A sense of proportionality is a sign of mature love.
In interpersonal communication, we should know how to keep the necessary distance between people.
This is especially necessary between heterosexual friends.
Otherwise, crossing the boundary is not good for oneself, the other half or even the whole family.
Between the opposite sex, no matter how good the relationship is or how deep the friendship is, you cant contact each other in this way.
No matter how good the relationship is,
Dont get involved in each others feelings.
She said that she had recently helped a good friend, but now she is not a person inside and outside.
Not only the marriage of a good friend is broken, but also the relationship between himself and his friend is broken.
It turns out that Xiao Li, a very close friend of the opposite sex, stayed at home with his wife during the epidemic, always quarreling about trifles.
Sometimes, when she heard Xiao Lis one-sided speech, she would make complaints about her wife.
She helped and even gave advice all the way, but now Xiao Li is divorced.
When Xiao Li in grief told her the news, he also said to her:
Well never get in touch again.
She had a black question mark on her face:
What did I do wrong?
Its good for them too. I didnt know it would end like this!
Of course, her biggest mistake is to interfere in other peoples family affairs.
Emotion is the most indescribable thing.
In many cases, both parties may not be able to distinguish the right from the wrong, others do not know the whole picture, but also can not distinguish the right from the wrong.
Even in the name of be good for him, there is no qualification to mix things between husband and wife.
There is a good saying:
Love is selfish, and no one else is allowed to participate.
No matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex is, it is necessary to make a clear distinction between what can be involved and what can not be involved in any way.
Especially the husband and wife relationship, marriage and life of the other party, no matter how good the relationship is, do not interfere casually.
Dont say anything ambiguous.
Every relationship, more or less, has some sensitive rules..
This is especially true between the opposite sex. No matter how strong the feelings are, you cant casually say ambiguous words.
In the emotional program gold medal mediation, such a couple once appeared.
What made her more angry was that in her husbands view:
Its normal to send 5201314 calls to other women. Baby, honey, I miss you and so on.
Anyway, we know each other very well. It doesnt matter.
Because the husband did it again and again, and the wife was hit and hurt, she said desperately:
He really doesnt care how I feel.
Hes still like that. I cant help it anyway.
It is speechless that the husband not only didnt realize his mistake, but also justified it:
Who doesnt have a heterosexual friend?
I admit to sending those ambiguous messages, but I think its nothing, quite normal.
She didnt do anything substantive. She was a little sensitive.
This remark, just listen to, let the popularity do not hit a place.
So the wife, who no longer wants to bear it, says that she wants a divorce.
Married couples are not afraid of heterosexual friends.
Im afraid that in the name of a good relationship, Ill be ambiguous with each other, say what I shouldnt say and do what I shouldnt do.
Such indecision is a kind of injury to anyone.
The love of long flowing water needs more than the blind faith.
But I have discretion, you have the bottom line, know what can be said to others, what can not be said except for the other half, even if the relationship is no better.
Love is selfish, marriage is possessive.
Dont cross the border.
When did you suddenly die of marriage?
A netizen said such a thing.
Once, when she was on a business trip, one of her husbands heterosexual friends came to visit their city.
Knowing this, she knew that their marriage was going to be over.
I am not at home, my husband and another woman live in the same room, also two nights.
Ive read this passage and I agree with it
But within the intersection, thats where you overlap.
Married family, and heterosexual friends go too close, get along with no boundary, is a disaster.
Some people are puzzled. Its no harm to use the same straw. But why is it surrounded by netizens?
The reason is simple:
But for married people, this is a kind of cross-border behavior without considering their partners feelings and sense of discretion.
Huang Lei is such a person.
He once said in an interview that he didnt have a real girlfriend, and he wasnt his boyfriend.
In fact, it has a lot to do with his ability to get along well with the opposite sex, never overstepping boundaries and moments.
With a family, no matter how good the relationship with friends of the opposite sex is, you can keep a distance.
Not to do intimate acts, not to do cross-border things, is the best protection for yourself, your partner, and your family.
No matter how good the heterosexual relationship is, keep a distance.
I used to think that the better the relationship, the more intimate.
The more we cherish our fate and family, the more we cant get close to friends of the opposite sex.
Keep the distance and grasp the balance between the light and the thick.
Its the most decent way to communicate with everyone.
Author: Kai Wan, the book of the first official account: ID:kawa01, which makes millions of women see the beautiful. Please contact kava wechat for reprint. The image of this article is from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.