Only in these three levels, to achieve the same pace of lovers, it is possible to love to the white

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 Only in these three levels, to achieve the same pace of lovers, it is possible to love to the white


In fact, this video is from the MV clip of worry about it shot by Zhong Zhentao for Huang Xiaohu in 2013, which is to act for the plot.

As for the protagonist of the story, Zhong Jiaqing, the eldest daughter of Zhong Zhentao who was suddenly married, is only 25 years old this year, and does not say that he is in a hurry to get married.

Zhong Jiaqing was born to Zhong Zhentao and his first wife, Zhang Xiaohui. When she was very young, her parents divorced because of their broken feelings. Speaking of Zhong Zhentaos ex-wife, she is also a legendary woman.

Zhang Xiaohui was born in Hong Kong on June 10, 1963. She is different from many stars who have entered the entertainment industry because of her family background. She was born in a scholarly family with a prominent family background. She has lived a life of money and money since childhood.

After being introduced to know Zhong Zhentao, the two fell in love at first sight and were inseparable. After three weeks acquaintance, Zhong Zhentao proposed to Zhang Xiaohui.

Later, the two decided to divorce, and the last straw of their marriage was money.

In 1997, in the Asian financial crisis, Zhang Xiaohui and Zhong Zhentao failed to invest, and they were heavily in debt. Two hundred and fifty million people were mortgaged.

In 1999, the two divorced. According to Zhang Xiaohui, the marriage has long been in name.

Even after the divorce, Zhang Xiaohui publicly told the media that she had five boyfriends at the same time, but only loved two people in her life.

Zhang Xiaohuis view of love and family is quite different from that of Zhong Zhentao. Zhang Xiaohui is a person on the cloud, and her requirement for life is to be good-looking and fun. However, Zhong Zhentao is a man in the world, growing up in vagrancy.

They have different views on wealth and philosophy of life.

When Zhang Xiaohui was in debt of 200 million yuan, she still refused to cut back on her food, clothing and flowers. She still lived in a luxury house with a monthly rent of 60000 Hong Kong dollars. Finally, she successfully cancelled the debt.

Zhong Zhentao, on the other hand, has to withdraw money from the performance reward to pay off the debt. The two people are not in the same world at all.

Zhang Xiaohuis story makes people feel sad. The two men who were originally gifted and beautiful turned into passers-by or even enemies because of their different views on consumption.

First of all, we should know that before marriage, we should unify the Three Outlooks of two people, which are not outlook on life, world outlook and values.

So in the process of practice, how can we make sure that we are consistent with his three views?

01

The value of a thing can not be counted by one person has the final say.

Perhaps in the imagination of many unmarried people, the problem in marriage is the deterioration of two peoples feelings.

Or because of the temptation of the outside world, there is a change of heart, but in fact, in many marriages, money is the gap that two people can not cross.

Just like Zhang Xiaohui and Zhong Zhentao in this article, many couples have different family backgrounds and different life situations, and their consumption views are also different.

If this consumption concept is too different, it will lead to many problems.

For example, something in the eyes of girls is just a daily consumer goods, but in the eyes of boys is unnecessary spending.

Therefore, we should be neither humble nor overbearing in spending money.

However, this right of control must be established only when both parties know and agree.

Especially when buying real estate or dealing with large expenses, dont spend it without your partner.

We should discuss with the other party. If the other party disagrees, we should think of other ways. We should never cross the other party to exercise the other partys rights. This will easily lead to conflicts.

Dont feel that most of the money is earned by yourself, so the other party is not qualified to intervene in the money they spend.

These two kinds of mentality are wrong, you should know that money is not earned by one person, even if one is making money to support the family, and one is cleaning up and taking care of children.

The man who took care of the baby also contributed his value, but the value was not reflected in the form of money.

When dealing with the concept of money, we must hold the attitude of not being humble or arrogant and discuss it peacefully with the other party.

Rational control of every expenditure of money, so as to get closer to wealth, freedom and marital happiness.

02

Many girls have a very unrealistic illusion about love before they get married, and they are immersed in the pink bubble of love idol all the year round.

I cant touch the reality of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea, and I dont know what kind of situation I have to face when love comes into marriage.

In particular, the other party will have what kind of change to their own, these are we can not predict.

In fact, this result can be avoided. As long as we unify our love views before marriage, and the two people have correct expectations for the life after marriage, this tragedy can not happen.

Before marriage, one thing must be understood, that is, marriage is insipid.

If there is such a person, his life must be very difficult, so we choose marriage is to choose and plain life as a companion.

Dont expect too much from life. Dont imagine waking up and opening your eyes. Boys will come to you with breakfast.

Dont imagine that he will bring back a bunch of flowers every day after work, which is not what normal people do.

But most of us are ordinary people, so we must be ready to accompany ordinary life. If we are not prepared, it is not suitable for marriage.

03

He really can give you the marriage he wants?

Marriage is also divided into many kinds, some are single-minded, some are not, some are full of love, and some are carried out in order to complete the task.

Such marriages often dont last long, because both have unrealistic plans for their own expectations.

In order to avoid such a situation, we must have a good communication with each other, two people should sit down and have a good talk.

For example, we can ask the other party, what is the other partys concept of marriage, whether he supports single-minded marriage, and how does he think of open relationship?

He thinks that after marriage, what kind of situation is suitable for two people to have children and how to get along with their parents and relatives.

Today, through the marriage of a star couple, we learned what pit there are in marriage and what thunder needs to be avoided.

But every relationship, as long as we work hard, will produce good results.