In this transparent Internet era, the success stories of other childrens families have penetrated into everyones life. With these success stories, there are also invisible spread of anxiety and confusion.
Under the pressure of this anxiety, everyone began to aspire to be a better and better self.
However, when people are trying to make up for their shortcomings, they unconsciously become a better others and gradually become an average person rather than a better self in the concept of equalization of this society.
Cui Cuis sharing revolves around advantages. From Xiaobai, a former career worker, to todays CEO of a start-up company, Cui Cui Cui delivers his career experience to college students who are about to graduate from the studio and uses new knowledge to help them ease their anxiety.
But to live a better life is not limited to the confused University, but also the confusion that each of us will encounter in the workplace. Today, I would like to give you Cui Cuis sharing, hoping to help you get something in the difficult year of 2020.
No one likes to be anxious, but its strange that everyone is anxious, but the degree is different.
Why is that?
In the Internet age, we all live in a transparent community.
Even if you dont want to hear it, its the success of others when you turn on your mobile phone.
Under the pressure of this kind of anxiety, everyone is eager to become a better self, so they try to catch up.
Its because we took the wrong track and went to someone elses track.
Too often, too many people are busy being better people, not being better themselves.
The question is, what are you? Do you know yourself?
Advantages are so precious that we must not turn a blind eye to them
What are your strengths?
Some say I can cook, some say I can make up, some say I can write programs, and some say I speak fast.
Tell two short stories to help understand the meaning of advantage.
Both cases occurred in the workplace.
Once the companys customer service door encountered several difficult customers, they promised a full refund, they still refused.
During the meeting, the customer service mentioned this matter, very distressed.
At this time, another department of sales circle said a word, shocked the whole audience.
what customers really need is not compensation, but emotional comfort, she said.
Otherwise, let me communicate with the customers.
Sure enough, after a round of comfort and communication, three of the five customers who would have refunded cancelled the full refund request.
Easy to get to other peoples needs, this is the advantage of round.
The second case happened to another colleague.
At one meeting, a glass cup was put by the table and almost fell off.
He was also in a hurry, but suddenly stopped, reached for a glass and pushed it back from the edge of the table.
Prudence and responsibility is the natural advantage of Lu Li.
Round or Lu Li, their advantages are not learned or imitated, but deep into their marrow.
It has been proven in neurology.
In our brain, there is a structure called synapse, which is used to connect neurons.
Since we were born, the number of synapses increases exponentially, and by the age of 3, synaptic growth has reached its peak.
Were crazy about absorbing everything we see and feel.
However, we cant understand that too much absorption makes us unable to resist. So nature began to help us turn off excessive noise, and synapses began to decrease. By the age of 16, the number of synapses decreased by half.
These synapses are the way we understand the world, what were interested in, what were good at, whats the most stable part of our personality.
Its natural, and once its formed, its hard to change for a lifetime.
Therefore, trying to turn yourself into another person is a matter of twice the result and half the result.
Find the advantage, the turning point of life will appear
After interviewing more than 4000 top talents, Chen Yu, former vice mayor of Los Angeles and CEO of top 500 enterprises, said a thought-provoking remark: all excellent people are outstanding in only one or two aspects, and other aspects are common.
The reason why they succeed is that they continue to work on their advantages.
The vast majority of people, on the contrary, have been taught by average education since childhood: failure is due to lack of effort.
So I kept on mending the short board.
The problem caused by the short board is intermittent efforts, that is to try a little, do not want to try.
Its not really your fault.
You see that successful people work harder than you, and they persevere, not because they have strong willpower, but because they try to be on their own advantages rather than on their own short boards.
Therefore, the turning point of life will appear when we find the advantages.
If you can find something that makes you strong, think, forget, and cool, Congratulations, you have found your own advantage.
If you continue to work on your strengths, you can live an easy life.