First, worry about the other sides change of heart
The love between men and women is different, women will gradually rise in favor, difficult to extricate themselves from each other, on the contrary, their love may be a straight line down. So, women will worry about the same thing, that is, after you get married, you will be as good to me as when you are in love.
More than one friend complained: When he was in love, he was meticulous and tender to me, but after marriage, he seemed to have changed into a person who was indifferent to me, did not respond to messages, often lost his temper and was violent. He did not seem to love me anymore.
Even so, in real life, there are still many men who end up with women after marriage. For example, a good man, Huang Lei, has always regarded his wife as a lover rather than a family member. No matter how long he has loved his wife, he has always loved her.
Marriage is the experience of countless trials, difficulties can walk together, you do not go to practice, fear of difficulties, choose to avoid, you lose a chance to get happiness.
2. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the most worrying topics for women. After all, after marriage, if the other party is filial, they should live with their mother-in-law, then the contradiction will intensify. But the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not the only reason to avoid marriage.
The contradiction between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law depends on whether a man can assume the role of husband. His attitude is very important. Many relationships are not harmonious, because women can not get the respect and protection they deserve.
Therefore, it is particularly important to have emotional intelligence in dealing with relationships, which is an unavoidable problem in marriage management and a compulsory course.
3. Fear of being abandoned and having nothing
Career, for women, is not the amount of salary, but you have a self-confidence. Friends are the only ones who tell you when you are hurt. Once you own these two things, you wont end up with nothing.
I remember that when my cousin was just married, my cousins husband promised her that you would take care of the beautiful children at home. I earned money outside to support my family. Because the cousins husbands family is very rich, so she simply gave up her career and took care of the children at home. After all, she gave birth to a twin, busy at home every day, and did not have a party with friends at all.
However, the reality is so cruel, and eventually my cousin exchanged a sentence: You eat my money, with my money, what qualifications do you have to govern me? In other words, my brother-in-laws derailment will come to an end.
Therefore, women should understand that marriage is only a way of life, not an excuse for you to escape from life. The ability to be economically and spiritually independent is essential.
Understand that womens everything should not be attached to men, but from your own efforts and struggle. Marriage has a lot of disadvantages, but it also has a good side. When you escape marriage, dont you have to bear a persons future loneliness?
Therefore, avoidance is not your choice. Face is the only way to solve the problem.
In fact, women can also get a new round of growth in marriage. There is a husband who supports you. Many examples tell us that after middle age, many women gradually develop their abilities. Learning from marriage has transformed oneself into a brand new life.