We can analyze it through appearances. It is a kind of capital and an absolute reason to ask for others. But this is a bit of a heresy. Old people can be respected and taken care of. This premise should be: the conduct of the elderly is worthy of respect. When the elderly cannot take care of themselves, they should be taken care of. It is natural that the elderly can be satisfied without selling their old. Relying on the old and selling the old shows that the old people have nothing else but old people. He has no sense of satisfaction, happiness, capital and ability to win his needs, so he has to use selling the old to force his children. They are actually the same thing: ask for the love of others. With this understanding, we can consider compromise, adaptation, rejection, satisfaction and other strategies to cope with the old peoples dependence on the old. Compromise: that is to say, when the old man is playing tricks, we need to compromise. We dont have to be tough or do something against him. We dont have to be honest with him in terms of language. Adaptation: when the old man is in a bad mood and makes trouble without reason, he does not blame him, but rather complies with his temper, either does not respond or responds with humor. Refuse: all the demands that depend on the old and sell the old can be refused gently and firmly. Any intimate relationship, if you want to break the relationship between control and controlled, must rely on one of the parties, mainly because the controlled party insists on not cooperating. Satisfaction: the old mans dependence on the old reflects that the old mans heart is empty or lonely, so children can consider, and try to allocate some time to the elderly, get along with them, talk with them about the topics they are interested in, even listen to his past unbearable memories... As long as we can be together, we can meet the needs of the old peoples sense of attachment and importance.
This whole course can be regarded as the art of getting along. When we start to think about it from this angle, you will not be so upset. If you can get along with each other in such an artistic way, I believe you are comfortable in the relationship.