Why cant we always talk?

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 Why cant we always talk?


She has been in the company for three years, and she can be pleasant to everyone. Sometimes the leader is in a bad mood, and if she stabs her, she doesnt say anything.

But she always cant control her emotions in front of her family. Once, when a literary friend went to her best friends house, she happened to meet her husband who lost his wallet. She patted the table and taught him that she was too old to remember. Her salary was low, but she was happy to lose money.

Next to the daughter also suffered, a month or two ago lost toys, she also took out a meal to blame.

In private, literary friends advise her to speak like this. Its hard for her husband and children to listen.

She said with disapproval: a family, pay attention to so many do what, to them fierce, but also for their good.

Are you familiar with such scenes? In fact, there are a lot of people around us who are so split. They always leave the best temper to strangers, but the worst to the closest.

This reminds me of the law of error in Psychology: the biggest mistake people make in daily life is to be too polite to strangers and too harsh to close people.

One of the important reasons for this contrast is that, in some peoples eyes, if outsiders cant offend, family members will not care. Anyway, family members will not hold grudges and will not leave themselves.

Little do not know, reckless, does not mean that the injured do not care; easy to forgive, does not mean that the feelings are not hurt.

Zhou Guoping said: it is instinct to be critical of close people, but to overcome instinct and not to be critical of close people is a kind of education.

Family members are the people who have been together for the longest time and have the most intimate feelings. Being kind to family members is a persons top education and lifelong cultivation.

At any time, we should leave the best emotions to the closest people.

Two

Emotional stability

Its the best Feng Shui in a family

His wife replied, he doesnt talk to me more than three times every day. Do I make him so disgusted?

The wife let the emotional tutor judge. Emotional tutor said: today you two can come here, it shows that you still cherish marriage. What else can you do for each other

His wife said, I am a cow and a horse every day. He is not satisfied. He doesnt know what else to do.

The husband sincerely said to his wife, I dont need you to do a lot for me. I can do all the work at home. I just want you to smile at me every day.

Just hope that his wife will smile at himself every day. Is the husband demanding too much? Its not high, but this wife just cant do it.

In fact, many people in reality have not done so. When we get angry or encounter something unpleasant outside, we always use our family members as garbage cans to vent our emotions wantonly. Our faces are ugly and our words are hard to hear.

As a result, hurt the other party does not know, do not respect the other side also feel for granted. Over time, there will be crises and cracks in family life. Any small problem among family members may become a big problem affecting family happiness.

Stephen Covey wrote in the seven habits of efficient families:

We are used to yelling at our family members, blaming but not understanding, ordering but not communicating, learning not to thank and apologizing. We all feel that we have paid too much for our family life, but we have neglected the most important point: effective communication.

There is no need for family members to divide the victory and defeat. It is the most stupid behavior to lose temper with the family members who get along with each other day and night.

It is instinct to have emotions, and it is ability to control emotions. Emotional stability is the best geomantic omen of a home.

Three

Since tofu heart

Why knife mouth

Some people get angry at their families and hurt others by talking. Its not that he really doesnt love them in his heart, but his words always turn sour when they speak. The family only see his knife mouth, but not his bean curd heart.

There is such a family, daughter and classmates get home very late, parents are waiting for her in the living room.

As soon as the daughter entered the door, her mother said angrily, do you still know how to come back? What time is it? If you dont answer the phone or wechat, who are you worried about?

My daughter explained, I didnt hear my cell phone ring, nor did I read wechat. They all said that I had something to do. When I came back late, you could sleep with you. Dont wait for me.

Mother a listen to this words more angry: you still have reason!

Seeing a quarrel break out, dad stood up and said:

So late, tired? Your mother and I have been waiting for you, even if you said you would come back late, lets go to bed early without waiting for you, we cant sleep, worry about you. When I come back late, Ill call home in the middle of the way, so we can rest assured.

The daughter listened and said, I know, Dad, I will call home in time.

The parents worries and concerns about their children are the same, but the mothers words make the daughter feel less concerned, but criticize and complain; the fathers words not only fully express their concern for their daughter, but also tactfully remind her of her inappropriateness. After listening, the daughter fully accepted it, because she felt concerned.

Psychology believes that the success or failure of communication between people, 80% depends on emotion.

To communicate with family members, good words should also be easy to say, with a pleasant face and soft tone, so as to receive the ideal effect.

Close the knife mouth and leave tofu heart.

Four

The most difficult upbringing

Its about being nice to your family

Ive seen such a story.

Zhou Jue said, we both earn such a little salary in a month. What can we do to raise children?

The mother said, why cant we raise it? We used to be much poorer than you, but I have given birth to four of your brothers and sisters, and I have brought up all of them?

Zhou Jue was upset by her mother and said, OK! Come on! How well do you think we have raised our brothers and sisters! Its like raising chickens and feeding pigs all day long. The conditions are so bad that you cant eat or wear them!

I am a girl, has been picking up her brother and sisters old clothes to wear, until high school did not wear a piece of their own new clothes! I would rather not have children than suffer from this kind of suffering for my own children

After listening to Zhou Jues words, her mother was very sad. She hid in the room and secretly wiped her tears.

The mothers mood in persuading her daughter to give birth early is beyond reproach. The daughters unwillingness to give birth early can be explained with her mother patiently. She should not be impatient to turn over old accounts and criticize and ridicule the mother.

Mother worked hard to bring up the child, no return, in exchange for complaints, how can not sad tears.

Confucius said that lust is difficult, which means that it is the most difficult to treat parents with a pleasant face.

It is believed that many people can bring gifts to visit their parents on New Years holidays, or invite a nanny, eat a big meal, or treat their parents. However, it is difficult to be kind to their parents.

Some people have summed up six sentences that children often say to their parents

Your set is out of date;

I told you not to clean up my room, you cant find anything;

I know what I want to eat. Dont clip it to me;

(function(){( window.slotbydup=window .slotbydup||[]).push({id:u5811557,container:ssp_ 5811557, async:true }Think about these words, do we also say them to our parents? Many people always vent their worst feelings to their parents, and they always lack enough respect and patience for those who should be respected most. Filial piety to parents is not only to give them material satisfaction, and to speak well with them is the greatest filial piety to parents. One year, Bill Gates told the reporter of opportunity magazine in Italy that love is the most can not wait, love is the opportunity that we cant delay the most. Relatives only once fate, only in this life, no next life. Parents will leave sooner or later, children will fly away when they grow up, and one of our partners will leave first. We cant cherish when we have it and regret it when we lose it. Leave the best emotions to the most intimate people, will not let their own life have regrets, but also the true treasure of the good feelings in life. Source: Netease open course editor: Chen Danni_ NBJS1859

Think about these words, do we also say to our parents? Many people always vent their worst feelings to their parents, and they always lack enough respect and patience for those who should be respected most.

Filial piety to parents is not only to give them material satisfaction, and to speak well with them is the greatest filial piety to parents.

Relatives only once fate, only in this life, no next life.

Parents will leave sooner or later, children will fly away when they grow up, and one of our partners will leave first. We cant cherish when we have it and regret it when we lose it.