In the emotional world, all the things that make us feel painful can be roughly divided into two categories
First, things cant be changed;
Second, things can be changed.
For example, a girls original family, a boys inherent height, this is what we cant change.
What we can do is try to make the best of everything we can change.
Then we can make improvements one by one. During the listing period, we can ask our friends who have recognized us in the aspect that we want to change, and ask them to help us list our existing problems one by one.
Take a boys inferiority complex height as an example. He cant change his height, but you can imagine that his hair style and clothes must have room for improvement.
If we really improve all the areas we can improve, and if we do gradually improve, our overall situation will certainly be greatly improved.
As for the things we cant change, take a boys height as an example. If his height is not dominant, then he can learn from Guo Jingming, just like Guo Jingming, and treat this matter with a humorous and free attitude.
If it is not humorous, it is just because the boy himself has not yet completed self acceptance, and he has no confidence in himself.
How to overcome inferiority in feelings?
There is a class of girls in love, always unconsciously feel that other girls look younger than themselves, better than themselves, harder than themselves, better at managing their own bodies, know how to maintain and so on.
If you can take the girl you admire as an example, thats a good thing.
But because of their inferiority complex, this kind of girls not only do not learn from each other, but compare themselves with each other, so it is easy to have this tendency of self attack in front of girls who are envious and envious.
Therefore, in fact, sometimes inferiority comes from oneself, not from the other side.
Even if your partner thinks of yourself in this way, you can actually stop your partner from evaluating yourself.
The key is that we should make clear how such inferiority and low evaluation are formed?
The reason why our partner is with us must also be because we have our own advantages. This kind of unilateral self-evaluation is unreasonable.
As for evasion, it may be more serious than inferiority complex.
Because as long as a person faces the problem, regardless of inferiority, at least he has to face it.
To avoid the problem, the problem has not disappeared. The most important thing is to suppress it and let it hide deeper, which will only make the problem more serious.
It should be noted that we should not seek affirmation and comfort in communication, but only express our insecurity to the other party in a practical and realistic way.
If you communicate with him in a peaceful way, you may find a different experience.
Of course, in the emotional world, there is only one possibility to overcome inferiority, transcend inferiority, and gain real self-confidence. That is, we have found a person who really recognizes us.
They care about us, and then we find that they recognize us. At this time, we will find that all our problems of self-confidence have been solved.
On this basis, if your social circle is not wide enough and you havent met the right person, its more important to implement your actions into your life.
Expand the social circle and really communicate with the opposite sex, so that we may meet the TA who really recognizes us.
On the road of self-development, if we meet a person who likes us, the other party will accept everything we have according to the order. The other party doesnt care about our education background and height, and can feel happy just by our existence.
I think when that day comes, you will understand what Im talking about today.
How to get rid of inborn inferiority complex?
As I mentioned above, many people have a sense of inferiority only in their feelings, or because of the social environment or the formation of their own character in the process of growing up. In my opinion, these belong to the inferiority complex of post genius.
Here, I would like to share some of my experiences.
It is a very difficult process to get rid of the inferiority complex of this kind of birth.
From my first part-time job and my first part-time job, I gradually gained enough income to support myself. Then I no longer have to worry about my future survival. I will gradually establish the most basic self-confidence on the most basic food problems of my own survival.
Then, I make friends with those people who have a better family background, and gradually find that they have their troubles. They may also bear the same deep pain as our inferiority complex for birth, but only in different aspects of pain.
Just as a girl may suffer from the fact that she has no money at home to learn talents for her. For those who come from a good family background, they may suffer because they clearly do not like these talents, but their parents will arrange several classes for themselves, and they will always study without winter and summer vacation.
Just as a boy may suffer from the fact that his family needs him to study in school to help him work part-time to earn a little living allowance. Those who are born well may suffer because their parents are worried about their bad study, and they have to lock themselves at home and even play with friends during holidays.
Therefore, we may slowly find that those who are envious of themselves are also suffering. It seems that we do not feel so envious.
However, these two aspects are two sides of the same coin.
Its like a poor person who never has the right to say, whats good about rich people? Money is just a string of numbers. And so on. Its sour when you cant eat grapes.
A poor man is only qualified to say, Oh, money is just a string of numbers, and money is nothing to do with it..
Theres no point in saying these things until you have them all.
Therefore, in the final analysis, if we want to get rid of the inferiority complex brought about by the original family, we can only get rid of the inferiority complex brought about by our original family only when we become a strong person, and we can be recognized by those who admire us, and they regard us as people of the same kind.
One minute on stage, ten years off stage.
Since we are from humble origins, we are doomed to get the same light as those with better birth, which means that we have to pay more efforts than others, because what we are paying is the efforts made by their ancestors.
Nothing in the world falls from the sky. Their families are also the result of their parents hard work.
For the inferiority complex, what should we do to be really useful?
There are a lot of people, not only in the emotional world will feel inferiority, but in the process of growth due to family environment and other aspects of the formation of inferiority personality.
Just think about it. How can a person change his character overnight after spending so many years forming his character today?
1u3001 To learn to find their own flash point, and learn to get along with the characteristics of the body.
If what we see now is all negative, but as long as we use the right place or think in a different way, we will have completely new ideas.
For example, a person who says hes sensitive is good for many professions. For example, in the field of emotional counseling, sensitivity is an advantage.
Another example is that you are naturally suspicious. On the contrary, can you say that you are good at thinking and quick in thinking?
2u3001 Indulging in the past and the future has no effect, only to solve the current problems is good.