The reader of the letter is a full-time mother who resigned because of her pregnancy.
Originally, she had the same job as her husband, even her future was better than him, and her ability was better than her husband.
But, for the sake of her children, she quit her job and focused on taking them.
Now, five years later, she didnt go to work. In fact, she began to miss the feeling of working in the workplace.
That kind of career brings her a sense of achievement that children cant realize.
As a result, she went to work for a week, her two children coughed for a week, and her mother-in-law did not take her to see a doctor or take medicine.
This mother-in-law is just too busy to give her daughter-in-law a hand. She says she cant take her child to the hospital. She is always sick. There are a lot of reasons for her back ache.
She has to quit her job and continue to be a full-time mom.
The readers husband, for the sake of his family, is also busy leaving early and returning late, and has little time to bring his children.
As a full-time mother, the reader is under great pressure. She takes her children alone, and she also has to participate in kindergarten activities.
Even if you want to take your children out to play, you cant control the scene. You need to prepare your childrens clothes, food and toys, and keep a firm eye on your children to prevent them from being watched by bad people.
Children of this age, when you want to do housework, they are pestering you, and you make a fuss without watching TV.
All these efforts, if you can get the understanding and recognition of others, maybe, as a full-time mom, you can get a little comfort.
The most terrible thing is: many people think that she is very relaxed, but is to bring children at home.
They will never know how tired they are to do laundry and cooking, housework and how hard it is to deal with children.
It is the letter from this reader that makes me think about the value of full-time wife and full-time mother.
Because her contribution can not be quantified as a specific amount, but it is indispensable for this society, even the support of the rear area.
However, this is life, a topic that full-time mothers cant avoid. For the husband who works outside, for the children, and for the family to come back, they have a hot meal.
In her life, my mother didnt enter the workplace to work formally, but in her life, she worked in the kitchen. From spring to winter, there are vegetables and meat for our stomachs.
Until I graduated from college, I entered the workplace, I asked my mother, why not choose a job?
Mom said, you are still young and need to be taken care of. Moreover, your fathers monthly earnings are handed over to me. We agreed that if he makes money to support his family, I will take care of the children.
Between mothers words, there is no survival of the two roles of full-time wife and full-time mother, but a trace of contentment.
Maybe its because dad gave her enough trust. Dad took care of all the money he earned. Every night when he didnt have to work overtime, Dad would go home early and buy some meat to eat together.
They recognize each others efforts and think its just different roles.
Time goes by and by, and Im old enough to start my own business, and Ive given birth to a new life.
After discussing with my husband, we made a choice. I worked as a full-time mom for several years, and he tried to make money.
Because its a voluntary choice, and my husband is grateful that Im willing to work for my family, I naturally have less complaints.
What do you say you dont make money? You only spend money. What do you say you get higher education? Youre not a full-time mom yet.
I just want to ask: do you take the baby for me? Or do you pay me to have someone bring it?
I dont think full-time mom is disgraceful. Its also a job. Full time mom is not so easy to start, even more difficult than work, because most of the progress in work is traceable, only the child is an unpredictable creature, and her mood changes are very rich.
In order to better bring good children, I constantly urge myself to learn more knowledge of parenting and constantly improve myself.
There are also information about the outside world, so its not really because they take their children away from the world and derail the world.
Besides, my husbands business failed before and he was in debt. The familys economy was very tense and he couldnt make ends meet.
In order to live, he started from a low position and lowered his attitude. As long as he could make money, he tried.
He ran for rent, take out, express delivery and so on. Everything was done. We didnt officially plan to have a child until he paid off the debt.
Today, he has done well in a company. He is already a department manager, who can stand on his own and earn a considerable amount of money.
He always talks to me about wife, youve suffered, you can only take care of your children at home for the time being, and he feels guilty. He knows that I have to take care of the whole family and take care of my childrens housework, which costs a lot of physical and mental energy. Its not easy for me to spend years and months.
When you have money, live a looser life. When you dont have money, live a tighter life. Its just as usual. Its better to be yourself than to be sour.
Choose what you want, accept the result of your choice, and be responsible for every choice. This is our ordinary life.
After several years of marriage, I have come to a conclusion:
If a man can make his woman feel at ease as a full-time wife, then he must be a very excellent person.
When his wife receives the feedback of his love, she will enjoy the familys efforts and have less resentment.
There is a saying that is the best: since you come to spend your life with this person, you should keep the love and enthusiasm of life and make every day hot.
I hope that every woman who chooses to be a full-time wife can get the understanding and support of her husband, and the marriage relationship can not be broken.
Author: tease, focus on the study of sexual marriage.
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