Dont worry about your life, be a smart person

 Dont worry about your life, be a smart person

Since what has happened cannot be changed, we should try to change our attitude towards things.

Although difficult, there are still traces to follow.

When you are frustrated, look for reasons from yourself

When you encounter setbacks, you should know how to reflect on yourself and look for reasons from yourself instead of complaining about others.

Zeng Guohua thinks he is brilliant and will be on the list in the future. However, when the list was released, it was found that it failed.

He was extremely disappointed. He blamed God for not giving himself good luck, and hated the invigilator for not being able to reward articles. He even blamed his wife for being too weak to control himself and not being able to restrain him from reading.

The failure of the scientific examination should have reflected on himself, but Zeng Guohua put his own responsibility on the whole.

The weak blame the strong.

Zeng Guofans road of scientific examination was more difficult than his brothers. his sixth examination paper was also regarded as a negative teaching material, which was analyzed in public for other candidates to learn from.

In the face of such setbacks, Zeng Guofan was not discouraged, but constantly reflected.

After living in seclusion in Tang Dynasty, Zhao Ke Lin failed several times. He began to precipitate reflection, and focused on the study of Shu Shu. He finished Chang Chang Jing afterwards, which caused a sensation once it was published. Tang Xuanzong also invited him to be an official.

Socrates once said, life without introspection is meaningless.

Introspection is not self denial, not blindly belittle oneself, but a self responsible, positive and enterprising attitude towards life.

Zeng Zi said, I examine myself three times every day.

Often think of their own mistakes, can clearly understand themselves, clarify their strengths and weaknesses.

If you are in trouble, you should look for the reason from yourself, so that you can make constant improvement and achieve a better life.


When youre frustrated, its better to complain than to change

Complaining about life once in a while may be an emotional catharsis, but its not smart to complain habitually without seeking change, Sanmao said

Complaining cant change the facts. Since it has happened, its better to accept and live the present.

Read a story.

The weather is hot, even in the shadow of cactus can not feel a trace of cool, let people irritable. And she didnt have a friend because of her language barrier.

Living in such an environment, it is conceivably frustrating.

Her fathers reply was simple, but it affected her life: two people looked out of the iron window of the cell, one saw the soil, the other saw the stars.

The same environment, because of different mentality, can meet different scenery.

She began to learn the language, took the initiative to make friends with the local people, and found that they were hospitable; she studied the cactus in the desert and found that the animals and plants were very interesting; she tried to watch the sunrise and sunset in the desert and feel the desert mirage

Two years later, Selma wrote a happy castle based on her own experience. Unexpectedly, it became a best seller.

The desert is still the original desert, everything has not changed, but after the change of mentality, Selma not only found her own star, but also realized the counter attack of fate.

Agree with this saying: almost any situation, good or bad, is affected by our attitude towards the situation.

The mind changes from the state, and the state comes from the heart.

When the mentality changes, the mood and situation will change accordingly.

Ma Yun once said: the attitude of life without complaint is the first.

Just trying to express ones resentment just by talking quickly will not have a substantial change.

It is better to try to solve the problem than to complain; it is better to take the initiative to change than to complain.


When upset, it is better to let go of entanglement

Wilde once said, for myself, I must forgive something. For one cannot get up every night and plant thorns in the garden of the soul.

Its not the thing itself, but the fact that I care too much, so Im vulnerable.

You dont have to worry about everything. In fact, to forgive others is to let go of yourself.

Because of political disagreement, Su Shi was framed by his friend Zhang Dun repeatedly, and was demoted to Huangzhou, Huizhou and Danzhou successively, and he drifted all over the world in his life.

He even prepared the coffin before he arrived in Danzhou.

Such people should hate them to the bone.

However, fate changed, Su Shi met with amnesty, and the emperor called him back to Beijing for re-use.

At this time, Zhang Dun, in fear of retaliation, asked his son to write a letter in the hope that Su Shi could get a free hand.

What did not expect is that Su Shis letter only lightly said a sentence: but in the past, more say what benefits..

Su Shi also comforted him, good health care, health is important.

There are eight or nine unhappy people in life, but it doesnt mean you have to be entangled for a long time.

Mr. Feng Zikai once said: since there is no place to escape, it is better to be happy; since there is no pure land, it is better to be calm; since there is no wish, it is better to be relieved.

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Yesterday is not what you like and tomorrow may not be what you expect, but it does not prevent us from living a good life today.

It is better to let go of the past than to worry about the future.

Choose to put down, not to forgive, but to let go of themselves, calmly face.

Choose introspection, not blame, harvest more refined themselves;

Choosing to let go of entanglement is the best nourishment for life.

No matter how life treats us, may we all have the strength to smile.