Husband accused of sexual harassment, wife using hidden rules, why elite tiger mother couple so greasy?

 Husband accused of sexual harassment, wife using hidden rules, why elite tiger mother couple so greasy?

Chua and her husband, rubenfield, are both tenured professors. Unless they break the law or leave on their own, the university has no right to dismiss.

However, with the increasing exposure, Chua Mei ers husband, who is also a professor at Yale, was suspended for two years. The couple may not be able to stay in the academic circles.

In addition, the two daughters are law school graduates, ready to take advantage of their parents contacts to enter the legal profession. In todays situation, 80% of the eldest daughter Sophias assistant to the chief justice is unable to do so.

In fact, sister Yuyan still likes tiger mother.

This is why the book battle song of tiger mother has caused such a heated debate in the United States.

In addition, the children of Yu Yans two friends had attended tiger mothers class. They both said that the tiger mother was warm and cheerful, very popular with the students, and was not as domineering as the outside world imagined.

Now, the tiger mother and his wife are in disrepute, and sister Yuyan is very sorry for her.

Sister Yuyan, lets take a look at it. Whats wrong with the seemingly perfect American elite couple?

The tiger mother was reported, her husband was suspended, and the elite family collapsed

First, last year, Brett Cavanaugh, the Supreme Court justice nominated by trump, was accused of being disorderly in high school in 1982.

During the hearing, it was revealed that tiger mother had recommended beautiful girls to cavano as an assistant.

Cai Meier was accused of saying to girls many times:

See here, Yu Yan elder sister is also a sigh.

One is the sincerity of the tiger mother, and the other is the greasiness of the tiger mother.

As a famous university professor or a law professor, Hu Ma must know that cavano likes to hire beauty assistants. This kind of selection mechanism that promotes gender advantage or hidden rules is not correct in itself.

But instead of disgusting, she took it as a shortcut to let students actively cater and sincerely consider it for them.

It is ironic to say that women can take advantage of male employers through gender attraction.

Is it because you have been immersed in the circle for a long time, and you are used to everything unusual, and even the basic standard of integrity has been lost?

It is estimated that when the students heard Cai meiers advice, they were also very surprised. They turned their heads and reported to their teachers.

Cai Meier once endorsed cavano. On the third day after cavanos nomination, Chua wrote in the Wall Street Journal, pledging that cavano was a good mentor for women. she also said, if my daughter wants to be a judges assistant, no judge is more trustworthy than him. Chuas approach has been criticized as paving the way for her daughter

Meanwhile, tiger mothers husband, rubenfield, who has been a law professor at Yale since 1990, was investigated for suspected misconduct such as sexual harassment of female students.

According to the students, the professor is keen to get drunk with his students.

Whats more, Yale law school graduates and students are generally not surprised by Professor rubenfields rollover.


Its been a long time since Yale School. This is not the case.

However, this time, with the help of the east wind of metoo, some students dare to testify against their teachers, thus attracting the attention of the outside world.

At first, Yale was just conducting an internal investigation. As the pressure of public opinion increased, Yale hired third-party investigators.

Although rubenfeld firmly denied all the charges and admitted that he had made some regretful stupid remarks, Yale suspended him for two years.

Even if rubenfield returns to teaching two years later, he will not be allowed to teach required and small classes.

This is an extremely rare severe punishment for a tenured professor, which can be said to be equivalent to expelling rubenfield from the academic world.

Why Yale made such a decision is self-evident.

Rubenfeld was only more embarrassed if he was to bring out all the witnesses.

Among them, Chua graduated from Harvard Law School and served as a tenured professor of Yale Law School. She was also a business law lawyer and best-selling author;

Rubenfeld studied in Princeton, Harvard Law School and Julia School of music. As a tenured professor at Yale Law School, he was also a visiting professor at Stanford and Duke. In addition, rubenfield was also a writer, publishing law books and suspense novels.

Lets take a look at the two daughters trained by Tiger mothers strong wrist.

Sophia (CAI Sihui), the eldest daughter, entered Harvard in 2011, and graduated from Yeru law school in 2018 as an assistant to justice kawanov;

The youngest daughter Lulu (CAI Sicong) is studying at Harvard Law School.

Even the two daughters, who have been talked about by the outside world for a long time, have expressed their understanding of their mothers education mode to the media when they grow up.

Whats wrong with tiger mothers success?

Sister Yuyan thinks that there may be some problems in CAI Meiers understanding of the value of life.

First of all, Cai Meier is a person who is good at understanding the operation mechanism of society. She knows how to play games to get high scores from the very beginning.

