Yesterday, Hao Jingfang, the author of Beijing folding and the talented daughter of Tsinghua University, sent a circle of friends and an article saying that she had been crying for a long time because of two cases related to children.
I will do my best to continue to focus on child protection issues and strive to promote a little legal change. Only if we are brave can we change our childrens environment.
The day before yesterday, Miaos mother wrote a long article on Weibo about the event.
Among them, Mr. Yuan collected red envelopes, set up private extra-curricular classes, and Miao Miao was slapped by him.
Among them, Miao Miaos mother wept for her daughters memory before and after her death, which made YuYans mother feel the same and heartbroken.
Since the accident is still under investigation, its inconvenient to speculate about it.
At present, mummy Miao said that three points have been confirmedu2014u2014
First, Mr. Yuan once slapped Miao, as evidenced by the original chat records;
Second, Mr. Yuan illegally set up remedial classes for profit;
Third, the real names of several graduates testify that Mr. Yuan scolds and humiliates students.
A number of former students confirmed that Mr. Yuan often insulted his children, took off his pants and spanked them, poured tea water on his face; beat the students with books, exercise books, teaching sticks and triangle rulers; scolded the students for being coquettish and shameless. But the headmaster said the teacher was very professional and excellent
The employees of any profession are normally distributed, and most of them are ordinary residents.
But I really dont want to speak for the teachers becauseu2014u2014
In the relationship between teachers and students, teachers are the Party of absolute power, children belong to the Party of unconditional obedience, especially the children of primary school students and kindergartens, from psychological to physical are completely weak.
For any child who meets such rubbish as teacher yuan, the harm they suffer is irreversible.
It is prohibited by the State Education Commission to run classes without permission or beat students. This is the bottom line of a teachers behavior.
It is said that Changzhou is not a closed area. There are teachers who slap their children openly, and no one cares about it for 20 years. Whether the primary school has the responsibility to shirk.
Unfortunately, 12-year-old Miao will never come back.
Parents dont have to be consistent with society and teachers
Chen Yu, director of China Vocational Research Institute, Peking University, wrote a messageu2014u2014
When we used to be head of the family, we always wanted to be consistent with the society and teachers. Now it seems wrong. Let children feel that home is their last support and care.
This sentence really refers to the heart of sister Yu Yan.
When sister Yu Yan was young, most parents were the kind who always wanted to be consistent with their teachers.
He believes in strict teacher and makes excellent students. He will scold the children together with the teacher, and even say to the teacher, if the child is not obedient, it doesnt matter if he is beaten twice.
No parents dare to tell their children that if they can not listen to the teacher, the teacher is not necessarily right.
Zheng Yuanjies son studies in Beijing key primary school, and the teacher will scold the child as well: stupid, stupid, if you have any IQ problems, you cant catch up with Shi.
Now, make complaints about Zheng Yuanjies son Zheng Yaqi. Most of his family education hours make complaints about Tucao teachers and Tucao schools.
The childrens composition as like as two peas, the same thing happened in Zheng Yuanjies family.
The title of that composition is one of my most unforgettable things. Old Zheng wrote one for his son and failed.
After that, the nanny also helped write an article about helping grandma cross the road, which was regarded as a positive energy model by the teacher.
u25b2 Zheng Yuanjie is a rare parent who endows children with independent personality in the 1980s and 1990s
Yuyan is not encouraging parents to take their children against the education system, but we should let them know three things when they are youngu2014u2014
First: dont take authority seriously, dont take face seriously.
A teacher is a profession, a person who takes money to work, not so lofty and great, and his words are not necessarily the truth.
Whether its teachers, schools, or future leaders and units, are passers-by in your life.
People live for themselves, not for other peoples evaluation, let alone this other person is not important at all.
Second, we should learn how to serve the sun and violate the Yin.
Its a necessary skill to be good at resolving emotions by yourself in a world full of formalism.
Since the teacher asked you to write the positive energy, you should write the positive energy she wants. You should help grandma cross the road and write that the spirit of white bones does not suppress evil.
No matter what you are asked to do, you should have a good one first.
Smile on your face and MMP in your heart. If you understand this, you wont hurt yourself.
