My habit is to find a corner where no one bothers me, or sleep.
In life, there are many people who deal with their emotional problems in this way.
They are quiet, peaceful, not noisy and noisy. They look very Buddhist. They are even praised for your good temper and mature heart. But in fact, the external good is at the cost of some hidden bad.
People who are used to bearing problems on their own seem strong on the surface, but they have one weakness
Over time, unhappiness will become depression;
As time goes on, depression becomes all sense of unconsciousness
Theres no point in living.
In the end, you may think: since life is so meaningless, its better to end it.
Most of the time, this is how depression comes about.
In this case, why do many people have to deal with their emotions in this way?
There are many reasons.
Sometimes, I dont want to make trouble for others.
Emotions can be passed on from person to person. If a person is unhappy, it is easy to cause a group of people to be unhappy. In order to avoid bringing negative energy to others, the best way is to shut up.
Sometimes, its better not to say it than to say it.
The joys and sorrows of human beings are not interlinked. Even if you are a close friend or family member, your real feelings are not easy to understand. Such a different frequency will make you feel more miserable and even more sad.
So I thought, forget it, or self digestion.
Fundamentally speaking, the reason why a person is so sensible, or so stubborn, is because of such a self-awareness:
You can only accept your good side, but not your bad side.
Because I cant accept my bad side, I feel that others will not accept it, so I cant say it.
Because I cant accept my bad side, I feel that others will not understand me, so I dont want to say it.
If you cant accept your bad side, if you dig deeper, you will find that the belief of perfectionism is at work.
Their subconscious thought that people should be perfect, or at least they should be perfect, so that life can have value or significance.
But the problem is that it is very difficult for people to be perfect. Whether they do things or communicate with others, there will be some shortcomings, regrets and imperfections.
Such a state of not wanting to accept but having to accept it will lead to inner conflict.
Some people will choose to accept, accept their own shortcomings, and then balance their own shortcomings by constantly improving themselves.
Of course, some people will choose not to accept, not to accept the imperfect themselves.
As a result, you feel like a problem.
When a person thinks that he is a problem, he will instinctively cover up the problem.
In their opinion, it is very dangerous to open your heart and expose yourself, because others will see your unbearable.
Since exposure has such a big risk, it is better to bear and digest it alone.
As a result, you will not get real relief, on the contrary, you will become more and more unhappy.
In intimate relationships, there are two ways of emotional communication
One is to share each others joy, the other is to pour out their own pressure and unhappiness.
When people who care about you find that they can help you out of trouble, they will feel that they are valuable and important in this relationship.
Its a big hurt for intimacy.
Therefore, if you are a person who is used to putting all the unhappiness in his heart and carrying everything by himself, it is necessary to make some changes if you want to have a truly happy relationship.
What you need to do is also very simple, is to become selfish a little bit, trouble the people around you more, take the initiative to express yourself, express your feelings, and express your inner unhappiness.
True love is not only about giving each other, but also about needing each other.