When in love, women are the main examiners, men are the examinees. They always encounter problems that women keep throwing away. Whether the solution is appropriate and whether the response is timely requires great courage and wisdom.
In a letter to Ming Yiyue, Mr. Lin, who signed A Nan, said, Im 32 years old. I probably wont say too much sweet words. The conditions are normal. Theres only a house with a loan. So Ive been criticized by a woman for not getting married. I have talked about a 30-year-old girlfriend this year. It feels good in all respects, but I didnt expect that when it comes to marriage, she will talk about getting married. More than once, she told me that her salary will be saved by herself. My salary must bear family expenses and mortgages. Many times, its not a joke. But I can get less than 5,000 a month. After I can afford the whole family expenses, theres no money left. Does she need to pay nothing after she marries me?
As a man, what does a man think when his girlfriend always reminds you that after my salary is saved, you are responsible for the mortgage and living expenses?
First of all, the man who heard this sentence, the first question in his heart is: Does she really love me?
So, whats on the mind of the woman who said that?
Coincidentally, another letter that Mingyi received also said the same question. The questioner was a woman. Miss Xu, 29, came from Qingdao. She said in her letter, My boyfriend chased me for three years. He had a poor condition and earned less than I did. Fortunately, he bought a house on loan last year. This year, he also talked about marriage. I have no other requirements, as long as he is responsible for the mortgage and living on his own. Ill take care of it. But when I said that to him, he was a little unhappy. I really felt funny. Why not? The house is written in his name. Does he want me to come if he doesnt pay the mortgage? I dont need much for living expenses, just 3,000 a month. Isnt it my familys expense to cook and clean?
Obviously, for a woman, the reason why she put forward my salary is saved, you are responsible for the mortgage and living expenses is that she has an account in her mind.
No matter who pays the mortgage, who is born with the living expenses, when living together, the woman also pays. At least, she is willing to accept the fact that the house does not belong to me with the mortgage. In womens view, this is a sacrifice and accomplishment in itself.
In the course of love, the thinking of men and women will never synchronize.
Mingyi believes that when a man decides more than once that women are too realistic at the moment, he should also ask himself, What kind of life can you bring to women?
When she is not capable enough, please allow a woman to have a little capriciousness and selfishness. She does not love, but has made concessions to love.