Third, tell the children not to be afraid of going out, its nothing to resist.
When they were little, their enlightenment reading was why fit in when you were born different?.
This set of picture books was published by Dr. suss in the early 20th century. The values it promoted have not changed in 100 years, and it has educated generations of children.
Now, we should also tell our children that there is nothing wrong with being a maverick and not afraid to be an outsider who dares to be different.
Last but not least, what Mr. Chen Yu saidu2014u2014
The thresholds for children and adults are different.
In the big class, once, she asked me timidly, Mom, do we have money? I thought I had a problem and asked her, whats wrong with baby?
As a result, sweet bean told me that there was a little boy in the class who often bullied her, such as robbing her. So once the boy passed her, she stretched out her feet and tripped him. Unexpectedly, the little boy fell down.
Its estimated that there is nothing wrong and no injury, because the teacher didnt contact me, but the teacher said to Doug, XX family has money, youre going to hurt others, and your family cant bear it.
Sweet bean is really scared. Ive been thinking about it. I cant eat it anymore. Do this.
I thought about it and replied, our family is so rich that we dont have to be afraid of such and such.. However, being rich doesnt necessarily mean that there is a reason. Its the reason that is most useful.
Then I hugged her and said, next time, dont trip other children, because the fall hurt each other, its still very bad, right?
Sweet beans nodded with tears in their heads. Say I know.
However, it has a great psychological shadow on her.
A few days later, she suddenly asked me, our family has money. Why dont we have a car?? XX has cars.
I asked her if she had tripped up again? She said no.
When I said these words, I was in tears. I knew that there were too many rich and powerful people in this big city. But, I told her: in fact, dont be afraid, at any time, mom and dad can protect you and your sister. Dad is good.
With the support of parents, children will not fall into a desperate situation, and will greatly reduce the probability of extreme events.
Every one of us is the builder of the system, and parents should not be counseled when they come forward.
Yuyan remembers Michelles mothers story.
Michelle Obama, born in poverty, is an outstanding woman who has achieved class leap.
She attributed her success to family education.
Michelles father is a plumber, and her mother is a housewife. The family is living in a tight living with relatives.
However, as an uneducated black woman, Michelles mother showed admirable bravery.
When Michelles mother heard her daughters complaint, she chimed in and said no.
The next day, however, mother went to school and lobbied for weeks.
At the insistence of Michelles mother, several children with good grades in the class were able to cut into the third grade.
Not only that, the quiet mother also denounced the teacher of the sheep class: you are not worthy of being a teacher, you should go to the grocery store to be a cashier.
Michelle later recalled, Mom will take my depression seriously. This little thing has changed my life.
Later, Michelle, like her mother, became a brave woman.
Unlike Michelles mother, I have experienced many cases in which parents still maintain the authority of teachers in front of their children after their children have been humiliated by teachers. They beat their children with an attitude of change when there is something and encourage when there is nothing, and even continue to ask their children to be obedient and listen to their teachers.
This will only lead to children no longer believe in their parents, think that no one can help themselves, and then fall into a helpless situation.
In December last year, Miao Miao was upset because he was slapped and humiliated in public by Mr. Yuan.
According to sister Yan, corporal punishment is strictly prohibited by the Education Committee.
If a teacher slaps a student, he should tell the school. If the school doesnt deal with it, he should continue to report it to the Education Committee.
No reason, no communication, no advice.
As for Miao Miaos death, the school was cold and evasive, the students were silent, and the whole classs parents held out their thumbs in the class group, which was shocking.
What a disgusting environment it is.
Sad to say, what Miaos parents regret most now is that when their children were beaten for the first time, they didnt fight resolutely and transferred their children to other schools.
Miao Miaos jump is heartbreaking, and his subsequent treatment is chilling.
To be honest, our society does not have a friendly environment for children, so it needs moreu2014u2014
First, parents become the solid backing of their children and stand with them unconditionally;
Second, parents form alliances, support each other, united front and say no to evil.
When you are a mother, look at Michelle. When you are a father, look like Zheng Yuanjie.
Every parent must know how to protect their children.
All pictures in this article are from the Internet