These are very typical and universal binary opposition world outlook. People who hold this world view are the vast majority of the population. They are used to making either or or black or white judgments, judgments or decisions in their life and work, just like this commentator.
From this perspective, a persons maturity can be divided into three levels:
Level 1: black and white, right and evil, good and bad, everything has a very clear two poles.
Level two: there is a gray zone between black and white, advocating gray philosophy.
Level three: the two poles are the positive and negative sides of a thing. The positive and negative are originally one and can be transformed into each other.
Two poles of clarity
If you look around, youll see that most people are looking at the world and whats going on in the world with a black or white perspective.
As a result, everything and people in this world can be divided into two opposite sides.
Of course, this has something to do with the education we received from childhood. Since childhood, we have been taught that there is an absolute boundary between good and bad, right and wrong. Therefore, most of us keep this firm good or bad or black and white view until we get married and have children, so we often say this person is a good person and that person is a bad person.
However, if the habit of critical thinking is lacking in the later life, and new thinking mode and mental mode are not injected, this world outlook of clear bipolar, black or white, either this or that and either a or B will be easily solidified and become a habit and way throughout life.
I have seen such a manager in the workplace. When she thinks that a subordinate is good, she will give her heavy responsibilities and praise. If this subordinate has one or two things that cant be done well, she will immediately put her into the Eighteen hell. Whats more, Ive seen her treat her subordinates like this more than once, either holding them to the sky or letting them leave immediately.
One of her subordinates did not develop well for many years after she was forced to leave. Every time we chatted, she would talk about the contrast between the two and ask, why did she do that to me? After that, I always felt like a failure.
The consequence of this is that it is difficult for her to be a good manager, and at the same time, she unconsciously hurts everyone in the team.
After all, the world is complex and fast changing, and people are also complex and multifaceted. Therefore, if one is always looking at the world and people operating according to the complex mode from the perspective of simple mode, he will not be able to see clearly, and naturally he will be very sad.
Within Huawei, there is a principle of gray philosophy, which is not black or white, but a fusion of white and black thinking.
Ren Zhengfei once said: in the process of change, any black and white views are easy to inspire peoples hearts. We just dont need black or white views. What we need is gray views and seek a balance between black and white.
In essence, gray philosophy is a mode of thinking that correctly reflects the objective world and the actual situation.
Huaweis gray philosophy contains two meanings. On the one hand, it can speak of gray in strategy and tactics, and on the other hand, it needs to speak of gray level to people. Here, I would like to talk about the gray view of people.
Gray view of people means that we allow a person to have both good and bad sides. It is not to say that if a person is a good person, he must be morally perfect. Or if a person is very capable, he can do all kinds of things with 100 points.
I would like to give an example of this perspective. This example is about Martin Luther King, the famous leader of the black movement.
Martin Luther King, Jr. advocated non violent civil disobedience to fight for the basic rights of African Americans. He was the symbol of American Progressivism and the winner of the Nobel Peace Prize. His I have a dream... I dont know how many people have been inspired.
However, shortly after his death, scandals about his extramarital affairs began to emerge. With reports of him playing in hotel rooms and having personal affairs with many people, people could no longer raise reasonable doubts about the rumors.
As soon as the news came out, everyone refused to believe it. Later, with more and more information from reliable sources, his position in the hearts of most people also plummeted, from God to scum.
Obviously not. To say that he is God or scum is to see only one side of him.
There are also some people who hold this view, such as Marshall fradi, who wrote in the preface of the biography of Martin Luther King: regardless of all the reverence and praise for king, the real and comprehensive King finally gives us the enlightenment that how painful and complex the moral hero - our Prophet - actually shows before us is Its a mysterious mixture of good and evil.
In fact, to look at people with the gray view is to let us objectively look at the complex human nature of each person. No matter he is great or ordinary, he always has human weaknesses and advantages, but also has his own unknown pain and vulnerability.
It is for this reason that we should not only use the gray view to look at others, but also use the gray view to see ourselves.
In fact, the second level is already a world view very close to the real and complex world. If you can not only see this layer, but also see the mutual transformation between black and white, that is a higher realm, in which you can view yourself and the world from a longer time perspective and a broader spatial perspective. This is the third level.
