Since what has happened cannot be changed, we should try to change our attitude towards things.
Although difficult, there are still traces to follow.
When you are frustrated, look for reasons from yourself
Mencius said, if you cant do something, you should ask yourself.
When you encounter setbacks, you should know how to reflect on yourself and look for reasons from yourself instead of complaining about others.
Zeng Guofans younger brother, Zeng Guohua, is the best qualified of several brothers, but he always shirks his responsibility when he is in trouble.
Zeng Guohua thinks he is brilliant and will be on the list in the future. However, when the list was released, it was found that it failed.
He was extremely disappointed. He blamed God for not giving himself good luck, and hated the invigilator for not being able to reward articles. He even blamed his wife for being too weak to control himself and not being able to restrain him from reading.
The weak blame the strong.
Zeng Guofans road of scientific examination was more difficult than his brothers. his sixth examination paper was also regarded as a negative teaching material, which was analyzed in public for other candidates to learn from.
In the face of such setbacks, Zeng Guofan was not discouraged, but constantly reflected.
He found that his articles were too rigid and not grand enough, and then began to focus on the problems and make great efforts. Later, he was admitted to the Imperial Academy.
After living in seclusion in Tang Dynasty, Zhao Ke Lin failed several times. He began to precipitate reflection, and focused on the study of Shu Shu. He finished Chang Chang Jing afterwards, which caused a sensation once it was published. Tang Xuanzong also invited him to be an official.
Socrates once said, life without introspection is meaningless.
Introspection is not self denial, not blindly belittle oneself, but a self responsible, positive and enterprising attitude towards life.
Often think of their own mistakes, can clearly understand themselves, clarify their strengths and weaknesses.
When youre frustrated, its better to complain than to change
Complaining about life once in a while may be an emotional catharsis, but its not smart to complain habitually without seeking change, Sanmao said
Complaining cant change the facts. Since it has happened, its better to accept and live the present.
Selma was stationed with her husband at the desert army base. Her husband was ordered to exercise in the desert, and she remained alone in the armys little tin house.
The weather is hot, even in the shadow of cactus can not feel a trace of cool, let people irritable. And she didnt have a friend because of her language barrier.
When Selma was sad, she wrote to her parents and told them about her depression.
Her fathers reply was simple, but it affected her life: two people looked out of the iron window of the cell, one saw the soil, the other saw the stars.
The same environment, because of different mentality, can meet different scenery.
After reading the letter, Selma felt ashamed and decided to look for her own stars in the desert.
Two years later, Selma wrote a happy castle based on her own experience. Unexpectedly, it became a best seller.
Agree with this saying: almost any situation, good or bad, is affected by our attitude towards the situation.
When the mentality changes, the mood and situation will change accordingly.
Ma Yun once said: the attitude of life without complaint is the first.
It is better to try to solve the problem than to complain; it is better to take the initiative to change than to complain.
When upset, it is better to let go of entanglement
Wilde once said, for myself, I must forgive something. For one cannot get up every night and plant thorns in the garden of the soul.
Most of the time, trouble troubles us.
Its not the thing itself, but the fact that I care too much, so Im vulnerable.
You dont have to worry about everything. In fact, to forgive others is to let go of yourself.
Because of political disagreement, Su Shi was framed by his friend Zhang Dun repeatedly, and was demoted to Huangzhou, Huizhou and Danzhou successively, and he drifted all over the world in his life.
It can be said that Su Shis fate of being demoted in the latter half of his life was almost given by Zhang dun.
Such people should hate them to the bone.
However, fate changed, Su Shi met with amnesty, and the emperor called him back to Beijing for re-use.
At this time, Zhang Dun, in fear of retaliation, asked his son to write a letter in the hope that Su Shi could get a free hand.
What did not expect is that Su Shis letter only lightly said a sentence: but in the past, more say what benefits..
Its all over, so dont mention it again.
Su Shi also comforted him, good health care, health is important.
Zhou Guoping once said: people cant control their own destiny, but they can control their attitude towards fate and calmly bear the inevitable encounter that falls on them.
There are eight or nine unhappy people in life, but it doesnt mean you have to be entangled for a long time.
Mr. Feng Zikai once said: since there is no place to escape, it is better to be happy; since there is no pure land, it is better to be calm; since there is no wish, it is better to be relieved.
Yesterday is not what you like and tomorrow may not be what you expect, but it does not prevent us from living a good life today.
It is better to let go of the past than to worry about the future.
Choose to put down, not to forgive, but to let go of themselves, calmly face.
Choose introspection, not blame, harvest more refined themselves;
Choose to change, not complain, meet a different life;
Choosing to let go of entanglement is the best nourishment for life.
Life is hard, only by crossing.
No matter how life treats us, may we all have the strength to smile.