In fact, people are the same. In the past experience, there will be many problems, even psychological trauma, which has not been dealt with in time, and has become our spiritual burden.
If these burdens can not be digested and handled in time, they will have a great impact on our current life.
Depression is an emotion that points to the past.
In short, a large part of the reason why people feel depressed is that they cant let go of what has happened.
Here, were going to talk about guilt in detail.
First of all, proper guilt is healthy, and also a reflection of ones moral values.
For example, as parents lose temper with their children, or as friends, we misunderstand the good intentions of others, and we will feel guilty at this time.
Guilt will remind us to be a good person, a person who can think for others, so that we can have more intimate and high-quality relationships with others.
But guilt, once excessive, can become a bad thing. It will make a person in a kind of uneasiness and pain for a long time and become a poison on the soul.
Especially for some people with a good heart and a strong sense of morality, when they hurt others because of their own mistakes, it is difficult to put down the burden of guilt.
In their consciousness, the world is black and white, right is right, wrong is wrong. There is a strict set of right and wrong standards in the whole world, and everyone should follow this standard.
Therefore, it is a serious mistake to hurt others, which they cant bear.
So, how to eliminate this guilt?
In the film the new police story, Jackie Chan plays Chen Guorong, a legendary figure in the police force. In his years of working as a police officer, his detection rate is 100%, and his popularity is unmatched.
However, in the process of handling a case, because of a moment of carelessness, he was trapped by criminals, leading to the killing of many brothers around him.
From then on, Chen Guorong was tortured by the sense of guilt in his heart all day long. He became more and more decadent. He drank too much and gave up himself.
The reason for this is that guilt is a destructive force. To ease the guilt, one needs to be punished by the person who has done wrong, and this person is himself. Therefore, only by abandoning oneself and making himself live a bad and unhappy life will he feel punished and feel better.
Many people who are trapped in depression and guilt are hard to extricate themselves.
Therefore, if you want to avoid depression and make your life more relaxed and happy, you need to clear up those problems and burdens accumulated in your heart in time.
How to do it?
1. Accept the mistakes you have made
Those who pursue perfectionism, on the surface, are pursuing perfection, but in fact they are avoiding problems and afraid of making mistakes.
This may be due to some bad experiences in their childhood, such as once they make mistakes, they will be criticized or even punished by their parents.
However, the value of life is to create something valuable in countless problems and chaos.
It is necessary to bear the corresponding responsibility for the past mistakes. However, for many people who are used to taking responsibility for themselves, they should also pay attention to asking themselves when problems arise
Did you cause it directly or indirectly? Did you do it intentionally or unintentionally? You have different responsibilities for different reasons. If its not directly caused by you, and the result is not your intention, then tell yourself: its not your fault.
Even if you need to be responsible for it, it has a time limit. Some people, for some reasons at that time, did something that others and themselves could not forgive. In this regard, we should really shoulder our due responsibilities. However, any fault is not worth a lifetime to bear.
At the end of Hayao Miyazakis film thousand and one thousand, Xiaobai said this sentence when sending Chihiro back to the real world
This sentence is actually a metaphor, which reminds people:
Dont live in the past all the time.
Only by saying goodbye to the past bravely can we have a better future.