In a close relationship, I feel like Im hired.

 In a close relationship, I feel like Im hired.

In particular, I hate eating out and I dont get up early (he hates all the food out there, and I dont get up early, which leads to my lunch not on time). Basically, the contradiction is caused by these two reasons.

If he wants to terminate this relationship, he will not retain him or give me any financial assistance. I would like to ask General Guo to give me some analysis and suggestions. thank you!

Generals reply:

There is no difference in the age of your two partners, or there is no difference in their age.

Combined with my understanding and your description, your partners need for your partner is to keep his daily life in order.

I have an observation that is not necessarily true. The older a person is, the lower the elasticity of life is.

For example, a fixed time to get up, a fixed time to walk, a fixed time to eat, and sometimes a few minutes to make them feel uncomfortable.

In fact, they feel a sense of control and security because they are familiar with the environment. They will feel uncomfortable if they have to face too many uncontrollable elements when eating out.

This is not wrong, but a trend caused by different psychological needs in different stages of development.

But for you, this inflexible lifestyle will make you uncomfortable and make you do exactly what he wants. It will also make you feel employed.

To tell you the truth, Im sorry to ask the cleaning aunts that they have to start and finish at what time.

You said that your contradictions are all caused by these problems. In fact, these problems are part of the lifestyle. The solution is compromise and acceptance.

One partys compromise and acceptance will only bring about a sense of grievance and imbalance, and the relationship is also unhealthy. Both sides are willing to step back and give in a little, so that the relationship can be long-term and balanced.

So, what are your needs for your partner and can he meet them? Whats your way of solving conflicts? Is it up to you to compromise?

If you want to separate these questions, you will have the answer.