When you fall in love, you cant help it? Dont worry. Learning to do it can also improve your feelings

 When you fall in love, you cant help it? Dont worry. Learning to do it can also improve your feelings

In the process of growing up, each of us has learned a whole set of adult social etiquette and system in school, workplace and education after tomorrow.

We know how to deal with colleagues, how to deal with friends; we will not make trouble with friends, we will not be too presumptuous to friends, and we will never ask too much of a colleague.

Because we know that if we do, we may lose these relationships.

But why do many people feel like a changed person when they fall in love?

Many of our behaviors in intimate relationships are indistinguishable from the interaction between children and mothers.

Because what we want is a relationship that no matter what we do, the other party will not leave, a relationship that makes us feel secure enough.

In such a relationship, many people will show the state of a child.

Of course, the state of children is different.

Some children will be unreasonable;

Some children have their own sense of security and know how to deal with themselves;

What we want to say is that one of the hallmarks of a close relationship is that we are back in the same state as we were as children.

This explains why many girls feel like they have changed their personality once they fall in love.

How to avoid the trouble of child state?

One of the most important things to solve the problem is that if we know that when we are in love, we are a person who likes to make trouble without reason and is very presumptuous, then we should make it clear to each other before starting a new relationship.

For example, you can say to your partner, when Im in a state of intimacy, Im a bit clingy..

Otherwise, many peoples intimate relationship will develop to the end, there will be such complaints: at first, he is very good to me, but later he is more and more indifferent to me....

Therefore, we must make it clear in advance, and we should also stop enough and learn to adjust our emotions.

A girl told me that in such a childs state, she would always do all kinds of things and unconsciously read each others words and deeds. In fact, this is the problem of mentality.

Under this kind of mentality question, the characteristic which displays is sensitive.

All highly sensitive girls should learn to do one thing: learn to coexist with their own sensitivities.

Many people can see that they are very sensitive, and always regard sensitivity as a shortcoming. This is because they have not learned to coexist with sensitivity, nor have they learned to use this sensitivity in useful places.

For example, more than a decade ago, I discovered that I was a super sensitive person, and I used it in the right place, called working in the emotional industry or in the pan psychological field..

In this way, my sensitivity becomes my weapon.

Everything in US has two sides. If we use it in the right place, it will become an important weapon in our life. However, if it is not used properly, it may hurt others and ourselves in turn.

Therefore, all sensitive people in life can combine their own characteristics to choose some places where they can play their sensitive advantages.

For example, at work, you can do some work related to psychology, expression and art.

In the emotion, we should learn to avoid the problems brought by sensitivity in intimate relationship, and learn to coexist with our own sensitivity.

A sensitive person cannot become a very insensitive person.

Be aware that your sensitivity is a problem that you create for yourself.

This is an important mentality building, learning to coexist with your own characteristics, and at the same time, let it play in the most useful place.

So how to make your childs state play properly?

In fact, this state of children appearing in love is nothing more than to want the other party to treat themselves as a child.

If the other party can really make the girl return to the state of a child, it is also a sign that this intimate relationship is developing.

Then how to do, in order to let girls in this state not only express their own needs, but also can not let the other party feel afraid?

Such as coquetry, it can play a lubricant role in communication.

It has no difference between good and bad, nor is it a simple whine, nor is it a weakness of women to men. Instead, girls put down their guard in front of the most intimate people, showing their soft side and forming emotional connection.

Between partners, giving is important, and expressing needs is just as important.

It doesnt need a long speech to be coquettish. It usually only needs one or two simple modal particles, such as eh, Ho, yo, hee... When you speak, you should cooperate with the movements of your limbs. Your body should be soft and your voice should be light. Naturally, you can meet your needs.

Therefore, how to create a child in love state that can be accepted by the other party?

1) Keep a proper distance.

No matter how much a girl likes a man and wants to be with him, dont stick to him all the time.

Because if you like a person for a long time, you will naturally get tired of it. Just like couples in marriage, they stay together every day and stick together, which will only make each other hate each other more and more.

Once we find in each other only shortcomings, no advantages, we will find that he is not the way he loves.

Appropriately increase the opportunity of separation, let a man Miss himself, give a man a feeling of irrelevance, the more he wants to seize, the less he can fully possess.

When we get along with each other for a long time, we should separate, let each other understand the importance of each other in their own heart, and remind each other again and again that what he loves deeply is himself, and the person he thinks in his heart is also himself, so that two people can love each other for a generation.

3) Live his own life and let him pursue his own step all the time.

In the emotional world, if you want to attract a mans attention all the time, you have to keep yourself mysterious and fresh. In this way, we can attract mens eyes to stay on us all the time, and let him feel that we are mysterious. If there is something he wants to explore, he will follow our pace and keep going, and will never lose interest in it.

A good relationship is not to compare who loves whom more, nor who is willing to unconditionally tolerate whom, but to pay attention to the relationship itself at this moment and do self-improvement is the most important.