Its ridiculous to think that the ex will come back if he meets the ex. as long as he meets the ex, all problems can be solved easily!
I should say that its OK not to meet. The more anxious I am to meet my predecessor, the more difficult it is to recover.
So, in the process of recovery, why not rush to see your predecessor?
According to Melanie biann, a professor of psychology at the University of California, 55% of peoples impression depends on their external image, 38% comes from body language, and only 7% is determined by what you say.
Even if you make a bad impression on your ex, thats about 7% of the overall impression. Therefore, its good for impression management not to rush to see your predecessor.
If you dont listen to dissuasion and insist on meeting your ex, you will expose all your shortcomings to your ex and let your image in his mind plummet.
However, if you dont rush to see your predecessor, you will silently change and improve yourself. Occasionally, wechat will deliver your changes. The former pays attention to you with a dubious attitude, which can make the former feel mysterious.
When you, change and promote in place, and then meet with the former, not to see already, see amazing! He will look at you in a flash and even fall in love with you.
Highly emotional, resulting in ineffective communication
After the break-up, the heart is unwilling to understand why the other side will break up with me, I love him so much, why he wants to break up with me, I feel very shameless and psychologically unacceptable.
You dont think he should do this. You think he has no conscience. You feel that you have been insulted and betrayed. You dont want to meet him to express your feelings, but to express your anger and unwillingness.
Because you meet your ex with an emotion, it will inevitably lead to irrational communication. In addition, the other person may not be prepared to meet you at all, or he is very disgusted and conflicted with you at present. If two people meet in such a highly emotional state, coupled with irrational communication, the results can be imagined!
And the more you dont want to meet your ex, the more you want to meet him. Its a process against humanity. After breaking up, the man is most afraid of entanglement, the last want to see you. It doesnt add fuel to the fire to see him in such a hurry!
So, after breaking up, dont worry about meeting, think clearly, what is meeting for, is meeting useful?
Many girls naively think that things that cant be solved by wechat can be solved by meeting each other, which is a kind of self feeling good.
Your ex is really different from before. He will be very happy to see you. In addition, the man in the period of emotional calm will miss his ex very much. At this time, its natural for him to recover.
At the beginning, students wanted to meet with their predecessors very much. I firmly stopped them and put the center on self change and promotion. When they felt that the time was right, the students told me that the former promised to accompany her to the auto show, so they used this meeting to help students recover their predecessors.