If you want to ask Leng University, is this the performance of boys avoiding heavy ones and neglecting responsibilities? No.1 and No.2 are chat records of last night, and No.3 is one of his examples. He came home late and I went back to him like this. Although my words were a joke, he felt that he should care about him.
Cold love reply:
First, learn to positively express the issues you propose.
For example, the girl mentioned in her chat record, are you afraid that Im out there alone?
This sentence can be translated into what she really wants to express.
Because we dont know what she really thinks, we guess she might be trying to say, arent you worried about my safety? Im outside alone. What if I meet a gangster?
Or whats the danger at this late hour
Above, although we dont know exactly what she wants to express. However, the word fear is very interesting.
Is this fear that she wants to express, dont you care about me? I hope you care more about me.
In short, this literal expression does not express exactly what she wants to say.
For that boy, it may be like monk Zhang Er - cant feel his head. He doesnt know what he should do, which leads to more misunderstanding.
Therefore, we should always learn how to express better.
Second, how to understand the disappointment in a relationship?
From my point of view, its a time from disappointment to despair.
When we are aware of the disappointment in a relationship, we need to know that this emotion is a signal light, which means that the relationship is on the yellow light; if we allow this emotion to turn into despair, it is the red light of the relationship.
How does disappointment usually come about?
There are two possibilities:
On the one hand, it is our inner expectation, inner expectation and inner expectation that are not satisfied.
We want the other party to treat us like this, but he treats us like that;
In a word, the other partys practice is not the same as their own expectations.
On the other hand, sometimes, its not that our rational expectations are not met, but we feel the other partys reluctance and unwillingness on the emotional level;
Or, the other side does it, but it doesnt feel out of focus, and the action is completely deformed;
Or, if we just make a superficial effort to feel the other partys intention, we will be disappointed.
In both cases, disappointment is likely to come.
But if ignored, the loopholes will grow and the relationship will break down.