Her tone shows that she is very anxious for the peeping impulse that she cannot overcome. She seems to have foreseen that this strong desire to control her husband may cause the family to fall apart and out of control, but she has been unable to extricate herself.
Her friend openly gave her a kind warning, which shows how far things have developed, and why they have no feeling? She was not only angry, even panicked. She was unpredictable. What would happen to him next? Anger and terror filled her heart with hallucinations, as if the house were to be destroyed tomorrow. Scenes of the past quickly passed in his mind, and the accepted and past facts were full of doubts: Why did he always have to call on his cell phone instead of on his back at home? Why does he have to be home after 12 oclock every night? Why She couldnt help it any longer. She paged her husband three times just after midnight. After that, she covered her ears nervously with her hands. She was afraid to hear the bad news from the telephone.
At first, her husband didnt understand why his wife always called at work. Her husband calls back in time every time, which makes her investigation impossible. However, as soon as she puts down the phone, her heart is filled with suspicion. Because her mind has been controlled by the advice phone, she has been constantly hinted that there is no fire without wind, and there is a reason for her husbands affair.
Under the control of this psychology, she was no longer satisfied with her husband. She only answered with her on the phone. Finally, one day, she could not care to hide her real psychology any more. She asked her husband to let her colleagues talk with her to prove that.
My husband works long and middle classes for many years. Midnight is the busiest time in all kinds of nightclubs and entertainment halls. When he is tired that day
Looking at his wife crying, the husband finally said, whats the use of what I said? You believe what I said? Its better to visit yourself. After a long time, the truth will come out.
One day, when she woke up from a nightmare in the middle of the night and felt the half empty bed around her, her endurance seemed to be at its utmost. She paged her husband three times in a row, which had the tendency of I cant live if you dont go home again. Her husbands return call finally came. She breathed a little, and her mood eased a little. What was terrible was that she heard a womans voice nearby from the phone, so she couldnt restrain hysteria. She must tell her husband exactly where he was at that time, and then she took a taxi to rush there crazily. After the climax in the nightclub, the husband was in the office discussing the performance with the middle-aged female manager, sipping coffee. The husband cant hide his anger at the frightened wife who rushes into the door, but the female manager knows the whole situation in a moment.
On the way home, the husband said to his weeping wife, before this, I have never transgressed. From now on, I dont know what will happen. I cant always get along with someone who doesnt trust me. Since you expect to prove your groundless conjecture, why should I be lonely. Now its my turn to ask you, what would you think if I left...
His wife suddenly stopped crying, raised her puzzled face and said, will you? Then she trembled like a fever.
As the saying goes: a lie is a truth after it has been told a thousand times. That is because people are constantly hinted by lies in the process of speaking, and finally it has become a fact. Also, some people believe that the false is equivalent to the truth after listening to many lies. Her husband, after being repeatedly visited by his wife, came up with the idea of why cant I have a girlfriend? whats more, the wife dominated by the peeping impulse can no longer bring the warmth of his family and the happiness of his husband and wife.
Since the truth has been initially revealed, the wifes heart seems more stable. She now believes that the matter is not out of control, but that she needs to restore her husbands heart step by step. She started a series of rescue project activities. She was in this state of mind when she called for advice.
I suggest that she first stop the follow-up investigation of her husband. Calling on the phone, or having a private investigator, not only doesnt help, it also makes things worse. Only when we stop harassment resolutely and thoroughly can we find out the truth in the natural state.
According to my advice, when the impulse to call is hard to restrain, she can go shopping to disperse her anxiety. However, she said with tears that this kind of control was too difficult for her. Even walking on the street, even seeing the public phone, would arouse her impulse to call. For this reason, she felt very painful and desperate.
In my opinion, this doctors wife is lucky enough. The husband bet his marriage chips on the family side, which is not necessarily out of conscience and morality, but more out of comprehensive consideration. On balance, he needs all the existing.
Together with her, I analyzed the psychological motivation of the caller. Generally speaking, this kind of irresponsible phone call is not out of love and care for friends and their wives, but more likely to be hate and jealousy. It may be that he was dissatisfied with his friend as the orchestra leader, or the woman who was close to the trumpet player was his secret love object for a long time, so he foolishly used this method to let his wife repair his husband, so that he could get a chance. Although we cant know exactly why, the nature of his harassment is certain.
In compliance with my wifes wishes, I dialed her husbands cell phone, and I heard a very depressing bass. He showed dissatisfaction with being disturbed, but when I said that I was a psychological worker and told his wifes psychological problems needed him to cooperate in treatment, his attitude was obviously eased. When he knew that his wife was not unreasonable, but caused by illness, he seemed to have a kind of relief. I dont think he is easy, so he is respectable.
This incident gives me an inspiration: in a marriage relationship, trust between husband and wife is the most important, and the appropriate psychological distance is the concrete embodiment of trust. Once you lose trust, the closer you chase, the farther he will escape.
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In the case of her self-esteem and her specific requirements, we should consider her as one-sided, practical and exclusive.
It is also the husband who has an affair, but the situation is different. Some are sexual partners, some are business partners, some are playing games, and there are relationships that they cant tell themselves clearly. In this case, after the situation changes, more husbands can wait for home. For men, there is also a problem of comprehensive interests. Of course, those who have bad conduct or have intimate feelings with the other party are excluded. If we meet a husband who is determined to leave home, it is our duty to help her understand the truth of the matter, to get out of the sorrow as soon as possible, and to minimize the harm.
Because of these lessons, middle-aged women will inevitably be neurotic. They are suspicious because of the fear of change, and they are all ready to fight. In the end, they regard imagination as true and make a safe marriage a problem. This is the last thing we want to see. I hope this case can give women friends some enlightenment, we have nothing to do in our marriage life, we are not afraid of things, what should be forgiven, what should be insisted on, we can have a clear mind, in this way, we can not be surprised, we can protect ourselves effectively.