According to the police, the missing woman Lai has been killed, and the suspect is her husband Xu.
According to the confession, because of family life conflicts, Xu killed his wife while he was sleeping and separated his body to cover up the crime.
From love to killing each other, such family tragedy is really terrible.
With the kind, bottom line of people together, even if it is not appropriate, the worst result is just good get together good scattered.
But with extreme, no bottom line people together, let alone break up, may not even life safety protection.
Therefore, in terms of emotion, how to stay away from those crazy and extreme people is a problem worthy of everyones attention and thinking.
So in life, what characteristics of people need to be extra vigilant?
1. People with two sides
For example, in the case of Bao Li, a girl who committed suicide in Peking University, the perpetrator Mou usually has a graceful, considerate and warm man image, which is perfect and charming.
However, when she was alone with her girlfriend Bao Li, she humiliated her, abused and manipulated her in an almost abnormal way. Finally, Baoli, who was psychologically collapsed, sought relief by suicide.
This is the horror of dual faced people.
They are very good at camouflage themselves, always wearing masks.
They either disguise themselves as good men / women to cheat others of their first impression;
Or pretending to be an unfortunate partner who is always giving and always being betrayed, so as to cheat others sympathy.
Such a kind of deception will make people around them misjudge how such a good person can have problems, and thus may target their partners.
When people have unlimited trust in them, they will be more unscrupulous and even crazy in front of their partners.
In this case, the family is most likely to breed harm.
Its either physical, such as domestic violence, or even life-threatening tragedies, just like the case of Lady Lai from Hangzhou.
Therefore, in a relationship, when you decide to be with someone, you must learn to understand their daily words and deeds.
If its the latter, its better to be cautious.
2. People who are too sensitive
Some people are particularly sensitive.
A careless word or an unfriendly look from others may make them feel uncomfortable, feel their self-esteem or personality is hurt, and then show some extreme behavior.
Such people have a low self-evaluation and feel unwelcome or worthless. This kind of cognition leads to their weak self-esteem, which is like a soap bubble.
With such a person, you need to be extra careful and cautious, whether it is speaking or doing things together, you should pay attention to the sense of the other party, because if you are not careful, it may stimulate the other partys sensitive nerves and cause some extreme behavior.
Objectively speaking, many people are actually very sensitive. However, there is a measure of sensitivity.
If a persons sensitivity, although sometimes make you uncomfortable, or uncomfortable, but generally can live, does not affect the normal life, that is OK.
After all, people cant be perfect, some things need to be inclusive.
Its like putting out a fire. If there are small fires that you can put out at any time with your ability, its not a problem.
But if you encounter a raging wildfire and you are not willing to leave, it is likely that you will be swallowed up.
3. Extreme people
There is a news report that in Shangqiu, Henan Province, a woman Liu, unable to bear her husbands domestic violence, jumped down from the second floor to survive. As a result, she suffered multiple serious fractures and paralyzed her feet.
This is a tragedy.
What Ms. Liu cant understand is why things have developed like this.
When they first got married, the husband was considerate to himself, which was the standard image of a good man. But after only one year, he became like a devil and often raped his own family.
They like a person, good to a person, will really give all.
For you, I will give everything, even my own life!
However, such people are extremely unstable.
In other words, they can express their love in the most violent way and hate in the most violent way.
Its nothing more than physical injury and life-threatening.
This type of people is different from the two-sided people. They are not pretending to be themselves. On the contrary, whether it is love or hate, they will express it openly.
But their problem is that they always express their feelings in the most intense and extreme way.
In their own eyes, its real, but to others, especially their partners, its scary.
Therefore, in a relationship, we should not only see whether the other party loves you, but also pay attention to the way TA loves you.
People who love you in exaggerated and extreme ways are likely to hurt you in the most extreme way one day.
In short, its the old saying
If you love the right person, happiness will knock on your door every day, but if you love the wrong person, even if you pay more and be careful, you may live like the Smiths.
Of course, its not easy to find the right person.
The key is to learn to understand people, learn to see something essential through appearances.
As mentioned in the Book Cognition: thinking and intelligence behind human behavior: