She shared her personal experience on a flight. Because of her different physical condition, Sullivan always used her conversational talent on the plane to ask the stewardess to help her pack. In order to avoid walking on the plane, she tried not to eat on the plane every time.
However, nature sometimes has its laws. On one occasion, Sullivan went to the front of the plane, chatted with a flight attendant, and then said to the latter, Can you open the toilet door for me? I cant reach the lock.
However, when Sullivan went to the toilet, the door suddenly snapped open. A gentleman stood there with a frightened face, and when she came out, she found that the man was sitting opposite him. His embarrassment filled the whole space instantly. But then Sullivan turned to the gentleman and said softly, Will you remember this more than I do?
After opening the conversation box, they talked from family, sports, work, etc. to the landing of the plane. Just before the plane landed, the gentleman said to her, Michelle, I found someone put your bag on it. May I take it down for you? Sullivan then responded happily, Of course, thank you. Then say goodbye and bless each other.
Sullivan recalled: The most important thing on that day was that the man would not leave in an embarrassing feeling or an embarrassing experience. He wont forget, nor will I, but I think he remembers more about our chat content than our different views.
When she took an international flight, she also encountered greater challenges, and still used her talent of conversation to solve them. For example, she chatted with the staff and asked each others culture in a friendly way. When she found that there was no passage from the waiting room to the plane, she naturally said to the staff: you need to help me not only lift my seat, but also climb the steps of the cabin.
When Sullivan finally got on the plane, the staff patted her on the back and sent her best wishes.
So Sullivan tells an important lesson she learned from life: to seek help. She said that without family, friends, colleagues and so many strangers, there would be no oneself today. Its important that you and others have a willingness to help each other. Seeking help is courage, not weakness.
On the contrary, in the process of educating children, is there a missing link called Encouraging children to seek help?
Admittedly, every child should develop the good quality of independence from an early age. However, independence does not seek help from others. As far as the social attributes of human beings are concerned, we are all the products of various social relations and are doomed to exist independently from others.
Therefore, as parents, we should consciously balance the proportion of the two in the process of childrens growth and education.
For children, seeking help at the right time is not only a shortcoming, but also an indispensable ability as independence.
Secondly, the purpose of childrens help-seeking is to solve or complete this matter. In the process, they will have to form clear logic and express it to each other completely and accurately. Of course, as for how to break the ice and take the first step of communication with people, it is an essential step.
Finally, what surrounds successful help-seeking and invisible is the trust relationship established between the help-seeker and the aid-giver. This not only requires the helpers to give full play to their communication and coordination ability, but also requires them to show great patience, enter other peoples world, gain trust from each other, and ultimately strengthen their ability to recognize others and the world.
After understanding that help-seeking is also an important ability that needs to be grasped from the doll, how can parents put it into practice?
1. Change your mind, understand your child and ask for help is not necessarily a sign of weakness. Only when cognitive and conceptual changes occur can action change be further induced.
3. Specific analysis of specific issues, in the face of different situations, to provide children with a variety of suggestions, such as ice-breaking skills in the process of communication (please look back at Sullivans story), logical thinking and oral expression skills.
Finally, dont forget to seize the opportunity to sum up afterwards, lead the children to review the process of asking for help, and educate them to know how to put themselves in other peoples shoes, and not forget to help others when they need help, so as to cultivate their childrens empathy.
In fact, there are two ways in which a person can evolve: self-help and help-seeking. Through self-help, we can gain the ability to grow inward, constantly enrich and improve ourselves; learn to ask for help, get the secret script of growing outward, and establish a solid trust network. Only by laying equal stress on both inside and outside can we get through ourselves, others and acquire nutrients and abilities to move to a new height.
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