Older single young women tell you: blind date is not simple, behind is a plan of parents

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 Older single young women tell you: blind date is not simple, behind is a plan of parents


A reader told me that she was 26 years old and had never been in love.

Forced by the pressure of her age and family, she had to start a blind date. However, she had a subconscious aversion to blind date, and she had no yearning for love and marriage.

The reason why she lost her yearning heart has something to do with her mothers sudden death.

This readers state, in fact, reflects the ideas of many young people - Buddhism, Suiyuan.

So, live a good life, in order to maintain a positive and optimistic state.

I have seen more boys, and I found that most unmarried men have misunderstandings about themselves.

Even if they have nothing, are poor and have no success in their career, they still feel that they are very popular in the marriage market.

If you have a house and think you can go to heaven, the object must be white, beautiful and long legs.

Anyone who has another car, whether he drives 50000 or 100000, thinks that only Lin Zhiling is worthy of himself.

Really want to ask: where do you come from courage, Liang Jingru to it? What kind of 13 do you look in the mirror?

Whats wrong with a woman at 30? Shes at the top of her life, in her prime, at her best age.

After the age of 30, there are fewer and fewer witnesses of life, but they can also witness themselves.

Therefore, no matter how urged by parents, never feel wronged by yourself, and do not marry for the sake of marriage.

In the age of ability, most single young women have a house and a car, have a good income and a small capital, so they can live a good life and live a leisurely life.

Although parents have good intentions and hope you can find someone to take care of you, think about it carefully

Only by finding one with the same frequency and mutual recognition can we create more surprises. The marriage of strong and powerful can stand the test of a lifetime.

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In fact, marriage promotion and blind date are just appearances. Whats more important is that we must learn how to grow ourselves, make our personality more perfect and establish our own personality boundary.

As for parents, when they see their children at the marriageable age but still single, they are very anxious.

Many of these anxieties come from the outside world, which is a very common problem in Chinese society, and we are transmitting anxiety.

Parents will feel attacked and start to have anxiety. Due to the problem of face, they cant fight back at others.

But they cant digest the pressure of being compared, so they pass on their anxiety to their childrenu2014u2014

If you look at other people who have two children, why havent you got married yet? You dont even have a partner?

If this kind of words is said too much, the child will also be brought into the anxiety mood, and reflect on whether he has really let his parents down.

Even more powerful parents will say: look at the so and so students who used to study with you, and then look at you. You work alone in the field, helpless. In case you have something wrong, your parents should worry about it!

If you want to have a child, a home and someone to take care of you, we will be relieved.

Here, I also suggest that readers who are already parents try to learn Buddhism and understand their childrens life planning.

When the child grows up, reaches the marriageable age, and has not been married, please learn to understand his current choice, respect his feelings, and not convey this anxiety to him.

I just hope that every child is the crystallization of love, not the props of everyone came here like this, just for the sake of inheriting the family.

From the beginning of our generation, we can live our own wonderful life without placing our sense of value on our children.

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Author: tease, focus on the study of sexual marriage.

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