Wang Mani, who works hard to make progress and wants to take root in Shanghai, finally meets a man who is completely in line with her heart. As a result, she is a sea king under the guise of unmarrialism.
Obedient girl Zhong Xiaoqin couldnt stand her husbands selfishness and divorced on her first day at the age of 30.
To tell you the truth, it is not easy for the TV series to maintain a high score of 7.9 points in Douban after 20 episodes.
Because a lot of domestic TV series, under the guise of exploring the society, start very amazing, after which they will step into vulgar dog blood.
There is no such thing as thirty. It has handled the real life very well. The three female masters have their own characteristics and difficulties.
For example, the perfect wife cant escape the fate of her husband cheating.
But the husband has the track to follow the derailment, precisely because the wife is too rational, excellent, excellent too strong.
For example, hupiao, who pursues life and yearns for love, has to face the urge of her parents to get married from time to time.
When the yearning love comes, you cant be free and easy when you are 20 years old, but you cant force the other party to give yourself a promise.
We have to back down.
Another example is that a good girl listens to her parents advice, and when she reaches a suitable age for marriage, she will marry on a blind date.
As a result, life after marriage is a backwater of living together. My husband is more interested in fish than in people.
Recognize the situation and divorce quickly.
But after all, the TV drama still has the protagonist halo story, the pain point has, the good point will not be less.
Life is different.
Life is more bloody than TV series.
When I watch 30, I think of a documentary about 30 unmarried women many times.
This documentary isu2014u2014
The protagonist of the documentary is a lawyer who drifts to Beijing. The bumps on her way to marriage can be seen in Wang Mani, Gu Jiazhong and Xiaoqin.
1. Urging marriage
In just 30, Wang mani is about to be 30 years old and has worked in Shanghai for eight years.
She talked to her family every day, but she couldnt get around one thing - leave Shanghai quickly, go home and get married.
When Wang mani broke up at the age of 27, she told her mother that if she couldnt buy a house in Shanghai and could not get married at 30, she would go back to her hometown.
Its about to be 30, the house is not located, and the object is not.
Helpless, had to accept the parents arranged blind date Bureau.
As a result, the blind date only took Wang mani as a free companion to take photos.
But in leftover women, the family members of female lawyers urge marriage, which is more than just urging.
The 34 year old female lawyer lives in Beijing with decent work. Most of her daily frustrations come from the word marriage.
When she returned to her hometown in Shandong, everyone in the family advised her to find someone to marry.
Her father explained that she was not married when she was over 30
Stupid at school.
She felt that she should not marry in order to complete the task. Only when she met the right person, could marriage be meaningful.
Otherwise, improper marriage, married or will leave.
But her father, with his only vision and experience, said earnestly:
How many divorces can there be in the countryside.
Others can knot, why cant you?
Everyone else is married, why do you think about divorce before you get married?
When dad is finished, mom wants to help.
But compared with dads strength, mom will be softer.
Will persuade her,
The job is stable, so its time to start a family.
If my mother gave her, it was soft but irresistible pressure.
That elder sisters urging marriage is like a sharp knife.
My sister got married early and had children. Its true that she is anxious about her unmarried sister.
But malice is also full.
My sister may not realize how much harm she has done to her sister.
The sting from the family is far more heart piercing than that from the outside world.
As a result, female lawyers did not want to go home at all.
Because going home means that the family members are urging them with all their heart and soul. Urging is pressure.
And this problem can not be solved by communication.
Parents and their sister contact with the society is not the same, life is not the same, so the concept of great differences.
No marriage is a sentence.
No matter how happy you are if you dont get married, its not called happiness.
But dont female lawyers really want to get married?
In fact, she was more anxious than anyone else in the matter of marriage.
So at the beginning of the documentary, she communicated with the staff in the marriage agency.
She also goes on blind dates a lot.
However, the right person is not easy to find.
Information from all aspects of society is telling women who are about to be 30 or who are not married yet
2. You ask too much!
The female lawyer went to the marriage agency, and the staff asked her if she had any spouse requirements.
Female lawyers say they want to find someone with a good education and respect for women.
Her last relationship, is because her boyfriend does not know how to respect women, do not do housework, male chauvinism, so talent.
This is not a particular request.
However, in the eyes of the employees of the marriage agency, a woman has passed the marriageable age and has not yet married, regardless of her own conditions. In short, in the marriage market, it is already a can that is about to expire and can only be picked by others.
