When going out for dinner, my friend chatted to his mobile phone for a while, looked up and said with a smile. He was teasing a friend and said coquettish words. Looking at him trying his best to turn the topic back to the normal direction, he thought it was very fun.
Ha? Have fun what? Dont you feel disappointed? I asked.
Dont be disappointed, I think its fun. I like him, but I dont expect much. I dont care if he wants to be a friend. I also want to get together with him in the name of a friend when I have finished my work.
Will you be sad? He doesnt like you.
Not sad. Theres no feeling. My friend thought about it and replied.
I understand. I feel that my heart attack in recent years is just like this. I like a person, but I dont think he is very important.
When my own life balance is stable, the other sides passivity will not let me feel frustrated.
When you think the failure of love is only a small subject in your life, you must have had a good life.
My 24-year-old view of love is very different.
Looking back at the old age of being proud of being in love, we can tell all kinds of anecdotes. We can tear our faces at who we are today and who we are tomorrow. The romance in the small circle is so dense that we can even make up a gossip weekly When you are young, you have nothing on your shoulders, only the evening wind and butterflies. When you dont need to face the word survival, all you have to do is to make it.
A lot of things will tell you that in the process of peoples gradual maturity, there must be a link that understand that all things are just one part of life.
Why to follow people who dont love themselves very much, why to wait all night for news, or to figure out whether the news sent by the other party at three oclock in the morning is ambiguous, why to act on your own, give your heart freely but hope to be received ceremoniously by the other party.
At my age, people who really think they will be together can be together naturally. Whats left is very awkward. At most, as the material of emotional bloggers, or the conversation in front of friends, there is no more effect.
So its just two words. Why.
My friend asked me if I could understand the feeling of chatting is fun, but I dont care about it at all. I said that I can understand it. I dont need to take every relationship seriously. When it naturally develops to a certain stage, I can think about other annoying problems. When it is still a young child, it cant affect anything of me.
We need to live a good life, make the quality of life a priority, and by the way, wait for the feelings to grow naturally.
If you can go on, you will go on. If you die, you will die. Dont go to great pains to try to change the situation. Its important to take root in your own life, in your favorite city, to buy the brand you yearned for when you were a child, and to have your own safe and beautiful circle of friends. Love is just icing on the cake.
I now feel that feeling can be a part of my full life that occasionally shines.
Looking at the elite lawyer CP in who says I cant get married, I think their love is quite floating - they have their own houses and cars in Shanghai, and they have a successful career. The most worrying thing may be to make the already high professional title higher. This kind of love can be embedded in two peoples lives well. Because two people are very self consistent, love will not be too heavy, and will not always stumble, encounter embarrassing problems such as rent cut-off.
A good love is a peaceful connection with life, not a conflict everywhere - this is an evolutionary form of love.
There may be nothing wrong with abusing your heart when you are young. Its also a kind of life experience to break up, compound, single love and express love with excess energy.
But when I look back with an old heart, I will feel that I have made more plans for my life at that time. For example, start to try to invest, for example, do your own team well, for example, learn more about the job market.
After all, its a very vulgar person. The one who is placed in front of being loved is to hope that he can lead a good life.
When my life is very good, love can be easily integrated into it, not to destroy anything, but to do everything as a lubricant.
After a days work, its OK for someone to hug and chat, and make up for the loneliness of life with relaxed love. Its like watching fireworks in a high-rise building without getting close to being burned.
Im old and tired. I dont want to listen to complicated human stories, let alone experience. If I want to be mature enough to be in love with a peaceful life, everything else will make me feel tired.