Usually, I always happily let my colleagues take his ride home.
Last Friday, he couldnt get his colleagues to the door because he was in a hurry to go home because of something at home.
The next day, when he went to the tea room, he heard the comments of his colleagues.
If you dont, you dont have to. You dont care if you put people on the road!
Thats too much. Ill say that I always pretend to be so enthusiastic.
It only takes three minutes to get to his house at that crossing.
Big left said with a wry smile.
Suddenly, its not worth it.
Im so tired to be enthusiastic all the time. I cant tell the true from the false
Its a good thing to have a warm-hearted heart, but sometimes we should learn to be cold.
Indifference is not selfishness, alienation is not escape.
Appropriate coldness is only the most powerful protection for oneself.
Know how to say no
Walking in the society, the most afraid to hear is that sentence:
Because its an acquaintance, it cant be refused;
Because its an acquaintance, you have to do your best.
Once a distant relative knew that I could write an article, so he came to me to help him write a speech.
How easy is it for you to write an article?
Anyway, you usually write it, just write it casually!
I cant refuse it because of my parents affection, so I have to help him write.
When he got it, he not only didnt say a word of thanks, but also said:
Then I put forward some requirements. This sentence should be provocative and that paragraph should be specific
Because of the face of relatives, I cant have a good attack either. I can only say:
The man was in a hurry and said:
If you dont want to help, just say it. Its not well written. Wont it delay my time?
Later, he complained among his relatives:
Later, he went to give a speech with the manuscript I wrote. Its said that the ranking was not bad.
It didnt take long for him to ask me for help again.
But face is actually a knife with reverse cutting edge.
Holding face will only hurt yourself more and more.
Acquaintances tied by human feelings are not real Acquaintances;
A friend who is cut off because he cannot help is not a true friend.
Man, dont embarrass yourself because of a relationship, and dont torture yourself because of a sentiment.
Sanmao once said:
If your reasons are right, dont be afraid to refuse others.
Because when a person asks, he has two answers in mind.
To give him any of these answers is to be expected.
So, what is there to worry about?
The refusal is the refusal, the indifference is the indifference.
In the face of those tough demands, say, No.
Refuse useless social intercourse
There is a saying:
Put on an extremely intimate attitude and pretend to be close to each other.
On reflection, this is the norm.
First meeting, no matter the relationship, first add a wechat;
Friends meet, whether they like it or not, lets go back to OK first
If not, it is out of group.
So crazy to expand their contacts, friends list, as if the number more can prove their existence.
However, a list is just a list.
How many people look at these friends after picking up their mobile phones, but cant say a greeting?
How many people, after sending out the message how are you doing recently, received a sentence are you?
If you dont know the number, you will become a friend;
Its not like saying hello to make friends.
Smile again brilliant, can see only on the black screen own reflection.
Its better to quit useless social intercourse from the beginning than to lose and be sad.
The enthusiasm is limited, barely maintain will only let oneself feel tired, it is better to leave it to one or two confidants.
Others, just be indifferent.
Be indifferent and free;
Be quiet and happy.
Dont overestimate emotion
There are two kinds of people in the world who are most vulnerable:
One is nostalgic;
There is nothing unchangeable, especially feelings.
There is no mistake in loving a person, but if you love too much, it is your own mistake.
Dont lose your pride, dont always compromise and carefully maintain a relationship.
The great time of life is not worth wasting your mind and youth.
Some people, only suitable to see Cheng, since do not love, then choose to let go.
There is no need to entangle, no need to retain, no need to wait to save enough disappointment, suffered all grievances before leaving.
When you arrive at the station, you have to get off the bus. In an empty position, someone will take the place of you.
Let go of the wrong time, the habitual dependence and all the unhappiness.
To treat the surrounding with a state of mind that is both flattering and insulting, not to owe others, not to aggrieve yourself;
Look at the world in a light and cloudless manner, be close to each other, love and hate at will.
Indifference is not indifference
Its not to separate yourself from others completely.
Its a light gentleman style.
Kevin Tsai, his old partner, make complaints about his distance from anyone.
But such a cold person is always said to be gentle.
Because Cai Kangyong, who never attends other peoples weddings and parties, always appears when his friends need comfort.
Cai Kangyongs comfort also has his unique coldness, keeping a distance but making people trust.
The colder he is, the more cherished his enthusiasm will be.
Its just that:
Cold eyes, cold ears, cold feelings, cold mind.
Because we know how to keep our independence, we will not be bound by the secular world.
For the rest of my life, I wish I could build a cold heart and see nothing in the world.
Author: a uncle, this article is a Monday, this book is original, this article is from WeChat official account: Monday book (ID:yer808). One book a week, never forget to recharge. Original title: for the rest of your life, I advise you to be a cold person. The image of this article is from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.