Some people say that consanguinity is an indelible fetter. Others say that company is the longest confession. In life, is the blood relationship more important or the family relationship with many years worth cherishing?
Japanese director Shi zhiyuhe used the film to give his own answer.
>>>>>>If father can be chosen
In fact, the story in the movie is not so miserable as holding the wrong child in reality. On the contrary, after careful consideration, you can even feel a trace of time is still good.
Although the fact that holding the wrong child to exchange life is worth exaggerating, the tone of the story telling is slow and plain.
Many of them lived happily with their wives and sons. Their son, qingduo, was six years old and preparing for school.
But one day my wife received a call from qingduo birth hospital and was told that the baby was wrong! It was a bolt from the blue. Many of them and their wives couldnt believe it.
Under the arrangement of the hospital, many families met with their father, saimuxiong. Although the hospital repeatedly suggested that children should be exchanged as soon as possible, the two families decided to meet and familiarize their children first, then try to stay with each others families, and finally exchange after slowly adapting.
The story comes slowly in the long process of familiarity, stay and exchange. The first thing we can feel is two different families and two opposite fathers.
Many of these two families are rich middle class, while the jaimu family is a common and even some common class.
Father many handsome and gold, can be called excellent, bring his wife and children the material life without worry, but he is particularly strict with his son, which is shown at the beginning of the film: qingduo to attend the entrance interview, the teacher asked many think their children have any shortcomings, many said: the childs character is a little warm, even if the failure will not be unwilling.
Can see the plot behind we know that the child is lying, the busy father comes home very late every day, there is no time to take care of the family, let alone spend time with the child playing jacquard.
On the contrary, another father, zhaimu, is optimistic and easygoing by nature. He runs a small electrical appliance business. In order to make a living, his wife has to work in a convenience store.
Obviously, Ramadan cant provide rich material conditions for his wife and children, but it doesnt affect their family members love and affection. You will feel that this family is living a very smoky life, as if you saw your own life.
Zhaimu can cuddle with the children and make a lot of noise. He can repair the broken toys for the children. He can also huddle in a bathtub with the children to take a bath
The gap between the two families determines that the two fathers have formed a sharp contrast in their attitude towards their children.
We can see from the photos of the two families that many of them give people a sense of superiority, while saimuxiong and his wife are more willing to lean down and smile more naturally.
In the traditional oriental concept, it seems that consanguinity is the origin of kinship and the prerequisite for maintaining family relations. It is not difficult to understand that 100% of families will choose to replace their children in the traditional Chinese medicine hospital such as father and son.
Perhaps what zhiyuhe wants to tell us is that gene and blood can not block emotional input in the company of inseparable day and night.
When we realize that our children are looking at ourselves, we will know what is like a father or a son in that moment.
>>>>>>Fathers are jobs that no one can replace
It cant be denied that many of them also love their children, no matter for their own son or adopted son, but their love still stays in providing a good material basis, ignoring their inner feelings and aspirations, which also leads to the fact that both children are not close to him.
He is busy at work and often not at home. His adopted son is very clever in order to make his father happy, while his own son often looks out of the window in a daze.
At first, many people didnt think so. When zhaimu reminded him to spend more time with his children, he didnt even think it was meaningful to spend time with them. He still had a very important job to do. At this time, zhaimu said to him a sentence that lit up the whole film: father is also a job that no one can replace.
Its not hard to see that the father of zhaimu is more liked by the children. In the accumulation of years, he knows to sacrifice his time to accompany the children with his heart, and this love, this heart, the children will be keenly aware. The warm company of the father will eventually become the most shining light in the childrens heart, which is worth their lifetime to remember and repay.
Many fathers, on the other hand, look at their children with adults thoughts and eyes. They dont bend down to really enter the childrens inner world, nor feel the fragile and sensitive heart of children, which needs adults to take good care of with respect and love.
As the French writer morroya said, the tragic misunderstanding between parents and children at a high level is often caused by the fact that adults want to obtain the response and sentiment only adults have in young people.
As a father, we need to recognize the fact that the feelings of the father and the child are quite different. What the father loves is the child himself, and what the child loves is the memories of the father.
How do you become a father and a son? In your body, there is your fathers shadow, and in your childs body will also have your brand.
When many people send qingduo to zhaimus house, they think its the best result, but when they see qingduos self in the camera, they choke and cry
Dad works in the study, Dads back
A pair of barefoot soles,
At the other end of the foot, there is a faint face. Its dad
Father who works hard and sleeps on the sofa
Father sleeping in bed
In the tears, there are touching, sour, guilt and the fathers love.
So dads, dont use your standards and eyes to look at children, and dont always take advantage of their busy work and neglect their company. In the childs heart, what he really yearns for is that his father can always be around, so simple.
>>>>>>A qualified father can stand the test of time forever
According to the director Shi zhiyuhe, in the stage of script creation, he referred to the reportage of Oshio Ono, recording a number of baby holding incidents in Okinawa and other places during Japans high economic growth in the 1970s.
According to this data, many families would choose consanguinity when facing this problem, but two families in Okinawa made the opposite choice. They chose time - not to rush to exchange children, to give them enough time to adapt.
It is based on this real story that Shizhi Yuhe created like father like son.
Its true that the most interesting thing about this movie is time. As a mature man, all his life, he may be exploring how to become a qualified father, and how to interpret his sons identity while playing the role of father?
Fortunately, through the baptism of time, many people finally know how to be a father. He apologized to his adopted son, qingduo, and they hugged each other tightly. There is no denying that consanguinity has an impact on people, and the environment is not unimportant, but only a warm hug can melt strangers.
The fetters and emotions between father and son show in the quiet flowing time, just like the classic saying in Little Prince: its the time you spend on roses that makes your roses so important.
At the end of the film, there is an open ending, which doesnt tell us whether the last two families exchange successfully or not. But I believe that these two children, who are wrongly held, will learn the energy of life from their father no matter what family they live in, although their life path will change.
When can a father really become a father? From what moment can a father really hold up the title of father? Shizhi Yuhe raises this question, which seems simple but meaningful. Everyone will have an answer in his mind.
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