This is the wechat sent by reader Xiao a three months later.
A year ago, she happened to find another wechat account of her husband.
In the account, there is only one friend. The word baby in the note is very dazzling.
From the head picture, Xiao a sees her in her early twenties and smiles brightly.
Her husband, who had not said sweet words for many years, said the words of utmost tenderness and concern to her, and took a close group photo with her in the circle of friends.
On their wedding anniversary, he said to the girl, how I wish it was you who lay beside me.
Small a did not make a voice, quietly cut off the screen, the chat records to all her husbands friends, and then locked himself into the study.
Come to think of it carefully, the husbands derailment is not without omen.
That night, Xiao a witnessed her husbands eagerness, entreaty and fury.
He yelled loudly that Xiao a was confused with amorous feelings, considerate, out of shape and bad temper. She forced her to go to this stage.
And how beautiful the girl was and how much comfort she gave him.
Ten years later, the red rose was crushed into mosquito blood.
A decided to divorce, the house to her.
Just after the divorce, Xiao a would also secretly go to see his ex husbands circle of friends. He was aboveboard and elegant, and he was in love. The top photo was also replaced by a group photo with Xiao San.
It was something he disdained to do when he was with her.
She suffered, forced herself not to think, and then gradually put it down.
Until one night, Xiao San called her and asked if her ex husband was with her because he didnt go home at night.
A few days later, his ex husband sent a text message. He apologized and hoped to meet again.
Little a didnt reply.
Im not surprised that Xiao as ex husband regrets.
True love outside marriage,
Its just an illusion
The fact said once did a survey: under what circumstances do you usually cheat?
The most popular choice for all age groups is no special case.
Life is boring, feelings tend to be flat, seems to have become the biggest push force for the emergence of extramarital affairs.
Little do you know that the extramarital affair caused by freshness is just a dream secreted by dopamine, which will eventually dissipate with time.
I have seen a film about extramarital affairs, such as the shadow heart.
Lu Song, a violinist played by Chen Xiao, and Wen Po, a painter played by Du Juan, met in Paris.
Two people who have the same artistic temperament and pursue romance are gathered together like firewood.
But in fact, they all have their own families.
Wen poppys husband is a surgeon. In her eyes, he is very clean and has no interest. He cant even quarrel;
The insipid marriage made them feel miserable.
Finally, two people who can give each other spiritual comfort choose to leave their respective families and live together.
A passionate bubble will eventually break down.
Entering the plain period, they quarrel about the trivial life, vent their dissatisfaction, and begin to suspect each other.
Later, Lu songcai remembered that when he first met his ex-wife, he had tattooed her, played the violin, and was hopelessly in love.
In the end, he chose to escape the affair, as he did from his ex-wife.
Mo Wenweis cloudy day sings:
At the beginning, every minute is wonderful. Everyone thinks that the enthusiasm will never be reduced, except for the little tiredness after the passion fades away.
When we are with a wife who once had love, we cant keep the dull marriage. Because of the freshness, the feelings combined will end faster because of the freshness.
The world is very fair. In what way do you get your love, you will lose it in the end.
Stolen feelings will never last.
Will it be better?
There was a debate on what to do when you meet your best love after marriage.
Venus said this:
When you can still meet the love of this life after marriage, it must be the reason for both sides. Because you have shortcomings, you are not satisfied, you have a window open. If that window is closed, the chance of meeting your beloved is very low.
The essence of infidelity is not willing to close the window and avoid the problems in marriage.
But the existing problems do not communicate, do not repair, even if a person is changed, it is just a big circle.
Trivial life will expose contradictions again, even more windows.
Chen Junsheng was tired of Luo Zijuns attachment and acquisition, but Luo Zijun was ignorant.
Marriage lights red, but Chen Junsheng chose to escape, preferring to stay in the company overtime, rather than try to communicate with Luo Zijun.
But the colleague Ling Ling, works meticulously, her company, let him realize the long-term absence of gentle and comfortable.
He ignored Luo Zijuns request and forgot that it was he who made Luo Zijun feel at ease as a housewife. He chose to abandon his responsibility and extricate himself.
Ling Ling Ling got her wish, but after marriage, Chen Junsheng found that she was not as harmless as before, and even more so than Luo Zijun.
Chen Junsheng was bored and moved to divorce. He even regretted his impulse to divorce Luo Zijun.
In fact, this is not the so-called retribution of Chen Junsheng, but the result of human nature.
They say, love is the best side, marriage the worst side..
True love and true love are no different, and the trivialities of marriage are roughly the same.
Those who dont know how to manage marriage and easily betray their partners cant live a good life for another person.
Remove the filter of love, but a chicken feather to perform again.
On the other side of the mountain, it is still the mountain.
The great master of a generation says:
We are just mortals, attracted by the secular, it is normal.
When marriage is worn down by years, it must be the responsibility, not the passion, that supports it.
Freshness is to experience new things with old people, not to recycle old things with new people.
Finally, I want to send you a passage from the kite runner
The one who was willing to pick up kites for me for thousands of times has passed away. If you miss it in life, you wont get it again. Maybe we will repent and redeem, but it seems that it is too late. Every time we fly a kite, we should ask ourselves whether we really cherish everything we have