Xiong Ling: road blocks the heart

 Xiong Ling: road blocks the heart

There is no relevant clinical research and diagnostic classification of road rage in the medical field, because it is only a social phenomenon, not a category of human pathology study. But I dont think its important to define road rage scientifically. Whats important is that the fact that people are angry because of road block is enough to warn people to pay attention to your emotions and control your anger.

According to the appearance of Lu Nu, from the medical point of view, Lu Nu disease is like a kind of reactive mental disorder in psychiatry. That is to say, paroxysmal mental disorder, such as hallucination, syncope, rage, hysteria and other symptoms, occurs under the stimulation of external causes. Traffic jam is the source of drivers psychological frustration. Road rage symptoms are just like reactive mental disorder. Its just that their inducements are different from some performances, but the personality psychological quality behind their performances is the same.

If the automobile age symbolizes the progress of civilization, then road rage is the inevitable cost of civilization. Because, first of all, we need to understand that in an era of overcrowding, there are naturally overcrowded vehicles. When people are stuck in traffic, blocked roads and blocked targets, they naturally feel as if they are on pins and needles, squatting in confinement, and their hearts are blocked and flustered. Heart block is bound to have a series of symptoms of anger injures the liver. Therefore, traffic jams will lead to road rage. Traffic jams are the inevitable result of overcrowding. But if people experience road jams and heart block for a long time, they should be careful to suffer from road rage.

People with this personality are prone to road rage

Bigotry and incorrect expectations of paranoid, self conceited personality, people are often extremely extreme or self. For example, when there is a traffic jam, even if there is no need to rush at all, the driver will still set an expected time for himself to arrive at the destination within the specified time. When the goal does not take the will as the transfer, and cannot fulfill the expectation, it will be easy to feel frustrated and stimulate anger.

How to go without anger

Any behavior of human has its own purpose. When people are in the process of reaching the goal, they are forced to limit their freedom of behavior. They must be impatient, depressed or resentful. But we can do it: we can feel resentment and stay calm. As long as you are willing, as long as you love life, you can and must go on the road without anger.

Learning to manage emotions is the animal of emotions. When the desire is frustrated, there must be negative emotions, but people are also rational animals. They can not be controlled by emotions, but also can control their own emotions and behaviors. Irritable people just lack rational emotional control, so they can adhere to the principle of emotional management to train and improve their self-control ability. The principle (ability) of emotion management is embodied in: when the negative emotions such as anger come, dont avoid - can face up to the emotions, accept the emotions; dont suppress - can release without harm, will feel the anger to things not to people; dont blame - can face up to and transform the emotions; dont complain - can tolerate and pacify the emotions.

The cultivation of personality and mentality is about the things that are easy to start with. In ancient times, there were rivers and mountains are easy to move and nature is hard to change. But no matter how difficult it is, as long as we know its root cause, there is a way out. Road rage, we know that the root of the disease is not in the traffic jam itself, but in the drivers A-type character or bad mentality, then, if you dont go on the road with anger and dont get angry when the road is blocked, you can only improve your personality and correct your mentality.

For the irritable and irritable people (especially the type a personality), first of all, we need to change the characteristics of impetuosity and fast action, and demand that everything be slowed down: eating, speaking, walking, time, thinking, desire In short, thinking slow down is the foundation of your long and healthy life.

Exercise several abilities:

Tolerance many things in life are not run by peoples will, which determines that you must have tolerance to delay gratification. The biggest weakness of irritable people is their urgency. In fact, they lack the ability to delay gratification, which is reflected in their extreme impatience in everything that needs perseverance or waiting (from queuing, traffic jams, to career achievements and job promotions), and they are prone to lose their temper, scribble, or rush through life without success. Therefore, people with type a personality characteristics need to cultivate a kind of tolerance to anxiety, loneliness and helplessness.

The ability to accept loss includes the ability to give up. Many people know that if there is loss in life, there will be gain, there will be loss, but not many people can do it. For the irritable, because of the lack of ability to delay gratification, they can only accept gain and cant bear loss. In case of any dissatisfaction, they will feel as if they have lost something, or they will be depressed or angry.

So the irritable need to learn, and when you meet a need, you have to accept a loss. For example, when you realize the need to own a fragrant car, meet the sense of achievement and control brought by driving, you must accept the necessary traffic jams in the era of fragrant cars and the related losses it brings.

The ability to calm down is the fickle environment. You may have many fickle people, but do you lack a calm heart? If you are often irritable, then for your health, you need to learn to practice your meditation ability.

In fact, these abilities are what we all need. In this era full of competition, rapid development and high manic depression, everyone is faced with psychological crisis and personality challenges, and physical and mental cultivation is a required course for everyone. Otherwise, we will be prone to mania or depression or road rage. On the contrary, if we have the mentality of indifferent, clear-minded, peaceful and far-reaching, and the ability to meditate, no matter how barren the world is, how winding the road is, and how crowded the vehicles are, you may not be anxious, frightened or angry.