She is familiar with all the elements and means of success study, and knows how to conform to the social rules so as to make her stand out.

Haruki Murakami wrote in Norwegian forest Yongze is such a person.

Yongze was born in a famous family. His IQ and EQ are extremely high. He is devoted to the pursuit of fame and talent. For him, life is not so much an arena as an experiment. He wants to try his own limit here.

Yongze can see through all the rules and methods. He can even play with his hands at will.

Even if he saw the bloated and ridiculous bureaucracy, he would be excited to win the top prize in the game.

Whats the problem with such Yongze?

Is to use the rules, but do not look at the rules, and, there is no ideal, do not pay sincerity.

Tiger mother was once selected as 100 most influential people by time magazine

Tiger mother is not as extreme as Yongze, but also belongs to the survival talent with insight into social mechanism.

She always knows how to be impressive, how to be loved and praised by others, both in the workplace and in life.

Whether its the tiger mothers own struggle experience or her life planning for her children, they are all based on the reference system of the success study coordinate. We must follow the customs clearance manual, not take a detour, take the bulls eye, and grow into a wonderful me in the eyes of others.

In the battle song of the tiger mother, Cai Meier mentioned that her efforts were first to please her parents, and later, to gain a decent social identity.

At first, she studied applied mathematics at Harvard, believing it would make her parents happy.

After that, Chua transferred to economics, but she was also not interested.

Speaking of her graduation thesis, Chua said: the boredom in the process makes me forget what I have come to

Later, Amy Chua transferred to law school and got an excellent record at Harvard Law School.

She is smart and always knows how to get good grades, even if she is not interested in what she is learning.

She never mentioned her love for the legal profession, only that she worked like crazy at Harvard.

In addition, Ms. Chua always feels that law is not a profession she loves.

After graduation, Chua joined a wall street law firm just because its natural to do so;

When taking maternity leave, she wanted to find a university teaching position because she didnt want to return to Wall Street.

When my colleagues talk about legal issues, I am as frustrated as a stroke patient, unable to think and speak. I forced myself to join the conversation, but I was confused, I didnt know what I was saying, and I didnt mean it. This difference dwarfs me.

This is Cai Meiers evaluation of herself.

In the end, Ms. Chua won a teaching position at Yale Law School with a paper on Yale taste and the recommendation of her husband, who is a lifelong professor of Yale.

It can be seen that Chua meier has excellent learning ability and is also a master of her own operation.

Taking being outstanding as the first consideration, whether you like it or not, you must do what you should do well and run accurately in the preset track.

Perhaps, the tiger mothers current predicament, as early as the formation of the Three Outlooks long ago buried hidden dangers.

One of them isu2014u2014

Why? Because the score of drama class has nothing to do with applying to university.

Theres another oneu2014u2014

Why? Because only when you get a medal, you can get extra points when you apply to university.

When Lulu, the second daughter, began to learn music, the tiger mothers choice was not based on the childrens preferences. She ruled out the clarinet, Gong and drum that were not tall enough, and insisted on letting her children practice the violin with difficult skills.

It can be seen that the tiger mothers life planning is not much, a lot, all in order to accurately meet the social law.

Yongze in Norwegian forest once said ironically: society is fundamentally unfair.

He is familiar with the hidden rules of society and is good at making use of these norms. What he does is not what he wants to do, but what he thinks he should do.

Tiger mother is the same.

Hard work + familiar with the rules + please the society = successful customs clearance, this set of success learning mechanism has made her step by step, and achieved a lot.

As a famous law school professor, he didnt care about his husbands sexual harassment and the judges preference for female assistants;

In the eyes of a new generation of young children, she has been classified as greasy.

What a real elite should do is not to pander to and ingratiate with the mentality of vested interests, but to change the world.

The tiger mother and his wife are tenured professors at Yale.

The purpose of the university is to establish tenured professorsu2014u2014

The purpose of this protection is to give scholars the autonomy of learning and ensure that they will not be persecuted because they do not please the power.

But tiger mother, with the title of life-long Professor, does things to comply with unreasonable hidden rules, and has no self-knowledge. In essence, it is no different from that of a woman who gives a toast to a leader.

For a well-known scholar, this is really not the past.

Put it on sister Yuyanu2014u2014

I am also always alert to avoid this greasy elitism attitude;

I avoid instructing girls how to please men because of my own experience. I hope that they have real independent love and dignified love;

We should avoid this kind of mentality of vested interests and be more just and less greasy.

After all, our mission is not to keep dirty, but to make the world a better place.

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