The staff of the marriage agency didnt save face for the female lawyer.
She said, youre not a beauty, youre old.
Female lawyers dont think theres anything wrong with their 34 year old age.
The employee of marriage agency asks: is it?
Youre 34 and youre not married. How can you feel that youre not old?
You can only get married if you lower your attitude and regard yourself as the most vulnerable group in the marriage market!
How can you think Im in good shape?
At this time, the female lawyer is supposed to have a MMP to talk about.
But she didnt see it once or twice.
But as the years grow older, more and more people dislike her and ask for more.
Not only outsiders, but also family members feel that there are too many requirements for finding a partner.
Chatting with his father, the Father also felt that the daughter didnt know her self clearly. There are too many demands.
If the conditions are high, you delay others
Whats more, theyve been looking for you for a long time.
Parents who have worked hard in the countryside all their life go out to college for their daughter and save money.
But because she didnt get married, she was too pursuing perfection, that she didnt finish what should be done in her 30-year-old life stage, and did not find someone to marry.
But isnt reading to see a bigger world and a better life?
Are parents trying to send their children to school only to let her marry and have children?
When a woman gets to a certain age and doesnt get married, she will blame herself for her demands and problems?
In life, there are many girls who have been educated since childhood
You need to be independent.
They were introduced by a marriage agency.
After meeting, I knew that they were all from Shandong Province.
Originally, there was a small gap between the local generation gap and the taste and living habits of the villagers. Even if they had to continue to develop, they could also investigate each other.
Its easy to know the roots.
Two people are in Beijing again. If we really have a good talk, its good to form a family in the future.
However, marriage is not a matter of meeting these objective conditions.
She told the man that she was born in a very male chauvinism family.
Everything is centered on the father.
Growing up in such a patriarchal and patriarchal home, she saw all kinds of inequalities between the sexes.
So she wants her family to be equal.
But men dont think so.
Although they all grew up in patriarchal families, as their mothers made more and more money, their fathers words changed less.
He agrees with male chauvinism.
He wants to dominate the marriage.
And this, obviously, is quite different from the original intention of female lawyers.
The two people just broke up.
What makes people sad is that this is not the only one who thinks that it is a bad thing for a woman to be too smart and capable.
People with such ideas can be found everywhere in Beijings parks.
This park is for blind date. The underground is covered with information about people of all ages who need marriage.
Forced by social pressure, female lawyers will come here to look for a suitable partner.
One of them, the female lawyer thought that he was very good in all aspects, so she began to talk with his family.
It was smooth at first, but when the other party knew that she was a lawyer, she began to back down.
The female lawyer said that I am a lawyer and the firm is from Hong Kong.
The female lawyer hastily explained that the lawyer would not bully his family.
The other family members said that when there is a contradiction, it is not a family, and she cant stand it.
This passage seems absurd.
But this refusal is too mean.
This comes from one womans denial of anothers social ability.
This is the malice of some women who give up their social life to the other part of women who are vigorous in social life.
In the eyes of these people, women should be gentle and care for their families, wash their hands for soup, and help their husband and children.
As for lawsuits, its a mans business.
However, it is ironic that even if a woman is at home with her husband and children, she will still be despised for being too strong because of her intelligence.
But she was never the only one to ask for it from her husband.
She also helped her husband, who was not good at commercialization, to get orders.
But because they are too planning and capable, they feel oppressive and want to cheat for a break.
It was originally two people working together to create a better future, but suddenly they could not resonate with the same frequency.
Its not that female lawyers dont want to get married.
Its not that tens of thousands of wangmani who want to have a better life dont want to get married.
They cant get married, its not that they are demanding too much.
Its not that their material desires are too rich.
But they didnt meet anyone who could resonate with the same frequency.
Therefore, the economically independent female lawyers who want to break free eventually choose to leave the oppressed environment.
She applied to study in Paris and took advantage of it to give herself more opportunities.
More opportunities to see the world.
And this is because she is strong, so she will not reach a certain age, is really constrained.
Now, we dont know what the ending will be for Wang mani in only thirty and whether he can find a good home.
But instead of pinning hope on others, its better to give yourself more chips.
I hope she can be as free and easy as a female lawyer.
I also hope that all of them will not compromise for their age.