Every time a friend meets, he will talk about this topic
In her career, she is a gold medal producer. She can go on a hot search in order to invite a guest to her hearts content and even dance seaweed dance in public;
In life, she has self-discipline and fitness. Even the time on the treadmill is one second more than that of the people around her.
But it is such a girl who seems to be independent and self-improvement, who has no idea in the face of love. In front of Sam, the slag boy friend, has become a submissive girl who is afraid to leave and lose.
She and her boyfriend Sam have known each other for years, and theyve been on and off countless times. Every time sun Yihe broke up as if he had made up his mind, but every time Sam could pull her back with just a few words or even a circle of friends.
Sun Yihes best friend, Karen, cant help but tell us:
Hes gentle and funny, but not just for you. You are also gentle and interesting. He is with you without burden and pressure. He is happy to find you.
After all, which boy is willing to give up such a obedient and sensible girlfriend easily?
Even Sams mother saw that they were not suitable, she said: you are alienated, she is dependent, you will not be happy together. Have you considered your future?
In their love, sun Yihe has been passively becoming Sams ideal girlfriend. Only when she is with her friends is her real self.
For the so-called love, become another persons appearance, this is how much for love put down their own girls appearance.
Like her own line at the end of the film:
Some girls will choose to change themselves unconditionally for another person, and more will change themselves selectively because of the other partys contribution to themselves.
This is a concept that Lu Qi once said: enjoyment model.
If her partner can meet a lot of her needs, then the person who enjoys the emotional mode will have a high degree of tolerance.
But some girls are not like this, they will take boys to their own pay as a matter of fact. They will choose to accept the payment from the other party. When the other party has done something sorry for themselves, they will take this payment as a reason to persuade themselves.
One fan said his idea:
But one day she found that her husband had another woman outside, but in front of the man who had vowed to change his ways, she thought of his efforts and sacrifices for the family. When she was at home and enjoying herself at home, he was out negotiating and drinking, because she chose to forgive.
The emotional mode of enjoyment is often angry because the needs can not be met. Once the needs are met, she will soon be over. Women who enjoy the emotional mode often give up thinking in getting along. It is easy to lose certain independence and ability.
Because when they get hurt from each other, they ignore a large part of the bad because of each others good.
So, this change comes from the part of them that are satisfied.
Self abuse love
I have seen a segment of a TV play before, which is regarded as a typical segment of contemporary girls by netizens
Girl: do you really understand
In short, I hope to be a passive person in love, and my needs can be found by others.
I know a more introverted girl, after love did not change cheerful, but become a little nervous.
She said that her boyfriend was really considerate to her, but every time he wanted to surprise her, she would start to worry about whether the person wanted to leave her, so she gave her the last gift.
Whenever he paid for her, she would imagine whether he had done something sorry for her, and would like to double her good.
In fact, such a girl is just too insecure, because she is afraid of losing, so she is alert to all the good things around her and keep a distance. Once lost, it will not end up in such a mess.
When she felt that the people around her began to be indifferent to her, she would be the one who took the initiative to leave.
We always say to eat eight percent full, love only seven percent full, there are three left for themselves. But in the face of love, no one can control me well.
In fact, we dont have to be wary of everyone. On the premise of keeping rational, we can lay down a little guard and learn to enjoy others kindness to you. Only in this way can we truly realize the significance of love.
In love, being yourself is enough.
It is often found that some people, once in love, seem to have changed.
In fact, it is not how they change themselves for love, but love has changed them unconsciously. Some are to become the ideal appearance of the other party, some are because of fear of loss and betrayal.
But anyway, you have to know that when a person likes you, it must be because of who you are.
Dont throw away all your T-shirt jeans just because he likes skirts.