The reason is no more than that, they think the two people do not match each other, and the economic conditions of cousins family are relatively good.
My cousin is a graduate student from a famous school. Obviously, she can find a better one in the south. Why did she find a poor boy in a remote area like my brother-in-law.
From the daily relationship, cousin also found another advantage of brother-in-law - he can see and accept his cousins emotions, has the ability of empathy, and carefully detects the emotional changes of his cousin.
At that time, when my cousin took her brother-in-law home to see her parents, the second uncle privately said to his mother, such a good boy, did your daughter dig three feet to find it?
The second uncle, as a former man, was once poor when he was young. Therefore, he admired his brother-in-law, tried his best to bring them together, and took the initiative to do a good job in the ideological work of his cousins mother. He suggested that she should not focus on the material conditions in front of her, and should take a long-term view. He also praised the potential of this male student.
They all rely on themselves, did not seek financial help from cousins family.
However, they spent three years, with the best results, slapping their relatives and friends at that time.
From then on, everyone no longer said that her brother-in-law was not good, and the painting style in the family had changed. She praised her sisters good taste at that time, and she chose a good man.
After solving the major problems, having a house, a car and a baby, my brother-in-law encouraged my cousin not to forget the accumulation of this major and let her continue to work in her major field and continue her further education.
Therefore, it means that he alone has taken on the burden of supporting his family. They are like wings for each other, working for the common goal, cheering for each others choice, leaning close to each other, and striving to fly.
Fortunately, for more than two years, I have been studying day and night, and I have been getting feedback. My cousins achievements in professional field are more and more seen.
At the same time, the salary income has also been steadily increased, and the family economic burden has been eased.
My cousin later told me:
I got a lot of healing from my injury in my native family since I married him. I have more and more courage to respect and express myself.
Her parents, when she was a child, often quarreled, which led to her cousin having to learn to observe her words and expressions at a young age, fearing that her parents would scold her for saying something wrong.
A good marriage can often make the other person a better person and be a real self. Just like my cousin and brother-in-law, one has made outstanding achievements in the professional field, the other has become the companys sales champion through sales, and has managed his life.
Some single girls once said: cant find a good man, as if all good men have been picked away.
In fact, whether a man is good or not depends not on what others say, but on his own needs.
The trough of mens life is probably between 25 and 28 years old. In this period of time, whether it is money or career, they may be in a stage of preparation, and it is not easy to make achievements.
And around the age of 30, there will be a golden age, so some boys will get married around the age of 30.
Just like my cousin, she took a fancy to her brother-in-laws self-improvement. When she first got married, her brother-in-laws financial ability was relatively poor. She chose to accept it, instead of complaining that he had no money and that his shortcomings were not covered. This was the right attitude to pick people.
You want, the other party does not have, even if this person has a lot of advantages, it may not be suitable for you.
Choose what you care about most, give up some not so perfect, and make some choices. This is the best.
Author: tease, focus on the study of sexual marriage.
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