Xiong Ling: on the significance of closing the circle of friends

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 Xiong Ling: on the significance of closing the circle of friends


(2) Boring. We say that the establishment and maintenance of a relationship must be that both parties have a sense of satisfaction. On the contrary, the severance of the relationship means that both parties or one party feel that they are hindered and want to escape. Therefore, a person who chooses to close his circle of friends must have reasons for his inner discomfort or unwillingness to remain in the circle. One of his conjectures is that he feels uncomfortable in the circle of friends, such as the boredom of venting anger, the dullness of low-level talks, and perhaps other uncomfortable feelings. However, behind this reason, we can see the great difference of value orientation between individuals and circle of friends. (3) Implicit stress. Communication demand is one of the basic needs of human beings. However, the Internet age provides people with a convenient and rich communication platform, which fully meets the needs of human interpersonal links. Perhaps it is this communication demand that is excessively met that leads to the need for pause. Man is originally a species of desire. When he continues to maintain an object or group that he is not interested in, he can not be happy or satisfied, but rather a sense of burden or pressure. This feeling will unconsciously drive people to escape or stay away from things or groups.

If it is common to choose to close the circle of friends, there are two further explanations: first, the individual has not experienced the taste of emotion in the circle of friends. If you regard the circle of friends as n friends, it means that friendship is no longer, and it is time to break up. Choosing to close down means breaking up with utilitarian circle (or perhaps superficial). Second, the embodiment of individual living more self. If the relationship between an individual and a group reaches the point where the individual abandons the group, no matter who has problems, it means that the individuals independence and the ability to accept separation are embodied, which indicates that the individuals demand for interpersonal communication is becoming more and more independent and selective. If giving up is regarded as a kind of growth ability, then it is not a kind of self realization to choose to close the circle of friends? Because in the face of friends (circle) to refuse what they dont want, we need to have the courage to understand ourselves, accept ourselves and dare to be ourselves.