You know, its going to ruin your day.

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 You know, its going to ruin your day.


Because of the arrival of children, you may experience body deformation, physical injury, emotional deterioration and so on, which can be said to be a heavy price.

At the same time, no matter how hard the mother is, you will not be hurt by force;

Youll still stick to the fitness, because youre afraid of illness, more afraid of death, will work harder to be a better self.

Despite the particularity of the characters, Gu Jias monologue after becoming a mother really points to the pain of quite a number of mothers.

Yes, which mother is not with the baby and their own full run, bearing a sweet load.

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Working moms need to be promoted if they want to be born

The survey on the living conditions of working mothers in 2020 released by zhaopin.com this year shows that:

Working mothers spend an average of nine hours a day on work and 1.6 hours on housework. Up to 87.2% of working mothers spend their off-duty time with their families, which is more than twice that of unmarried women. No matter from big data or from the reality, working mothers spend much less time on rest and entertainment than other working women.

Even if the times have advanced to today, the golden childbearing age of women is still a multiple-choice question in front of all women.

Maye musk, 24, and his son

It can be seen from this that most working mothers are unwilling to give up their career for family planning, and they want to be born and promoted.

So what are working moms like?

They can hold babies in their left hands, make phone calls with their right hands, or put their babies on their legs. They can also keep a close eye on the computer while nursing. Everything seems so easy and self-contained, which seems to be the perfect template for balancing family and career.

However, in fact, beautifying excessive scenes and pictures is like a kind of social lie, covering up the bitterness of working mothers under the brilliance.

In a ted talk, the speaker directly reveals some of the breaking moments that she will face every day as a working mother

Xi Yuelan, who was not long after her delivery, did her best to become a product manager

She takes her computer to the sucking room every day and trains herself to suck only once a day. According to the normal sucking time of 3 hours, the breast swelling will be as hard as a stone and extremely painful. Running to the sucking room often affects her work. She resisted the pain and delayed smoking for an hour every day until the interval was 10 hours.

The truth of working mothers, as actor Ma Yili said, whats the balance? Balance is that there are bound to be sacrifices.

In most cases, the mother is the one who tends to sacrifice first.

Working mothers run hard on the two runways of parenting and working. They are not willing to lose themselves, and they are not allowed to miss the growth of too many children.

After all, the process of childrens growing up is too irreversible, no one can grow up twice in a lifetime, missing is missing.

Stay at home mom, is it easy?

Would it be possible to quit your job, concentrate on taking care of your baby and become a full-time mother, and all the life pressure and parenting problems will be solved?

The answer is obviously no, and in real life, stay at home moms are not easy.

Moreover, if there is a role in the world that is never laid off once you become one, the first candidate must be mother. In this never laid off career, full-time mothers have started the job of unconditional 24-hour standby.

However, the reward of this job is often unable to get clear statements and see clear trends like working mothers. Compared with working mothers, every overtime has a trace to follow, and every hard work can be seen by family members. However, the pay of full-time mothers is often in a invisible state.

Because they are full-time mothers, they should do as much as possible for their children, and because they have no income from work, they have to rely on their husbands and other social prejudices make full-time mothers add more mental pressure besides housework.

In short, stay at home moms, although their main business is to bring children every day, still have a strong desire for self-improvement. They stick to the track of their families, and hope to find a way to take off in situ based on family and career.

They may have only one child in front of them, but they have thousands of troops in their hearts. It is a reflection and self-examination of the present, and imagination and planning of their own future.

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Child care and self-care

Both working mothers and full-time moms are just choices of different lifestyles. When women become mothers, no one can escape the dramatic changes in their lives brought about by their status upgrading: lack of time, scattered energy, habitual fear and disconnection from societyu00b7u00b7u00b7

That is a state that every mother has experienced or is experiencing. Therefore, in the process of guiding children to grow up, never give up and cultivate their own consciousness is as important as parenting.

Therefore, when the elder sister focused on the role of mother, she thought that it should not be a perfect mother manual, but it must focus on the most practical life, take all mothers to discuss and deal with it, and the six major changes after becoming a mother include:

Sleep and rest, figure and shape, consumption habits, family division and relationship, responsibility and ability, emotion and mentality.

Rebuild the management model from three aspects of time, energy and division of labor, and establish the ability chassis of your all-around mother.

Among them, how to raise children is a relatively low priority, because before helping children, women must first become themselves, grasp their own course firmly, and then consider helping children build a growth path.

In fact, look around, which mother is not doing her best to run, but life is not a sprint but a marathon. It is good to be ahead when the gun is fired, but it is more important to have a long-term layout and a stable rhythm.

The learning process of being a mother is also a process of womens self-improvement. Every mother should have the right to be a better self.

After all, even if you become a mother, you are the core competitiveness of your life.