First of all, women have periodic fluctuations in hormones, namely menstruation. Every time at this time, womens mood will be very violent, disorderly temper, a little bit, especially before menstruation, known as premenstrual tension syndrome. It seems to be a gynaecological problem, but in fact it is synchronous with psychiatric problems. As we mentioned earlier, depression is a periodic physiological disease regulated by the central nervous system. Endocrine is also regulated by the central nervous system, and depression is a synchronous result, the roots are all in the central nervous system, there is a great correlation.
Secondly, women have some special periods, such as perinatal and menopause. In perinatal period, progesterone, prolactin and oxytocin change; in menopause, womens body has undergone dramatic changes, such as estrogen reduction, ovarian recession, etc. Because the emotional center is close to the endocrine center, the emotion is easily affected. Therefore, menstruation, perinatal period and menopause have become the three major susceptible periods of female depression.
Ms. Liu has outstanding appearance and ability, but her career and feelings are not smooth. Usually very close to her husband, but when it comes to menstruation, she is like a changed person. They quarreled when they didnt agree with each other, and even fought against their husbands. When her husband asked her what was the matter, she didnt say it. Later, Ms. Lius words became more and more unpleasant. Sometimes even her eighth generation of ancestors took them with her. Her husband couldnt stand it, so she chose to divorce.
After the divorce, Ms. Liu wanted to get out of the pain, so she devoted herself to her career. However, her relationship with her colleagues was not harmonious because of her uncertain mood and sensitivity. Finally, Ms. Liu was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, especially during the menstrual period. At this time, she is more vulnerable, more appealing and more eager to get help. When others dont know the situation, they think she is very picky and sensitive. In fact, she cant help but dare not tell the truth. Shes afraid that others think shes too hypocritical, so she becomes angry and resentful.
Many women have concerns like Lius, which has something to do with the current social environment. Women are required to be as strong and brave as men, but their own characteristics and advantages are ignored, so that they dare not express or even disagree with their own gender when they are weak. This is also an important cause of dysmenorrhea and menstrual depression in many women. In addition, mens lack of understanding and empathy for women also aggravates womens menstrual depression.
I believe everyone is familiar with postpartum depression. Postpartum depression is caused by physiological factors, such as maternal or family members who have experienced depression, their own personality and depression gene expression. There are also environmental factors, which I will share with you through a typical case.
Ms. Zhangs plan was Dink, but she got pregnant unexpectedly. Although she was not ready, she was forced to give birth to her child under the pressure of her family. In order to make Ms. Zhang take better care of her children, her husband decided to let her take her baby full-time at home, and also called her mother to help. One night, Ms. Zhang slipped the quilt over the childs face. Just as she was about to cover up, the husband who woke up found out and stopped her in time. Ms. Zhang, who had just returned to her senses, could not help but fight a cold war. Her husband accused her of being cruel, and her mother-in-law broke out her previously suppressed discontent. Ms. Zhang fell into a deep self reproach. Later, Ms. Zhang was diagnosed with postpartum depression.
Like Ms. Zhang, many women face a complex environment after childbirth. They are not ready for role transformation and worry that they cant be a good mother; they take baby full-time after childbirth, which is out of touch with the society and confused about the future; there are old people involved, living habits and parenting concepts are different, which is easy to breed conflicts; in a closed space, they are easy to drill their horns and repeatedly ponder: what can I do if Im not competent as a mother? What to do if the children are not well raised? Unable to find a solution, he began to think about how to kill the child: throw the child into the washing machine, throw the child from upstairs Some of them will commit suicide or self abuse. Some of them worry that they will take their children with them to commit suicide when they die, which will develop into extended suicide. This kind of news is also seen in newspapers.
Compared with the former two conditions, menopausal depression is less easily detected. After entering menopause, Ms. song always felt uncomfortable, accompanied by panic, insomnia, repeated medical treatment can not find out why. Her husband thought she had nothing to do with her, quarreled constantly, and finally divorced. Ms. songs way of seeking medical treatment didnt stop because of this. Later, she firmly believed that there was a heart problem and asked for a stent, but the hospital said it didnt need to be done at all. No way, my son forced her to the psychiatric clinic. Finally, Ms. song was diagnosed with depression.
In the face of depression, we can do a lot
Depression is not terrible. Whats terrible is that you dont understand it. With this understanding, we can take more initiative.
At the personal level, you can learn more about your gender, body and physiological characteristics, recognize your own characteristics and problems that may be faced in different periods, prepare in advance, explore your own resources and learn self-healing. During menstruation, pay attention to rest, work and rest, eat scientifically, keep healthy and relax. During the perinatal period, psychological adjustment should be done before and during pregnancy to learn the corresponding knowledge of parenting; after childbirth, more communication and exchange should be done with family members to actively seek help. In menopause, we should actively seek for new role orientation and enhance our sense of self-worth; strengthen communication between husband and wife and provide emotional support; enrich personal life and enhance social support.
At the same time, family support is also very important. In fact, a lot of people are also actively working hard to pay, but some practices not only fail to help, but worse.
Before Ms. song came to the psychiatry department, her son also thought about some ways to help her, let her run more, go for outings, and do something, so she wont be confused all day. As a result, Ms. song thought more. She thought that her son didnt care about herself at all, just wanted to simply and roughly send her away. She felt that she had been abandoned and had no hope for the future.
Others like to use their experience to encourage: what a big thing, dont take it to heart. I used to be much more difficult than you. Didnt I come here too? It seems to be encouragement, but in fact it is devaluation. The parties will feel that they are useless, so they cant walk through this barrier. His pain was not seen and his situation was not respected.
Clearly love, but caused a lot of harm. Why? Because I dont understand. Therefore, it is necessary to learn this knowledge, which can help us cultivate scientific and rational empathy, not only to understand ourselves, but also to help others. On this basis, mastering some basic principles and practices will achieve twice the result with half the effort.
You can get to know each others specific situation through some questions, when did you start to feel bad? - understand time; what do you think might be the cause of your depression? - explore the reasons; do you have a suicidal idea? When will it be available? Judgment: is there anything that makes you feel better? - how about self-regulation This form of inquiry can not only help us understand his condition, but also make him feel our concern.
In addition, many patients with depression are easy to receive psychological cues, so we can give them more positive psychological cues, such as making him laugh, laughing with him in the mirror, etc., to help him ease his mood. You can also cry with him to help him release his depression, such as listening to sad music, reading tragic literature, etc. When tears come out, emotions flow.
No matter what method, we should provide unconditional and stable support and seek professional help in time if necessary. These methods apply not only to women, but also to men. On the basis of self-healing, with the help of family and professionals, everyone can walk out of depression and embrace happiness.