In this matter, men are relatively more open-minded than women, but they will not be easily let off by women because of his openness.
In their letters to Mingyi, many male readers have a headache about being constantly rummaged by their lovers.
Mr. A, a Changde man, confides in this way: my wife and I have been married for 25 years, and my daughter has been married. We are supposed to be a companion. We have a good relationship, but the most unbearable thing is that she has not been considerate of her every day, or what words I have made her remember for a lifetime. Whats more, I cant understand that she had a bit of conflict with my mother when she was in confinement Today, my mother has been gone for seven or eight years, and my daughter has also given birth to a baby, but my wife scolds my mother in front of her daughter and son-in-law. This old debt is endless...
Mr. B, from Qingdao, has been married for less than two years. Its supposed to be still in the wedding period, but because he accidentally said, my ex girlfriend lives in this community, she began to go through the old scores endlessly, either by comparison or by asking the woman what building she lived in. As a matter of fact, my ex girlfriend moved away when she got married earlier. However, no matter how I explained it, she just didnt believe it. She always liked to go over old debts and ask me if I bought a house in this community because of my ex girlfriend. I really cant explain it to her any more. Im afraid that a mouth is all kinds of quarrels
The most typical one is Mr. C. In his letter to Mingyi, he said: because I lived with my ex girlfriend for eight years, my wife has been breaking up old scores after marriage, and almost got divorced several times In the past two years, I dont know why. Suddenly, it was quiet. She didnt mention the old things. Occasionally, I took the initiative to talk about it. She also looked like she didnt want to hear. I thought she was mature and put it down. But last month, she told me very seriously that she was going to divorce and went to the court to sue. Do you think thats why?
Mingyi thinks that for men, it may be a little foggy for men, and that women are fussy or even trouble free. However, for women, the reason for breaking old accounts is that some things have not passed and you have not put down your heart.
Just like Mr. A, his wife has been turning over the old accounts in her month for 25 years. It must have been a great grievance at that time, and he did not have proper comfort.
Just like Mr. B, his wife cant let go of her predecessor. Its not that she is envious, but she is too polite when talking about her predecessor. Maybe he exaggerates the kindness of her predecessor, so that her wife lacks a sense of security.
Just like Mr. C, the fact that he has lived together for eight years will make his wifes life difficult. The reason is that she still cares about you. She cant live through the eight years between you and your predecessor. Once she puts it down, maybe she can see through it and stop being jealous, which means that she is not in her heart.
Once you put it down, the old ones dont exist.
The woman who turns over old accounts often loves deeply and resents deeply. I turn, because I still love.