It is the most basic position of intersubjectivity psychoanalysis to emphasize the relationship between subjects and to give real experience in the relationship, which is also the perspective throughout the whole analysis process. As for the visitors performance at this moment, however abnormal, it is the message he wants to convey to us. The abnormal behavior and language contain the expression of his current needs and feelings. In the case of sexual uneasiness, the subject will have too many experiences that are not accepted by the subject (because, those self contents related to early trauma, which are suppressed and suppressed, are fragmented or fragmented. The part of the sense of subjectivity is empty, and it is difficult to experience yourself). At the beginning, you can only experience superficially, but you are afraid and refuse to experience deep experience. If the therapist approaches directly at this time, the visitors will not be able to bear it and the relationship between the subjects will be broken. So, what we can do, besides listening and feeling, is to wait and hold on for a period of time until the visitors mood is calm and there is a dream. After that, we can ask openly and respond to the real experience. What needs to be remembered is: a good response will arouse the other party to experience, deepen and respond again; if the response frequency is different and the tone is different, it should be corrected in time. We should be aware of and grasp that the response of co-ordination is greater than that of dislocation. Often, the case falls off because there are too many misplaced responses. When the client begins to open himself, the scene between the subjects will have the following vitality: the feelings presented by the client and the feelings of the therapist (i.e. counter empathy) will appear in a clearer and clearer inner picture. In the cycle of real response, both sides of the subject see more and more: the clients anxiety, sadness, resentment, grievances, grievances, grievances, grievances, and feelings of injustice and fear What kind of emotions are, where they come from, etc. In the scene between Jiao Jiao Jiao and me, because of her association and expression of her emotional feelings (also known as narration), I have many vivid pictures of her in my heart. One of them is: there are several rooms in her heart that are not connected with each other, and there are children with different injuries. They are tired but alert. They hold the door bolt in hand, and when there is a sound, they plug the door bolt immediately There was a small forest on the edge, and a lonely but energetic child was walking through it. In this picture, I experience sadness, heartache, peace and curiosity.