To distinguish whether it is true love or not, there are some reasons that cant stand scrutiny at all. We should be sober

 To distinguish whether it is true love or not, there are some reasons that cant stand scrutiny at all. We should be sober

Just like the above sentence, you have to be sober and deliberate: it is possible that people who like you will not always want to turn you into the way they like.

Because he likes you, you are the way he likes it, so you dont need to change at all. If you want to change, you may become something he doesnt like.

Well, there is a problem with the above sentence. The one who loves you loves you is the one who loves you. Unless he does not love you, he will want to make you look like he likes.

If he wants to make you the way he likes, he doesnt love you like this.

It may be that he loves you, but you are not the standard he likes. But fell in love with you, so his standard also changed, his preferences also changed.

His previous specific requirements for his lover also changed, as if he had overturned the previous setting and fell in love with someone somehow.

This should be based on feeling, but he likes you because you have something worth liking.

However, there is no perfect person in the world, so if there are advantages, there must be shortcomings.

No matter how much a person loves you, it is impossible to love every aspect of you. You must also have some appearance that he doesnt like very much, just because he loves your excellent appearance, so he tolerates the appearance he doesnt like.

At this time, he will be patient at first, will persuade himself to love you as a whole, and cant care about asking for so much. However, if you dont change or enlarge your shortcomings for a long time, he may not be able to endure all the time.

Anyway, he cant really like your shortcomings. If you can correct them, he will like them better.

But after getting along with each other for a long time, we will find that there are still some shortcomings in him that we dont want to accept, which we dont like, which can only be tolerated or deliberately ignored.

If he can get rid of these shortcomings, then I will love him more. If he doesnt change, I can only feel helpless.

So if we see the first sentence of the article, dont take it as your motto, and use this rule to measure your lover or partner.

If he doesnt like one of your shortcomings, you think he doesnt love you and forces the other party to like all of you, including your shortcomings.

No one really likes shortcomings, and some of them are really just shortcomings, which need to be corrected. It is not to say that the shortcomings are not like shortcomings in you or not in the eyes of your lover.

If we know this, we will know how to constantly revise ourselves, and make ourselves better and more worthy of your lovers love.

Its a mistake to ask others to love your faults without any intention to correct them.

Some words, because one-sided, so that people who identify with live in fantasy, live in unrealistic theory.

If you want a person to really love you for a long time, it is better to see what shortcomings he does not like. He may not say it, but he will be bored and wont like it after a long time. If you can change it, he will certainly like you more.

Will make do with some, tolerate some, there will be some parts you dont like.

After the hot love period, a long time, you will not want to endure, will also start to be bored, let alone like those shortcomings, but this does not really mean that you do not love him.

So if the other party gets rid of those shortcomings, do you think you will love him more?