In the age of independence, why do we need marriage

 In the age of independence, why do we need marriage

As a mother and a wife, I always pull out my mobile phone with itching heart, and my fingers are freely scratched in the sea of wechat and micro blog information when I am in the dead of night after working to coax my children and housework.

XX is suspected of derailment, but his wife walked into the hotel quickly without any response

XX couple divorced and took off the wedding ring

XXs first show after divorce: skinny and sleepless


I lay quietly on the bed, looking back at my husband who is simple and honest in his sleep, thinking: the chaos of the entertainment circle, I have no melon in the rain, I only want the marriage of ordinary people.

At the same time, I feel sad. In this era when everyone pursues independence and flowers and all things flow in an endless stream, is marriage our only choice?


Cant stand a step or two

My cousin gave me the most ridiculous reason for divorce in the past two years, which was called growing out of sync, which made my 10-year-old married housewife thoroughly and firmly smile: ha? Sync? Isnt marriage about learning from each other? Why keep in sync all the time? Do you practice immortality and alchemy?

Remember last years divorce of a big V in the Internet self media? The reason for the divorce between the big V and the frail fro is that they are not growing at the same time.

The big V said that she is a person who believes in pure love. Love is gone, so she wants a divorce.

She said that she once wanted to share some troubles with her husband, but slowly she didnt want to talk. She was too tired and couldnt get resonance

The wife is worth more than 100 million yuan, and the husband is a full-time father. Their growth is really not synchronized. In many peoples eyes, this is the biggest obstacle of marriage.

However, I still think its ghost talk.

After her husbands fame and wealth, she met a beautiful young girl. She felt that she had no common topic with her, so she wanted to be separated from her.

Therefore, he moved out the reason of growing out of sync, for fear that his wife would not understand, and he also intimately compared the couple to two people climbing the mountain together:

Decades on, I am the one who stands at the top of the mountain to see the magnificent scenery, and you are the one who always stops at the foot of the mountain. The two of us have different experiences and different growth rates, so tying two people who dont have the same language together with marriage is the harm to each other!

With such a set of words, the husband hurt his wifes heart, taught his daughter a marriage science course and got her daughters understanding for her affair.

At that time, I was young and ignorant, and I was convinced by such a strange brain circuit.

In the same way, the self media big V complained that he was under great pressure to collapse every day, but his husband was very Buddhist and didnt mind being a waste.

But did she ever think that if it wasnt for this man to unconditionally support her to start her own business, to accompany her to overcome her previous illness and heal her inner wounds, to follow her all the way from Shenzhen to Beijing, and to resign and bring her children at home, how could she have the ability and opportunity to earn all this?

In marriage,

Growth synchronization is a false concept, because marriage itself is to connect two people of different backgrounds and experiences with a contract.

The three views, habits, cognition, growth environment and job opportunities of the two people are not the same, and the growth rate in marriage is certainly not the same. The reason why it will become similar later must be that one or both sides make concessions and reach a balance point.


Sacrifice and sacrifice

In 2004, Li Na returned to play tennis, but she was so used to her freedom that she could no longer adapt to the training of the national team.

At this time, her lover Jiang Shan is willing to sacrifice her career to be her coach and accompany her in the battle.

Li Na is an emotional player. Jiang Shan is struggling to make her have fun in training. When practicing serving, he put the marker on the bottom line. As long as Li Na can hit it, he will give her a small gift.

Entering the international competition, Jiang Shan knows that Li Na needs a better coach if she wants to continue to improve. So he automatically let senior foreign teachers, concentrate on his wifes sparring and assistant.

In one competition, Li Na was furious with Jiang Shan in front of the worlds hundreds of millions of live viewers and drove him out of the competition. Few men can bear this kind of grievance, but Jiang Shan, who knows Li Na, said quietly: she is a world-class player, with too much pressure, just needs a channel to vent..

Now, the two heroes of the idol in the tennis world have turned back to ordinary couples. Jiang Shans decades of efforts and sacrifices to Li Na have made their feelings stronger and stronger. Li Na wrote affectionately in her autobiography play alone that: as long as Jiang Shan is around, I feel that I havent fallen to the bottom and will always have a chance to turn over..

Poison articles on the Internet all advocate that the divorce of rich and beautiful girls is not called divorce, but should be called return to single.

The implication is that as long as Yan has money and leaves this man, women will have more and better opportunities in the future. Marriage is just a passing experience.

No matter how limited a persons time and energy are, the hard work spent on a marriage is an immeasurable cost. Although women are independent and self-improvement in this era, the view of marriage is useless is definitely not worth advocating.

Because marriage is the strongest net in your life.

No one can guarantee that his life will always be smooth. One of the great benefits of marriage is that:

If your trough meets his peak, the other party can pull you; if both are in the bottleneck period, at least someone can cry with you and mourn together.

My family Mr. Wang has a famous saying: good husband, even if there is a quarrel, he will easily take the garbage downstairs.

Every time he said that, the anger that I accumulated in a few days would be like a deflated ball, whew and fly away.

Because he said it so beautifully that I couldnt have a fit.

In my family, not only do not want to throw garbage, do not want to answer the phone, do not want to eat food, do not want to wash clothes, do not want to drag the ground and do not want to take baby (occasionally do not want to take) All of them can be thrown to him, because I am very determined to know that when I am so bothered by trivial matters that I will collapse, there will always be such a person around me to hold the bottom for me.

In an interview, poet Li Tan said these words, which made me nod in agreement.

He said,

Although living in this era of dont believe in love and marriage, there are always times when you need someone to release your fragile side, and someone to support you when you are hard.