Hello, teacher. I have a problem that bothers me deeply, that is, I always lie, many of which are unconscious and purposeless. Many lies cant bring me any benefits. Once I talk with people, I will be nervous, my brain will not keep up with the rhythm, and I often fail to express my meaning, and I will also say lies. What psychology is this?
Answer: lying itself is a defense against the inner real needs. When lying has become a habit of unconsciousness, it strengthens this defense. At this time, people cant distinguish the real self needs. That is to say, the motive and purpose of lying are deeply buried in the subconscious. You feel that you have formed the habit of lying unconsciously, and we suggest that you accept the help of psychoanalysis.
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