understanding of yourself.
Childrens time management
Every holiday, they are in a dilemma.
I dont want to let my children learn passively. I urge and resist every day during the holidays. I hope that children can develop the habit of self-consciousness and autonomy. But I dare not really let go. Otherwise, Im afraid that the basic homework will not be completed.
Understanding the above principles can also help parents.
Think of childrens time management as a developing ability.
There should be reasonable expectations for a teenager: he is not competent enough now, and there is nothing to be disappointed about. Hes still developing.
What parents can do is to support his development:
The simplest way of support is to give the child room for trial and error, without interference or restriction, and let him decide everything.
If you challenge something that is beyond his ability, the result is bound to be unsatisfactory.
Keep calm and dont say anything with the tone of you see, Ill say you cant do it!!
I suggest you say something like this: well, whats new about yourself after this holiday?
Each experiment helps children to better understand themselves and see their personality characteristics and interests earlier, which is a good thing, although it may not be what you like as a parent.
But only by acknowledging these characteristics can you and your child find ways to deal with them.
You may be worried: what if he delays something particularly important?
If it is really something of special importance, you should remember to remind and take responsibility for him for the time being.
But you know the direction of childrens growth. Sooner or later, you will be responsible for it.
So create opportunities from time to time, such as this kind of vacation, so that he has a little more time to exercise his ability - in other words, more time to screw up.
Try to increase our ability every time we mess up. The greater the ability, the greater the responsibility.