If not, we should get married now

 If not, we should get married now

Arvin had been with his ex for five years, and now he has been separated for more than a year. Arvin used his actions to make all people think that he had already opened his eyes, so when I saw such a dynamic, I was shocked.

So I sent him a message, with a short sentence: I still cant forget it, can I?

His reply was also brief: yes, its just that Ive been reluctant to admit it.

I am good at comforting people, but I dont know how to comfort Arvin this time. Just when I thought our chat was over, Arvin sent another message, saying, if we havent separated, we should be married by now.

Yes, if there was no separation, how many people should have been married; if not, there would have been less harm. However, in this world, the vast majority of things are not if.

So, how many people have tried their best in love and want to live a life of mutual affection with each other, but have to accept the result of parting? And how many people, clearly has broken up for a long time, but still difficult to let go and put down?

There is a saying: some people, we leave him in the memory, in order to cherish the memory of their own time through them.

In fact, sometimes we can not tell, in the end is reluctant to give up the person who has left, or reluctant to give up the fearless self for love.

You have always believed that he will be the one who will hand in hand with you for the rest of your life, so you put all your eggs in one basket, you have no reservation, you try to eliminate all obstacles, and look forward to one day to marry him, have children and grow old hand in hand.

However, love is not a matter of human effort. Its not hard for two people to be together, but its hard to be together forever. Sometimes, the intertwined fate will mercilessly destroy the feelings you have carefully managed.


He said that he would take you home to see his parents. He said he would have a son and a daughter together. He said that he would take care of you. He would never leave. When he was old, he would push a wheelchair with you for a walk. However, all the expectations for commitment turned into the sharpest disappointment and injury at the moment of separation.

Sometimes I cant help thinking, if we were all a little more mature, we would not have separated; if we had been more rational, we might be able to deal with these contradictions better, so that we would not fall in love and end up in a bad mood.

Wait for a long time later to look back, you finally admit that you are still in love, the wound is not healed.

Holding the regret and regret of the last love, the reluctant to give up the person who once loved, and the memory of the person who once loved. Therefore, it is difficult for you to put down for a long time, and it is difficult to start again. Even if you start again, you dare not love with force.

In fact, Cai Kangyong has a very reasonable saying: in the last love affair, I put my heart into it, but I was seriously injured. So this love afraid of injury, very reserved. This means: the last time the rotten man who hurt you got the most complete you, and this time the developing lover got a very cold you.

I know you are protecting yourself, but if you do business, your shop will collapse. The evil customers who never come back get the best service, but the new customers come to visit, but they are ignored. Why doesnt this shop collapse?

No matter how reluctant, miss is missed. Maybe a long time later, when you think of that person, you will still secretly red eyes, but in fact, you also know that you will never have any extravagant hope for your future.


I like a sentence very much: when you are young, you are in charge of falling in love, you are responsible for the injury, years are responsible for healing.

Love is a very low success rate of things, but this does not prevent countless people to strive for.

Its not terrible to fall in love. Whats terrible is that you punish yourself for the rest of your life for an irreparable past.

In fact, I always believe that since some people miss, it is doomed that they do not belong to you. Appreciate that he has come to your life, appreciate that he has let you experience the sweetness and pain of love, also appreciate his leaving to let you grow up, and then set off again.

Dont be afraid, you must learn to put down bravely, only then can meet truly belong to your lover.