- the third level -
There are many people who know this sentence, but only a few people understand the reason why transformation happens.
Happiness and disaster are two poles of a state. How can they transform into each other?
On this point, Han Feizis explanation is: when people are in trouble, they are afraid of fear; when they are afraid of fear, they are upright; when they are upright, they are thoughtful; when they are mature, they are reasonable. If a man is blessed, he will be rich and noble; if he is rich and noble, his clothes and food will be beautiful, and his pride will be born; if he is arrogant, he will go astray and abandon reason.
It means: if a person has a disaster, he will be afraid in his heart, his behavior will be correct and political, and then he will think more clearly, which means that you understand the reason, and then there will be blessing. When a person is blessed, he or she is rich and noble. If you eat well and dress well, you will feel proud when compared with others. Once you are proud, your behavior will deviate, and any action will betray its truth.
From this explanation, we can see that the reason for the mutual transformation between blessing and disaster is that the weakness of human nature has brought about the change of psychological state, and a series of changes have taken place.
In fact, there is also a very important underlying logic, that is: if you put a thing in a long enough period of time or enough space, its transformation will almost certainly happen.
The reason why we cant see the transformation happening for a long time is that the time is not long enough and the space is not big enough.
So, people came to comfort him, but the old man said, how come this is not a blessing?
The old man said, why isnt this a disaster?
Later, the old mans son broke his leg on horseback, and people came to comfort him.
In a short time, a good thing is a good thing, and it cant become a bad thing. However, once time goes on, good things can become bad things, and bad things can become good things.
In fact, it is not only the Tao Te Ching, but also many such wisdom in the book of changes.
For example, the highest level of the six hexagrams in qiangua says that Kang long has regrets..
What do you mean by that? It means: you have reached the highest point, and if you cant guard against arrogance and rashness and cultivate yourself, you will probably do something you regret. This is the transition, which is likely to turn into a bad state at the highest / best.
Another example: in the book of changes, there are two hexagrams: no and Tai. It means that if a thing is strong to the extreme, then it will not be far away from the time of decline. If he is unlucky to the extreme, then it will not be far away from getting better. Therefore, they will say prosperity and decline, adversity brings prosperity.
Zhuangzi also wrote a similar point of view in Qi Wu Lun: things are nothing but that, things are nothing but being, from that they are not seen, and knowing oneself is knowing them.
Through this sentence, he wants to tell us that there are relations between that and this and yes and non in all things in the world. They are interdependent and transform each other. Therefore, there is no permanent, final and comprehensive conclusion on all things. Everyone has his own prejudice, has his own set of right and wrong standards, affirming or denying others, which are one-sided from the nature of things.
However, Robert Kagan, a master of adult development theory, said that if one can see the transformation between the two poles, he has reached the highest level of mental model, that is, the internal self change.
Some peoples weakness is prudence. They are cautious in everything and like to act after careful consideration. In many peoples opinion, this is the embodiment of lack of action and courage. However, if you go to the other side of prudence, you will find that it can become a full advantage - it can help you avoid possible risks and crises, and keep you in a relatively safe area.
It can be seen that every feature of our body, which I have been talking about (talent in the talent activation workshop of vigorous College), if you use it well, it is an advantage, if you do not use it well, it is a defect. The advantages and disadvantages are just two sides of each feature in our body. They are related to each other and transformed into each other.
If you look at the nature, you will find that these Tao are already contained in nature - the moon will be missing if it is round, and it will be round again if it is not. When the tide rises, it will retreat, and it will rise again.
Surplus and deficiency are not opposites, but the two sides of the moon, which transform each other. Rising and retreating are not opposites, but two sides of the sea water, transforming each other without dividing each other.
This is the highest level of cognition, and it is also a very mature expression of ones Thoughts - the concept of mutual transformation.
There is another place besides the idea of right and wrong. I will meet you there. When the soul lies down on the grass there, the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language, and even the word each other have no meaning
Many people are looking for the realm of Enlightenment. In fact, this grassland is.